. Just for a heads up when you like somebody and they like you back the first time that you lied to them about anyting and they find out and they always will it makes it so they cannot trust you that is a very big issue the age thing is one thing but telling a lie and not being able to be trusted that is a bigger issue now that you're 18 I just don't want you to go through this later on down the road because this is the message that you were supposed to learn you don't need to lie about anything you are who you are you had a reason to do what you did but be honest about it I'm sure the guy would have still dated you and I'm sure he would have loved you even more because you were honest
For you it's not a big deal for him, depending on local laws, it's potentially going to jail for half a decade and landing on the sex offender list for the rest of his life.
That's downright psycho behavior.
Just don't do it, and if you really have to then at least be honest about your age so that when something goes wrong, they will have themselves to blame.
Sure, you may be mature and perhaps he isn't wrong in the head for wanting to date you, but all it takes is one jealous person who hates either yours or his guts to report him and his life will be over.
Statutory rape is a strict liability law, it wouldn't matter what you say, he would always be found guilty and nobody would believe you even if you said that no sex happened.
Because it's always assumed the minor would be pressured or threatened to lie.
1- you’re a liar so that means you’re capable of lying about other things too and shows that you’re untrustworthy, selfish and have a lack of integrity. 2- if it was found out he could end up in jail and labeled a sex offender. It could land him in a LOT of trouble that can ruin his life. It doesn’t matter if it’s one year or a few months. The law is the law. He did right by cutting you off.
It matters because an adult being with someone under 18 can equal jail time, especially if sex is involved. Why lie in the first place if you feel like age doesn’t matter? Obviously you felt there was a big enough distinction between 17 and 18 that you needed to tell him the wrong age.
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u People who tell lies always have reasons, excuses, and justifications. . . just like you. So you revealed yourself to be a liar, and that matters to most people.
Yep, it does.
You're on the border of being a teenager and a young adult. Also, more importantly to many men, illegal vs. legal. He could get thrown in jail.
Only to those intrusive societal 'third parties' who'd seek to arbitrate YOUR sexuality~
Is there a greater risk of naïve exploitation, OF COURSE... yet those self-same 'do-gooders'
seldom rigorously enforce theme park 'thrill ride' legal disclaimer injunctions
that you muse be "THIS TALL to ride this ride"~ "Oh, its OK. ... They're with their parent!"
Imagine giving an adolescent, a gift certificate
to an Adult Novelties emporium in their 13th yr birthday card!
"Oh, he / she's with their parent..." Yeah, right~
It matters from a legal perspective, my state has a four year buffer but that mans a 17 year old can still only consent to a 21 year old. You said you dated, didn't specify if there was more to it, but no guy wants to risk it.
It isn't always you that he is concerned about, many girls (especially those 17 year olds) have parents who will report the man against the 17 year old wishes and there is nothing that she can do about it.
That is why my state has the 4 year buffer, as back in the 90's there was a lot of registered sex offenders that was an 18 year old guy who has sex with his 17 year old girlfriend and they ended up getting married but her parents didn't like him so they reported him for statutory.
Well yes the lying matters especially because he could have gotten into serious trouble.
Honestly though if you thought it was okay to lie about something as simple as your age what else will you lie to others about?
It could matter, depending on what the legal age is in your state. If you are under the age of consent in your state, and you had sex with him, he technically committed statutory rape. It doesn't matter if it was consensual, or not. It also matters that you lied about it, not so much that it's a year. You put the man at great legal risk. He should've asked to see your ID in the first place, but those can be faked too.
You're now legal for sex in every state, so there's no need to lie about your age.
Yes it does and good for him... lying any type of lie early in a relationship is a huge RED flag. Someone who will lie about something as trivial as their age will lie about many other things that they believe should not matter or be a big deal. Which if they should not matter because they are not a big deal, then why not be just honest about it?
But not being 18 is not a trivial thing, its actually a pretty significant lie. So he did the right thing.
If you are in the US, it depends on what state you are in. Many of them the legal age is 16. If you are in one of those states you are OK.
The fact that he broke it off with you tells me you are probably in an 18 year old state so he did the right thing if you were having sex.
Yes I'm afraid it does. The law regarding the age of consent is extremely unbending. Of course different ages apply to different countries.
You may or may not have been involved sexually but irrespective of that fact, how other people perceive you as the older person in a age difference relationship is very important.
Only from legal perspective, cus on human to human contact if urcbosy is rdy for fuking it doesn't matter. But cus we have foverment rules and regulations yeah, you have to check under law if it matters. Thats why he left you, not cus he didn't want you, its cus he didn't want police knocking on his door to give him trouble for nothing
yes i would care. yes that extra year matters. i would care because that is starting off a potential relationship with a lie. that extra year matters because first that's one less year for your mind to develope into a grown up. second it comes with possible legal troubles (often with penalties that are harsher than murderers) . third there are social issues that can stem from it.
Yes especially if the relationship is going to get sexual at all. He's risking serious legal charges, even if you think you'd never do that, it can still happen. Not to mention if your family found out etc. But also you're lying to him right from the start, which is never a good way to start a potential relationship.
It matters because that extra year could be the difference of a man going to jail or not.
Also people don’t like their partners lying to them in general. If you lie about something as simple as your age, then they will assume you’re gonna lie about other things too. They’re not going to trust you.
It's wrong to lie about your age. It's wrong to lie, period.
The age difference is unimportant, but you put him in jeopardy of being accused of statutory rape, which is serious. His life could be ruined.
It matters that you lied, and it matters if you live somewhere where he can go to jail for sex with a minor if your parents don't like him or you get mad at him. Half the states say you have to be 18, the other half it's 16. You broke his trust, you lied. That's the worst part, he can't trust you now.
it matters when you're 17
any other age over that doesn't really matter.
Don't be dumb, you can get him in jail... Smh 🤦♀️
where do you live.. under a rock!
It matters HUGELY to me. In my country, dating anyone under 18 carries legal implications. Furthermore, the lie would have made me angry enough to break it off, besides making you contemptible in my eyes; if you're lying about something as basic as your age, what is there that you wouldn't lie about?
Yes it does! You selfish, inconsiderate bitch! How dare you lie about your age and put someone at risk like that.
That causes men to be put in jail. That’s very selfish and messed up all around. The jaw don’t take “ I didn’t know for answer “ you could be cost that man his life. How dare you!
Two reasons, one; dating underage is illegal.
Two; you can never start a relationship with lies.
But still he should have given it a chance, but it all depends on how he knew and what was your reaction.
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