I'm not attracted to black men physically, does that make me racist?

I am a brown guy who likes white skinned girls more. To be very particular
White> browned > black
Well but this doesn't make me racist any way.. bcz you see I don't go on doing anything wrong to anyone without any reason. And if someone from any color background does anything unpleasant to me so I be same kind of mad to them. Means at the same degree.
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And from all this what I wanted to say was. See if you also want to check if you are racist or not just look into the time when someone of that body color did something wrong to you and how you felt about it and how you felt about something similar done by any other person with other body color.
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According to me by this way only one can truly know if they are racist or not and since this discussion is going to be in your head so don't hesitate to see the right thing bcz only then you would truly realise and correct yourself if you were wrong in anyway.
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As tbh to say the truth I am dark skinned with brown color and I am from India, a country where most of the people are brown but also a place where people make fun of dark skin tone. So bcz of being made fun of my color in my childhood I started to hate this color and bcz of which I grown unlike to everyone dark skinned at that time. But since I thought about I suggested you, then I realised I was kindda going to be racist so then I realised it and from that time i try my best that these things doesn't come to my mind while deciding something.
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Also I won't say I am completely not racist and TBH NO ONE IS. EVERYONE IS A LITTLE RACIST IN THEIR OWN WAY JUST MAKE SURE YOUR LIKES OR DISLIKES DOESN'T HURT SOMEONE.
(Why I added this bcz like you are a girl and think for a situation you are rejecting a guy who's white so you should reject him with same empathy as you reject a black dude...
That's all)
Just a little respect should be there , nothing else matter if you would like to live with a white guy or a black guy.
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I have to wonder why you would think that your racist. I see a lot of this on tiktok some little white girl says she likes white boys and a bunch of black boys get in there and try to shame her. Has that happened to you? other then the anonymous dummy in your comments here trying to shame you.
No you are not racist because you like your own race. I’d love to be a fly on the wall if someone called a black girl racist because she likes black boys. That wouldn’t go over very well. The fact of the matter is those people saying that to you are racists. Black people can be very racist themselves , and they are very open about it. They got a special privilege to be that way right now.
You shouldn’t worry about what people think either. Most people are idiots. None of them walk in your shoes. So they got no right to judge you. You date who your attracted to and be happy. Leave the idiots in the dirt on the road where they belong.
Thank you so much I really appreciate it! No I haven't been shamed since I haven't told anybody, but on tiktok I see other white girls who prefer their own race and people call them racist in the comments. It makes me question if I'm also racist.
No your not a racist. Those people are running game to try to have sex with a white girl. I wouldn’t worry about what people say in tiktok the internet is dangerous as it seems to take over peoples minds. My advice to young people is cut down internet time and spend it with real live flesh and blood friends. They matter way more turn voices on the internet.
Ok thank you!
This question has been run into the ground yet people keep asking it. Some day people will stop smoking pot and realize that having a preference is not racist. So if your preference was eating Chinese does it mean you are racist if you like Mexican food instead?
I guess I have my answer now, thank you!
Absolutely not.… It’s simply a preference and everyone has them :)
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Racism stems from a belief of superiority or xenophobia (a fear of something that's perceived as foreign or different than yourself, but it is only a perception. Humans naturally fear what we don't understand.). But it has nothing to do with physical attraction, you may like what you like and that's all there is to it. You are under no obligation to make sense to others, do whatever you like and do what makes you happy as long as it's not harming yourself or others. Everyone wants to be loved and accepted by others, but don't let your happiness hinge on the opinions of others. Everyone is on their own path at their own pace. Don't worry too much about people liking you or approving of you or your preferences, it's more important that they do right by you, and it's most important that you love yourself. I wish you the best!
Thank you so much! I wish you the best as well:)
Stay gold, Asker!
You too!
Based on how most of the world outside the US defines racism you sound like a racist in the way you write and categorise people by the colour of their skinband define yourself as white. I would face a shitstorm if I wrote something similar on social media in my country.
Not beeing atracted to someone for a certain physical trait is not racist, its just your preference. I realise that based on my own girlfriend history, I seem to only be attracted to blondes - I don't understand why but its a fact. I also realise that most blondes have very light skin, but I don't think that makes me racist.
But if you live in the US you probably will not be thought to be a racist as people there seems to deal with that differently.
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I don't think it's racist, liking someone depends on how you feel about everything, not skin color. It's just that black people aren't attractive enough to you. I have black friends, I respect them very much, and I will not fall in love with them, the same is true.
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Nah, you're attracted to whoever you're attracted to. It's no more racist to find you're not attracted to black men than it would be homophobic to find you aren't attracted to other women.
You like who you like and you never need to justify or classify it. People who insist otherwise are not worth listening to.
