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Well, dating is a game. With what species is it not?
You have to play the game, figure out what works and what doesn't then execute a plan.
That's what I don't understand about guys who complain. They can play video games, they can play hockey, they can play football without a single complaint about the rules.
But when it comes to playing the dating game, they throw their hands in the air.
But you play mind games all the time. Being autistic is not an excuse man. I know autistic folks who are absolutely awesome to be around. You are a jerk online, so you have to be a jerk in person too. You probably just recognize you can't be your true jerky self in a few situations.
The thing that's hilarious is, as unbearable as you are you whine about not having someone.
That isn't anyone's fault but your own.
How can you be an ass. . ..
Then know you are an ass. . .
But get angry that people don't like being around your assyness?
That's crazy talk.
And the thing is, all you want is some kitty kat. Dude, just go buy a whore.
Dude, let me explain to you how sex works. You want women to suck your dick. You don't want to be sucking mine. I am not gay. And being gay does not get you women.
Trying to claim that not being ass to women has anything to do with sucking my dick is one of the weirdest strangest most fucked up things you have ever posted.
But what is revealing is trying to claim that you and your behavior are not the sole reason why you haven't had sex. It just shows that you have no ability to hold yourself accountable and responsible for anything in your life
So since you are a loser, just do what every other loser does.
Order a prostitute.
I haven't had sex with a lot of people but I have had sex before dude, with both genders actually. I have been told I give pretty good head and my only complaint was that I made one guy bust too quickly ;)
But go ahead, keep projecting your insecurities onto me because you are a sorry, ugly, BITTER son of a bitch!
Having sex with yourself does not count. Playing doctor with your childhood friends does not count.
But being a grown ass man, taking your grown ass out in public, socializing, getting to know a woman and developing intimacy with her is what grown ass people do.
You are incapable of doing that. You even admitted that when you said you only want some kittykat. And you can't even get that.
So do what every loser does.
Order a whore.
What would I be insecure about? Dude, if your cowardly ass ever wants to stop being anonymous, we can do so at any time. My life has been posted on this site. But you? You are all talk. . . you just exposed yourself as the real loser you are.
You are a coward. And cowards make threats they can't back up. They make assertions they will never prove.
So go order your whore loser.
Be smart.
Wear a condom or what is left of your dick will definitely drop off. That's how sex works.
Dude, you keep arguing with me.
You need to be searching for some whores online.
WTF?
Hey dude, whatever gets your rocks off.
But you were talking about women a little bit ago. Maybe your issue isn't sex. Maybe you need to figure out what you need before trying to get what you want.
So dude, I can't do a thing for you. I don't know what a bisexual person does to get laid.
That said, being an asshole can't help.
@Juxtapose Dude, you have to explain your hurt feelings.
You are a complete and total ass.
I am an ass too. But I know it, so that's why I don't whine about people calling me names or insulting me. I don't block anyone at least not over namecalling, etc. Like your people, physicsman, moutnavverage, rationalmale, and that Filipino dude who doesn't know he is a Filipino etc. have all blocked me. I mean the supposedly the most roughest and toughest men here. The most rational debaters, etc.
They have me blocked because I hurt their feelings.
What is it about fake conservatives that makes them so entitled that they can post the most disgusting insulting filth. . . but not be able to take it in return?
I swear dude, I will never understand that. And this is something that has gone on for years. Posting shit, then whining.
If you didn't start none, there wouldn't be none.
What in the entire fuck?
I’ve seen my sisters bring home all kinds of guys over the years, and the “peaceful hippie” type was definitely among them, so yes.
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First of all I need you to get it out of your head that having "game" and psychological manipulation are the same thing. They are not. Anyone saying otherwise does not understand game.
Having game isn't about knowing what to say even if it's not true to get girls, this will never work, girls are generally smarter than that.
But that does not mean you can be yourself and all will work out fine, it never does.
What you need is to work yourself so that "yourself" becomes a person that has a strong understanding of social dynamics hence "game". Only then can you be yourself and expect results.
See humans are more primal creatures than one might think. We respond to certain things very instinctively and that is what you need to leverage to your advantage.
Men are attracted women who show signs of fertility and good health because back when we lived in caves that was needed in order to survive (survival of the fittest) this is why to this day men look at the difference between hip and wrist size as well as breasts the common organ for breastfeeding. These instinctively represent attraction to us and later society conditions us to have variations.
Women on the other hand want something different.
