There are quite a few but I’d just list some of the extreme ones. One guy invited me for a dinner date few years back. I agreed, but for some reasons a night before that I didn’t feel good about this dude. I texted him saying I couldn’t make it, and he insisted to know why. I just said I have something urgent to do. He was fine that night till the next morning he spammed me with explicit picture messages, like now we can call it meme. Those pictures were like women getting raped and abused. I didn’t respond because he didn’t say a word, then he just kept sending them and one time he called me by 3 am in the morning. I immediately blocked him everywhere including his social media. Another dude was a guy friend of mine. We went out for a casual coffee outing then we decided to have dinner together. I told him I was not expecting him to pay so it is okay for us to split since the dinner was unplanned and I don’t want to owe him anything. He said he wanted to treat me so I couldn’t say much to decline. After a few days, he started to get clingy. I told him that I am in a relationship and there is nothing going to happen between us. He pretended like he was okay with it but actually he already resented me. He finally showed his true color when I stopped talking to him. He said I am not as pretty as I thought, and I should be grateful that he wanted to date me. He also proceeded by saying I am in the same league as him, repeatedly. You won’t believe how he looks like lol. I am the one who is supposed to talk about the league thing but I guess that was his way of coping the rejection. A few months after that, I get to know this guy who told me that he knows that asshole and he has been approaching/harassing women like local models and celebrities, also a few gym instructors. When they rejected him, he did exactly the same thing.
When I was like year 9 (age 13) this year 12 dude (16/17 yo) added me on Facebook then proceeded to message me asking to hook up, I said no and he kept basically begging me. I screenshotted it and showed my friends, played along with it, he gave me his address said I'd be there in 20 min. I never showed up and about an hour later he messaged me going off about how he was going to tell everyone at school I was a slut and that I sucked him off. Told him I have screenshots to prove I didn't and I'd be happy to print them off and carry them with me. He blocked me (pretty sure I'm still blocked) and he avoided me like a plague at school.
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One girl I used to work with, who was too young for me, tried to start avoiding me and not even really wanting to speak to me.
Another was an old friend who was married and confessed her feelings for me but I told her I didn't like her like that. She got angry and claimed I did but I honestly did not, I always liked her as a friend.
He tried to turn all my friends against me because I turned him down
Threatened to kill me. Made other people send me death threats lol.
He tried to kill himself. The worst part is to be blamed for the poor choices of an idiot.
I worked with this one girl In my youth who had one of her friends tell me she liked me and wanted me to ask her out. Unbeknownst to them a third girl who I also worked with tipped me off that she heard them plotting to get me to ask that girl out just so she could reject me and they both could laugh at my expense.
Obviously it hurt my feelings. But I sacked up and approached those two and looked the girl right in the eye and said. " You're a really nice girl. And I'm very sorry but I'm just not interested". She went from a satisfied grin to a look of outrage in nothing flat. She told me "It was a joke you moron". Not breaking character, I said "I get it, you're feeling hurt right now. But you're not entirely unattractive. You're going to find another guy eventually". She snorted in anger and shouted "I didn't want to go out with you anyways"! Then she turned and stormed away. Then I turned to her friend who just stood there mouth open and I said "Do me a favor and console her it was never my intent to break her heart". And you could see she wasn't sure whether or not to laugh at what just happened or try to continue their ruse. Of course this is a job with young people who gossip all the time. So for the next couple weeks it was the buzz that I rejected her which she had to keep defending the fact that she never wanted to go out with me. And I just played up what a good girl she was and how she was going to eventually find somebody. And the girl that tipped me off never said a word. Just grinned everytime it came up.
I mean this wasn't from the girl herself. But I liked a girl and told her about it. She said she didn't share the feelings and was sorry if she led me on.
Her best friend then had a rather stern chat with me making sure to note how protective she is of her friend, mentioning a double black belt and such. My guess is that she was a closet lesbian who also had a crush on this girl.
But then I later found out that she and her friends started spreading rumors around campus that I was a sexual predator, had assaulted several women, and one girl apparently claimed that I "broke into her apartment and sucked on her toes".
This later escalated to a guy trying to assault me, and receiving several in-person death threats if I was on the wrong side of campus.
