I feel disheartened Did I do the right thing?

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I told my friend her boyfriend was on tinder even though we was not friends I thought she had a right to know as he was messing her about previously. The next day her boyfriend sends me a message on social media saying mind your fucking business before I cause trouble for you and your family also before I knock on your door. I then rang him he didn’t answer I rang him twice no answer so replied saying ‘lol’ he replies saying I don’t entertain stupid people that’s why I’m not answering blah blah blah. I just ignored the message as if he really wanted to he would just have answered if he was the badman he makes out to be. She was my friend for such a long time and even tho I told her when we was not talking I sent her a message saying saw you told him what I told you. She goes ignore him. I didn’t reply to her message also as I thought to myself wtf but is it me or has she chosen a man over her childhood friend? Considering he cheated on her twice previously. I feel really disheartened by it all.. was she really a friend all this time or

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

You are longtime friends with her and if you had the best intentions of protecting her, and simply informing her, then you did nothing wrong.
He should not threaten you. He sees you as a threat. If he threatens you again, get others involved to help keep you safe.
Lovers have an intense pull, but they are often short-lived compared to other relationships (especially when young.) You've told her what you witnessed and now it's up to her. She is choosing to be with him. If it becomes too much of a problem for you to maintain your friendship with her at the same time, you could choose to back off (how long have they been together?), but if you feel used and abused, you don't have to stick around, or even give that space and wait. It's up to you, and how important she is to you. Silence was not the answer here. You made a judgment call, and nothing wrong with it. She's probably in love, or in lust, or whatever it is, and not thinking straight, logically. If she continues, this could end your friendship, but that would be on her, not your conscience.

SnakeBoop · Accepted Answer

i mean, your "friend" is a fucking moron to stay with a dude who cheats on her. so yeah, moron gonna moron and choose the man over you. move the fuck on.

Interstate · Accepted Answer

The best thing to do at this point is to take her advice. If something happens in the long run as a result of it, that is on HER, and your question of if she is a good friend is answered. But you do have the option at this point of going to the Police, since your hard evidence of his behavior is in black and white. So you have the option of taking HER advice and the option of contacting the authorities. At this point in time, the choice is entirely up to you. But I think we both know what decision is the best. 😉

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Love is deaf, dumb, blind, and smell deaf. Nobody wants to be told that their partner is cheating and the usuall reaction is to shoot the messenger. Most people insist in making their own mistakes and will not change what they are doing (or who they are doing) until they make that decision for their self.

What you did was not morally wrong, if your intention was to help her and not simply rub her face in her bad choice. But it was a foolish thing to do, because the result was SO predictable.

Pink2000 · Answer

If he’s cheated on her twice already and she stayed then you probably should’ve minded your business. Obviously cheating isn’t a deal breaker for her.

slatyb · Answer

I would have forwarded his threatening message to her. by the way threatening violence is a crime. You might forward it to the police as well.

Staximus · Answer

Tell your male friends, dad, brothers, to tell him not to threaten girls. If I was your man I'd go over and give that piece of shit a tune up

bgreek · Answer

I agree, with this piece of advice Why don't people mind their own business? Yep, it sounds like you lost your"So"called best friend You can grovel or move on with your life

JayLiche · Answer

Yeah lol I don’t get involved in peoples drama  should’ve screenshotted & sent it to her anonymously

RHK36 · Answer

You did what you could, it's on her if that's what she likes.

boobliker · Answer

forget them both you are better off out of it?

PeterSmith1983 · Answer

Good job your just being honest

Iron_Man · Answer

You did good

I feel disheartened Did I do the right thing?

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