Back in the caves women needed the strongest man possible in order to protect them. That man needed to have skills, needed to be self sufficient, and he needed to be a leader as to not get himself and his family killed.
Today women instinctively look for the same thing: this is why women are generally drawn to asserive men who show signs of leadership and confidence as well as self sufficiency and of course men who are physically imposing hence the craze with tall men.
So having game really comes down to working on your own self confidence becoming assertive and a leader and of course being socially savvy capable of being funny and intersting when needed as well as romantic and in touch with your sensitive side when that is needed as well.
So don't let your personality control you l, learn to control your personality, do not become a liar and a manipulator that is something you will end up regretting but do work on truly becoming the man that women want to be with because if you're not there yet few to no women will wanna be with you it's that simple
I am debilitated by autism. Socially this is as far as I am going to get, I have to keep things very simple and up front.
What you described still seems like changing who I am. Where are the women changing themselves to be what I want them to be? Why do I just have to do it? I don't have any crazy expectations of women.
What you're wondering is the same thing all men wonder but that won't change it.
Look I understand you have special condition and I won't lie to you and say it doesn't affect you because it does. And you know it does.
But the harsh reality is that there so many men out there all thirsty for women to insane levels that women get to pick and chose men so you will never find a woman making effort to change herself into what you want since she can easily get another 20 who claim to like her for who she is.
My answer was to the original question and I say: no just being yourself is not enough especially if your personality does not have the qualities women look for.
Now in your specific case I unfortunately don't have an answer as I am not familiar with the struggle of debilitating autism so I understand if you tell me you can't evolve socially.
But an ides you could look into is searching for autistic people who did manage to make it work with women and seeing how they went about it.
This is what I did when I was a socially awkward guy in his early 20's i went and found guys who started like me and made it work and basically I'm working on my self they way they worked on themselves. And it's not an easy one day fix it's the journey of life and something we all deal with.
Well the beautiful thing about modern society is you get to chose who you wanna be.
If shemales do it for you then I wish you lots of success.
Just do yourself a favor and don't blame the world for the way it is. You have the power to change the world or least your own world, if you're using your intrest in shemales to hide from the fact that you want women but can't have them you are going to live a very unhappy life.
And the woman who views you as one of many expendable men is one of many expendable women herself and you don't lose any self-respect by walking up to a woman you like and saying "hey I thought you were very cute and I wanted to meet you" this is sometimes all it takes, assertiveness, boldness, and decent human manners.
I'm glad you differentiated between game and manipulation. Those two things are often mistaken for the other.
@WalterBlack I definitely agree. I just going to say the same thing. (Of course, I have neither. Lol)
The thing is, when you're yourself, the person who gets interested will actually be interested in the real you.
And that's what we want.
People who change or act differently to get with someone... Doesn't make sense to me, because... You will revert back to your normal self and they will realize you either pretended or want you to be the one they fell for and the relationship will break.
Like, I'm not going to try to get a guy by changing my whole schedule and personality so he will like me, then he won't like ME and that's not what I want.
That's kind of what I was thinking, it doesn't make logical sense to fake anything.
I even read about some men that say they have to play the game throughout the entire relationship for life and they can never just let down their guard and be free. I would rather be single in that instance.
Yeah.
I think that's why a lot of relationships don't work. They pretend they're someone they're not when they want someone. It's just so fake.
I'm not going to be with someone who prefers a woman to dress up and use make-up every day, because that's just not me. It would be stupid to try to get a man that way.
What's the point of acting like someone you're not unless your only goal is to dip your wick? The woman will eventually find out that you were being a phony.
When you mention mind games, I think of some of the retarded theories about how much time you should wait before contacting someone after a first date. Like, gee, you wouldn't want to follow your instincts and be honest or anything.
A person should obviously be authentic if they are looking for a partner who is a good match. To increase the odds of finding people, it helps to go places where they are most likely to hang out. I know for a fact that there are lots of women who would prefer a peaceful hippie but they're less likely to be found shopping on Madison Ave., hanging out in dance clubs or casinos.
Yes. A guy I used to work with did. And when I say a dirty hippie I really mean that. I actually got to be friends with him. I try not to judge but he doesn't have the best dental situation going on. He has long hair that he doesn't brush and it's all matted into dreadlocks and most the clothes he wears looks like he robbed goodwill. He's a very interesting character.
A relationship built from mind games and/or lies will inevitably come crashing down in a horrible painful mess.
A woman probably already does love you, but thinks you would reject her.
Austism isn’t that big of a deal honestly.
