You are longtime friends with her and if you had the best intentions of protecting her, and simply informing her, then you did nothing wrong.
He should not threaten you. He sees you as a threat. If he threatens you again, get others involved to help keep you safe.
Lovers have an intense pull, but they are often short-lived compared to other relationships (especially when young.) You've told her what you witnessed and now it's up to her. She is choosing to be with him. If it becomes too much of a problem for you to maintain your friendship with her at the same time, you could choose to back off (how long have they been together?), but if you feel used and abused, you don't have to stick around, or even give that space and wait. It's up to you, and how important she is to you. Silence was not the answer here. You made a judgment call, and nothing wrong with it. She's probably in love, or in lust, or whatever it is, and not thinking straight, logically. If she continues, this could end your friendship, but that would be on her, not your conscience.
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i mean, your "friend" is a fucking moron to stay with a dude who cheats on her. so yeah, moron gonna moron and choose the man over you. move the fuck on.
The best thing to do at this point is to take her advice. If something happens in the long run as a result of it, that is on HER, and your question of if she is a good friend is answered. But you do have the option at this point of going to the Police, since your hard evidence of his behavior is in black and white. So you have the option of taking HER advice and the option of contacting the authorities. At this point in time, the choice is entirely up to you. But I think we both know what decision is the best. 😉
Love is deaf, dumb, blind, and smell deaf. Nobody wants to be told that their partner is cheating and the usuall reaction is to shoot the messenger. Most people insist in making their own mistakes and will not change what they are doing (or who they are doing) until they make that decision for their self.
What you did was not morally wrong, if your intention was to help her and not simply rub her face in her bad choice. But it was a foolish thing to do, because the result was SO predictable.
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I would have forwarded his threatening message to her. by the way threatening violence is a crime. You might forward it to the police as well.
I agree, with this piece of advice
Why don't people mind their own business?
Yep, it sounds like you lost your"So"called best friend
You can grovel or move on with your lifeYou did what you could, it's on her if that's what she likes.
If he’s cheated on her twice already and she stayed then you probably should’ve minded your business. Obviously cheating isn’t a deal breaker for her.
Tell your male friends, dad, brothers, to tell him not to threaten girls. If I was your man I'd go over and give that piece of shit a tune up
Yeah lol I don’t get involved in peoples drama
should’ve screenshotted & sent it to her anonymouslyGood job your just being honest
forget them both you are better off out of it?
You did good
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