I feel disheartened Did I do the right thing?

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I told my friend her boyfriend was on tinder even though we was not friends I thought she had a right to know as he was messing her about previously. The next day her boyfriend sends me a message on social media saying mind your fucking business before I cause trouble for you and your family also before I knock on your door. I then rang him he didn’t answer I rang him twice no answer so replied saying ‘lol’ he replies saying I don’t entertain stupid people that’s why I’m not answering blah blah blah. I just ignored the message as if he really wanted to he would just have answered if he was the badman he makes out to be. She was my friend for such a long time and even tho I told her when we was not talking I sent her a message saying saw you told him what I told you. She goes ignore him. I didn’t reply to her message also as I thought to myself wtf but is it me or has she chosen a man over her childhood friend? Considering he cheated on her twice previously. I feel really disheartened by it all.. was she really a friend all this time or

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AmandaYVR | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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You are longtime friends with her and if you had the best intentions of protecting her, and simply informing her, then you did nothing wrong.
He should not threaten you. He sees you as a threat. If he threatens you again, get others involved to help keep you safe.
Lovers have an intense pull, but they are often short-lived compared to other relationships (especially when young.) You've told her what you witnessed and now it's up to her. She is choosing to be with him. If it becomes too much of a problem for you to maintain your friendship with her at the same time, you could choose to back off (how long have they been together?), but if you feel used and abused, you don't have to stick around, or even give that space and wait. It's up to you, and how important she is to you. Silence was not the answer here. You made a judgment call, and nothing wrong with it. She's probably in love, or in lust, or whatever it is, and not thinking straight, logically. If she continues, this could end your friendship, but that would be on her, not your conscience.

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Krystal23

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Tbh with you we wasn’t talking to each other at the time And what it was she cooking for him and putting it on Snapchat doing wifey stuff. And he was doing that we was bestfriends for like 10 years so it only felt right tbh. Even tho we was not on talking terms I still did the right thing in my heart. She can get used and abused now as I don’t care as I won’t be friends with her again in this life x I really appreciate your advice xx

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Krystal23

Tbh with you we wasn’t talking to each other at the time And what it was she cooking for him and putting it on Snapchat doing wifey stuff. And he was doing that we was bestfriends for like 10 years so it only felt right tbh. Even tho we was not on talking terms I still did the right thing in my heart. She can get used and abused now as I don’t care as I won’t be friends with her again in this life x I really appreciate your advice xx

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SnakeBoop | 548 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

i mean, your "friend" is a fucking moron to stay with a dude who cheats on her. so yeah, moron gonna moron and choose the man over you. move the fuck on.

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eights

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I don’t wanna be that guy, but he might not have cheated on her and could of potentially deleted the app without deleting his account, if that’s the explanation explained than I can see why she’s leaning towards he s/o. We don’t know the inside story so we can’t be quick to assume.
eights

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I just read back what I sent and the grammar is awful, I’m sorry
Krystal23

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@eights girl I love your reply hahaha! So true!

@eights she told him to delete the app and the next morning she woke up it was still there so it’s a bit suspicious lol
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eights

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In that regards, yeah what a fkn idiot also it’s different to be called “girl” never happened to me before
Krystal23

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@eights so sorry I was meant to that the girl that replied to the message 😂 and then yours separate. What I’m annoyed at is him threatning me like wtf but when I ring he don’t answer lol
Aurora1010

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Agreed, let her do what she wants and if she's attracted to asshole personalities

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eights

I don’t wanna be that guy, but he might not have cheated on her and could of potentially deleted the app without deleting his account, if that’s the explanation explained than I can see why she’s leaning towards he s/o. We don’t know the inside story so we can’t be quick to assume.

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eights

I just read back what I sent and the grammar is awful, I’m sorry

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Krystal23

@eights girl I love your reply hahaha! So true!

@eights she told him to delete the app and the next morning she woke up it was still there so it’s a bit suspicious lol

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eights

In that regards, yeah what a fkn idiot also it’s different to be called “girl” never happened to me before

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Krystal23

@eights so sorry I was meant to that the girl that replied to the message 😂 and then yours separate. What I’m annoyed at is him threatning me like wtf but when I ring he don’t answer lol

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Aurora1010

Agreed, let her do what she wants and if she's attracted to asshole personalities

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Interstate | 411 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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The best thing to do at this point is to take her advice. If something happens in the long run as a result of it, that is on HER, and your question of if she is a good friend is answered. But you do have the option at this point of going to the Police, since your hard evidence of his behavior is in black and white. So you have the option of taking HER advice and the option of contacting the authorities. At this point in time, the choice is entirely up to you. But I think we both know what decision is the best. 😉

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Krystal23

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Thank you!!! X

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Krystal23

Thank you!!! X

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OlderAndWiser | 8.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Love is deaf, dumb, blind, and smell deaf. Nobody wants to be told that their partner is cheating and the usuall reaction is to shoot the messenger. Most people insist in making their own mistakes and will not change what they are doing (or who they are doing) until they make that decision for their self.