I took it up with security, and they looked into it and found out it was indeed rumors, but then just advised that I stay away from that side of campus. I could have taken legal action against the guy who tried to assault me, but I know he wasn't involved in spreading the rumors and was just acting against someone he believed to be a sexual predator.
That happened back in 2011. But like the issue of sexual assault and predation is an issue I take very seriously, and I'm cautious with women's boundaries to certainly a self-detrimental level. So like, a decade later I've been seeing a therapist about it.
This guy who i wasn't even close to (classmate & friend of a friend) messaged me telling me about how he got charged with sexual harassment from his ex girlfriend. Said he just wanted to be honest with me. I was confused as hell as to why he told me and was just like "oh, okay".
Then he asks me out when i see him at the mall. I told him i wasn't interested, let him down gently and thought that was that.
This guy was disgusting and kept touching me and grabbing me. I'd literally say the words "I'm not joking, you need to stop touching me" and he'd laugh and say "okay". Next day, do the same shit.
I literally wanted to vomit. He'd fucking harass me in classes too until my teacher saw him. Called him out, yelled at him, and made it so he wasn't allowed to sit anywhere near me.
He tried to hang out with a bunch of my guys friends and they were nice because he told them we were close. Once i told them, they pretty much took care of it and he never bothered me again 🤷♂️
It just annoyed the shit out of me that me telling him "no" "stop" "im not interested" wasn't fucking enough. He had to hear it from guys?
That one was the worst. It only lasted for like a week? Week and a half? But it was enough to nauseate me.
His girlfriend message me later on too, lol.
I can't answer with any personal experiences. This is because after being cheated on years ago I stopped asking girls out and kept them all in the friend zone. I stay casual with the ladies and am happy. But, this question jogged a memory from about 5 years ago. I was sitting at a table in an Outback Steakhouse listening to a couple talk. I was not eavesdropping because they were speaking in a volume I really had no other choice. The man told her he was not interested in being in an exclusive relationship and if that was what she wanted well, BYE! Then he walked out. I was sitting with two friends both women and I watched that girl's face. One of the ladies at my table got up and walked over to the table and spoke to her in a really quiet tone. Then several minutes later both got up and came over to my table and we all sit there. The girl was 20 something and cried for several minutes. I took her check and paid for everybody's meals that day. I did not ask for her information. I simply took my business card out. Gave it to her and said call me or shoot me an email if you ever want to talk to me. The last words I heard that girl say was F**k him and the horse he rode in on, smiled, and walked to her car. I never heard from her after that!
All I did was say no thanks, and I was hit with an avalanche of racial slurs and being told I deserve to be raped and beaten and all sorts of good stuff.
This was some 27 year old on the internet and I was 15. My age was clearly displayed, as he cold messaged me on Facebook from a group I was in. Super not creepy.
Oh, and he cold opens with that ultracringe shy roleplay shit too.
"H-hi, I just... *plays with his hair* I thought you were pretty and I wanted to know if you wanted to chat *blushes*"
My body physically rejects reading shit like that.
Not me but a friend of mine.
she was supposed to come to restaurant with me and then girlfriend if I remember right,
we got to restaurant and waited and waited, was texting her, calling her names as you do lol.
Someone in the restaurant was talking to waitress that there was an incident going on at xyz street, the name rung a bell, so we asked for more.
we find out that it’s a hostage situation, this girl (who we are waiting for) had rejected her date for the night and he had returned with a shotgun and was holding her hostage.
Bloody hard decision, have meal or head over and see what’s happening with our friend, we decided on going with the meal lol.
Apparently the guy had a track record for being rejected, the usual reason was he was nice then came over mega weird.
i think he had the wrong idea on body counts.
I didn't have any bad experiences irl. But I did have a not so great experience (not very horrible fortunately) on here. There was a guy on here from a foreign country who wanted me to be his girlfriend. I felt like he was trying to force a relationship with me. We spoke about this in DMs. I started to feel uncomfortable with his advances (when he kept telling me he likes me) and he didn't take it so well when I told him I feel uncomfortable. He said we shouldn't speak any more so I stopped messaging him and I unfollowed him.