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Attraction is a weird thing. You cannot control it.
Funny thing is I was always into blond blue eyed guys, until one day I went to live in Asia and then fell head over heels in love with an extraordinary Asian man.
I would never ever imagine I would like a man so different from my type. But that’s life. Never say never - I was always cynical about this until now.
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Attraction doesn't relate much with racism unless that word is used as indirect way of slander, then yes but that would be sensed in way its said and used.
I dont feel attraction towards many black women, there are very few that get my dick hard and i would bang them but most of them i have to say nope, my dick stays flaccid state.
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No. But saying it like you are, does.
A racist will always start things with "I'm not racist, but...", "I dislike such and such people, I'm not racist!"
You are thinking about them in a derogatory manner, and trying to explain it away. That's why racists are not trusted. Normal people just walk on by other people and get on with their lives. Racists have to take shit in front of certain people, ensure others look at it, but demand no one judges them for it.
I disagree, it might be that she's actually confused and unsure if that counts as racist cus we do live in society where they tell a lot of bs this racist thst racist its bs. They just throw words around to attack. I have been called racist and then same women was giving me back massage to make me feel better. Its bs i just ignore it.
I don't dislike black people though.
It’s a preference no. If you go off and say how black men are ugly or generalizing them that’s racist. Which honestly most black man have a problem with when talking about black women when they aren’t attracted to them.
Well that's not what I'm saying, I could fall in love with a black guy but that's rare. They aren't my type but that doesn't mean I wouldn't date one someday.
Then is it really a preference? I know im into girls but haven’t found a girl im compatible with. But I wouldn’t say im not into girls because of it
@Thatasianlove16 I know what she's saying. I'm not into east Asian girls, generally speaking, but I wouldn't say never.
@Jamie05rhs I get what she saying. It’s just not an actual preference though it’s a normal I just haven’t found a person with a specific gender/race / aesthetic attractive yet. That’s not a preference a preference would be if she said I would “never” so it’s not a preference
Lol. No; that would be a requirement, not a preference.
A preference is like saying you prefer pepperoni pizza. You'll still eat a cheese pizza.
It's a preferrence rooted in racism. You haven't met every black person but your stating that race alone is enough to know if you're attracted. You don't even need to look at them, knowing they're black, is enough.
So yea I think that's racist. You're judging them as a race not individually
You are not attracted to guys, so you are racist?
Okay, how do I better myself? What can I do to change my mindset and attraction to black guys?
It's not racist, but it is discriminatory and pretty closed-minded. You can date whoever you want though.
Ok, I'm sorry if I offended you, but I can't control whom I'm attracted to. Thank you for your answer though!
No that’s not racism that’s just a dating preference. Some of them aren’t interested in dating outside of their race anyway, it’s okay
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No not in the slightest, that's just your personal preference.
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So knowing their black without even seeing them is enough for you to know you're not attracted to them. How is that not racist?
If you want to say socially acceptable to do so, sure, but it is racism
no it makes you a colorist.
you are allowed to have preferences. the racist stuff is just about how black people were mistreated, even in the law, for a long time and it took a lot to get them free of it.
there's plenty of mates for them.
Why would it possibly make you racist? We're in a culture now that if you're white you're automatically racist which is a joke but still it's the world we live in.
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Nope it does not, we all have preferences and also greatly depends where you love etc.
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You aren't racist unless you treat others badly for their race.
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Not according to the definition of racism.
@Armourdillo according to me thinking bad is prejudice which is also bad as racism but treating people for their race is racist or discriminative behavior. It is my point of view.
If fetishizing races not racism?
Is fetishizing*
@Armourdillo yeah that is. She is only thinking bad which is prejudice. Something more than that is racism.
@Armourdillo It is my point of view and I know it may be wrong.
No of course not.
Since when should a person have date a specific race to prove they aren't racist?
You can date whomever you want. Not being racist is more about treating people with respect, and not putting others down in everyday life.
You're attracted to who you're attracted to, that isn't something you shout try to suppress or control.
Thank you! I was really worried.
No it doesn't. You are attracted to what you are attracted to. I'm not attracted to guys. That doesn't make me sexist or homophobic.
Ok thank you!
Yes, but who cares? You're allowed to date how you like. I don't like black women, but no amount of screaming "DATS WACIST!" is gonna get me to date one.
Okay.
You aren't racist just for hurting some black bois' egos.
Okay thank you! But it wasn't my intention to hurt black men or anything.
Don't even worry about that. Have you ever seen the things black boys say about black girls? That shit is racist and odious. And then they get rejected by white women and got butthurt to the point of accusing white women of being racist? Well, they can cry you a river. Lol
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