What you did was not morally wrong, if your intention was to help her and not simply rub her face in her bad choice. But it was a foolish thing to do, because the result was SO predictable.

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Krystal23

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True tbh what it was she cooking for him and putting it on Snapchat doing wifey stuff. And he was doing that we was bestfriends for like 10 years so it only felt right tbh
My intentions were 100% clean
OlderAndWiser

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Experience can be a very efficient teacher!

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Krystal23

True tbh what it was she cooking for him and putting it on Snapchat doing wifey stuff. And he was doing that we was bestfriends for like 10 years so it only felt right tbh
My intentions were 100% clean

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OlderAndWiser

Experience can be a very efficient teacher!

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Pink2000 | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

If he’s cheated on her twice already and she stayed then you probably should’ve minded your business. Obviously cheating isn’t a deal breaker for her.

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Krystal23

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True tbh what it was she cooking for him and putting it on Snapchat doing wifey stuff. And he was doing that we was bestfriends for like 10 years so it only felt right tbh

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Krystal23

True tbh what it was she cooking for him and putting it on Snapchat doing wifey stuff. And he was doing that we was bestfriends for like 10 years so it only felt right tbh

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slatyb | 7.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I would have forwarded his threatening message to her. by the way threatening violence is a crime. You might forward it to the police as well.

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Staximus | 146 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Tell your male friends, dad, brothers, to tell him not to threaten girls. If I was your man I'd go over and give that piece of shit a tune up

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Krystal23

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Haha I don’t have a man but I know for sure if I did he would be down there x

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Krystal23

Haha I don’t have a man but I know for sure if I did he would be down there x

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bgreek | 72 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I agree, with this piece of advice
Why don't people mind their own business?
Yep, it sounds like you lost your"So"called best friend
You can grovel or move on with your life

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JayLiche | 438 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Yeah lol I don’t get involved in peoples drama
should’ve screenshotted & sent it to her anonymously

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Krystal23

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True tbh what it was she cooking for him and putting it on Snapchat doing wifey stuff. And he was doing that we was bestfriends for like 10 years so it only felt right tbh
JayLiche

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Yeah when it comes to peoples love life
They even go agains their own parents..

They guy harry or whatever in the Uk Left his parents for his girl lol

Nobody else matters in that area even if you’re doing the right thing
JayLiche

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Sorry for all the spelling mistakes I typed too fast
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Krystal23

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That’s so true! Oh well at least I ain’t with a cheater

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Krystal23

True tbh what it was she cooking for him and putting it on Snapchat doing wifey stuff. And he was doing that we was bestfriends for like 10 years so it only felt right tbh

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JayLiche

Yeah when it comes to peoples love life
They even go agains their own parents..

They guy harry or whatever in the Uk Left his parents for his girl lol

Nobody else matters in that area even if you’re doing the right thing

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JayLiche

Sorry for all the spelling mistakes I typed too fast

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Krystal23

That’s so true! Oh well at least I ain’t with a cheater

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RHK36 | 831 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

You did what you could, it's on her if that's what she likes.

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boobliker | 259 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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forget them both you are better off out of it?

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Krystal23

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I am true she was just my friend for a long time
boobliker

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well she told him so she is his now be a real friend be there if she drops his she going to need one be cool for now! yes
Krystal23

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Well tbh with you when someone threatens my family I will never be cool with them in my life even when I die little
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boobliker

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you and your friend started it so call a cop on him it will get worse if you do that.

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Krystal23

I am true she was just my friend for a long time

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boobliker

well she told him so she is his now be a real friend be there if she drops his she going to need one be cool for now! yes

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Krystal23

Well tbh with you when someone threatens my family I will never be cool with them in my life even when I die little

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boobliker

you and your friend started it so call a cop on him it will get worse if you do that.

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PeterSmith1983 | 234 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Good job your just being honest

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Iron_Man | 13.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

You did good

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I feel disheartened Did I do the right thing?

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