When I was 16 I was into this girl for like 2 months and finally worked up the courage to ask her out. I approached her and politely and kindly told her that I liked her and wanted to go out. She rejected me harshly by making a huge scene in front of hundreds of peers on the lunchroom. "Go out with you? Omg! Why would I ever go out with someone as fat and ugly as you?" Imagine 200-300 pairs of eyes staring right at you... Yeah I didn't bother asking another girl out till about 22. No homecoming or prom for me.
He started stalking me and spreading weird and horrible rumors about me (no one believed him though because he was not mentally stable). He sent me horrifying messages and threats and then the next day he professed his love to me. Eventually he got suspended, but it didn’t end there. He showed up at school (which was not allowed) and gave me gifts and presents. He even called my mom at some point. It has been over 3 years and he still keeps on making new Facebook and instagram accounts so send me strange messages. In a way, I do feel bad for him. I know he needs help, but he refuses to get any and I can’t get involved because he’s dangerous.
I haven’t rejected anyone since. I act nice and try to avoid them and ghost them. I’m kind of scared to reject people after that.
After i turned him down, a guy started to stalk me, and looked like he was going to weep every time he saw me up close. (I was forced to see him, as we had a class together.) Scared the shit of out of me. I started carrying weapons, and had my phone ready to call 911 with my finger near the call button while I walked home from campus.
I ended up visiting campus police, told them when and where our class was, and they gave him a visit. I didn't want to waste more time because of him, so I didn't push further with the faculty, but he stopped after that.
I was clubbing with my girlfriends and some guy approached me while I was having fun with them enjoying drinks and talking. I only told him it was girl's night and we weren't about the fellas that night. The guy had a flat-out meltdown right there in the club yelling obscenities and sexist nonsense. The bouncers had to remove him.
Not particularly. Well after me and my last ex broke up and after I had gotten with my current partner he kind of freaked out on me and called me a bitch because I didn't want to hook up with him since getting into a new relationship. You should check out r/niceguys and r/nicegirls. 😂 Some crazy, crazy fuckers out there.
I know this question was meant for girls. But I'll share my story when I rejected an girl.
Back in second grade (15 yr old) an girl apparently had a crush on me. She tried asking me out when i was eating with some friends at lunch. But the thing was, I tried to reject her politely but she went quite psycho afterwards. Made up false stories about how "rude" I was and made her cry on the toilet for hours. Plus trying to turn all my friends against me with the same bullshit stories. So I blocked her on all socials I have. About a year ago she tried contacting me again by using an new number. Probably with the same bullshit since I blocked her again after she tried to sent me an text on whatsapp.
Yes once a 33 yr old trolled proposed me here lol. I said that I'm not ready for a relationship now just to be polite. He said that if you say no then I know very well how to make you say yes. He said that he has been stalking me since I joined this platform. I was very scared from him. I didn't blocked him as he said he knew my IP address so I didn't want that he will do something if I block him. Next day I blocked him because of his behavior I knew he was making things up.
I've never had anyone to reject. I've been rejected a few times every time I've always been polite abkut it. Granted j was disappointed but I normally said something like thank you for being honest or something like that and I'll give them some space was what I said to one as we were friends it kinda ended that for a few reasons one was it just kinda hurt to still talk to them.
Another kn a dating site said they wanted to look for someone closer to home. I know for a fact that I just said thank you for telling me I hope you find who your looking for and that I enjoyed talking to them.
Seeing that despite its hurt being rejected some more then others it sickens me to have read what others have experienced. Some of these are absolutely disgusting and horrific what people think is okay to do after rejection. It also saddens me to know that this is as common as it is.
Nothing too bad, once got called gay and then a rapist. Police came, got handcuffed, taken to the station. Was cleared there by the security cam footage. Was a fun evening.
One time it was just funny. I was in a gas station, a woman approaches and starts chatting me up. She was this party type, not my style. I politely turn her down and walk over to stand in the line for the toilets.
Then her friend comes, chatting me up. I'm like jesus, i gotta do it again. While she (the first girl in this gas station) is also few steps away.
After the toilet brake i was escorted outside of by my biker female friend, she laughed and said "she came to my rescue, she saw the whole thing and heard them planning a third attack"😅
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