It may make the initial getting to know eachother difficult, but autism doesn’t change who you are as a person.
Who you are as a person is what she is/will be interested in.
You’re not the only man with autism on the planet.
I know several men with autism and none of them are single at the moment.
It’s best to just be yourself. Why would one want to attract women who like to play games or want something that you’re not. There are plenty of women, especially in their 30s and 40s, who appreciate nice, stable men.
A lot of those women do find the dating market much tougher in their 30s than it was in their 20s. Also, a lot of women mature and no longer want the same sort of guys they chased when they were young. There are plenty of single middle aged men who overdo the swagger or attitude. The guys who are nice and also confident are the ones who are hard to find, or so I hear from a lot of the women I know.
Yes if he looks good and doesn’t let the “hippiness” spill over into his appearance, such as letting his beard and mustache grow out really long and not getting haircuts.
It’s likely that the guys who “try” will get the girl a million times over before the peaceful hippie. However, the peaceful hippie may have some opportunities present themselves, and if they do, they need to be ready to act fast because their chances will be more rare
lots of girls like peaceful hippies (as long as they have good hygiene), no girls like mind games
why do women play mind games then?
@newfreshstart Nonono you got it all wrong bro. Insecure/Narcisistic girls play mind games. Thing is that there are a lot of insecure and narcisistic women/men in this time of social media, bullshit ideologies, etc. Emotionally mature people dont play mind games but you need to have your shit together (have hobbies, emotional control, friends, goals and potential for a decent career) if you wanna date someone like that
@newfreshstart what if they aren't? what if we don't know what you're talking about and we want to make meet you half way but we don't want to say something stupid and we're not sure what to say and then we just say whatever we thought of in the moment and then you thought it meant something different? is that a mind game? are we supposed to always know how to say what you want to hear? why is it our responsibility to get communication perfect?
I think it is possible. However, context is important. If you live in a community that is generally laid back and low stress, you probably wouldn't have much trouble finding a woman who is in tune with that vibe. However, in a big city with a lot of drama and stress and rushing around, a woman who is conditioned to that environment might not be into a hippie kind of personality.
Anybody can get a woman. The question is if you can keep her. The second question is if you want to keep her. It's kind of like asking if there's a shoe in the shoe store that fits your foot.
It works in my own case. I'd call myself some kind of ''neo-hippie''.
A girl that forces 'you' to imitate someone other than 'yourself' won't make us happy on the long run.
People like us aren't mainstream - who cares. It only means that our girl won't be mainstream as well; to find her may take a bit longer.
That's still better than knowing that 'you' are just one other John Doe.
Yes u can find a Woman but these days it's not getting easy it's like they only looking for money an them fake ASS Men.
Just know this no matter what stay ur self always.
God Bless
I knew a guy who was an actual hippie during the 70s he had a family when I knew him.
Yes, be yourself, but you may need to figure out what that is first. It took me my 29 plus years to figure that out.
My first 29 years that is
No that's blue pilled shit. Being yourself isn't the gateway to getting women. You need more than that and people that say otherwise are really delusional
Rastafarian b-tches are into those homeless hippy types
I don't believe you should become manipulative, but if you can't get yourself a girl by being yourself, you should try changing yourself into someone women want to be with.
Who? Women? Of course not. They shave, apply makeup, and spend a ton on clothing and jewelry.
Men want looks, and they invest in that. Women care less about looks, and more about finances, stability, reliability, and personality.
Lmao. This is actually funny. Because all of the "peaceful hippies" I know that got a lot of girls are actually players in disguise. The whole "organic vibes" bullshit is just a front.
Oh, wait- this is an advice question. I thought it was a philosophical question. My bad.
You might as well just throw a pair of dice and take your chances. There is no magic fomula.
@Juxtapose Playing mind games are one reason why dating ends in utter heartache.
Yes, "be yourself" isn't just some platitude. It works!
Well, so far, I've had 3 women but none lasted all that long. A few months, mostly. Number 3 stuck around for 10 years but, eventually became a gold digger.
Not only I have seen it happen... the girl was hot as fuck!
It’s possible but rare. I’ve actually had girls tell me I needed to play games to keep them interested 😑
I never had trouble getting women. I had the attitude of “hey, I’m me. Are you coming?” Today may be different though.
I don't know how your two options fit with being a peaceful hippie.
Not if he is a turtle hermit.
There are women like that also.
Depends on the woman.
Just be yourself 💀💀💀
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