. Just for a heads up when you like somebody and they like you back the first time that you lied to them about anyting and they find out and they always will it makes it so they cannot trust you that is a very big issue the age thing is one thing but telling a lie and not being able to be trusted that is a bigger issue now that you're 18 I just don't want you to go through this later on down the road because this is the message that you were supposed to learn you don't need to lie about anything you are who you are you had a reason to do what you did but be honest about it I'm sure the guy would have still dated you and I'm sure he would have loved you even more because you were honest
For you it's not a big deal for him, depending on local laws, it's potentially going to jail for half a decade and landing on the sex offender list for the rest of his life.
That's downright psycho behavior.
Just don't do it, and if you really have to then at least be honest about your age so that when something goes wrong, they will have themselves to blame.
Sure, you may be mature and perhaps he isn't wrong in the head for wanting to date you, but all it takes is one jealous person who hates either yours or his guts to report him and his life will be over.
Statutory rape is a strict liability law, it wouldn't matter what you say, he would always be found guilty and nobody would believe you even if you said that no sex happened.
Because it's always assumed the minor would be pressured or threatened to lie.
1- you’re a liar so that means you’re capable of lying about other things too and shows that you’re untrustworthy, selfish and have a lack of integrity. 2- if it was found out he could end up in jail and labeled a sex offender. It could land him in a LOT of trouble that can ruin his life. It doesn’t matter if it’s one year or a few months. The law is the law. He did right by cutting you off.
It matters because an adult being with someone under 18 can equal jail time, especially if sex is involved. Why lie in the first place if you feel like age doesn’t matter? Obviously you felt there was a big enough distinction between 17 and 18 that you needed to tell him the wrong age.
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u People who tell lies always have reasons, excuses, and justifications. . . just like you. So you revealed yourself to be a liar, and that matters to most people.
Yep, it does.
You're on the border of being a teenager and a young adult. Also, more importantly to many men, illegal vs. legal. He could get thrown in jail.
Only to those intrusive societal 'third parties' who'd seek to arbitrate YOUR sexuality~
Is there a greater risk of naïve exploitation, OF COURSE... yet those self-same 'do-gooders'
seldom rigorously enforce theme park 'thrill ride' legal disclaimer injunctions
that you muse be "THIS TALL to ride this ride"~ "Oh, its OK. ... They're with their parent!"
Imagine giving an adolescent, a gift certificate
to an Adult Novelties emporium in their 13th yr birthday card!
"Oh, he / she's with their parent..." Yeah, right~
It matters from a legal perspective, my state has a four year buffer but that mans a 17 year old can still only consent to a 21 year old. You said you dated, didn't specify if there was more to it, but no guy wants to risk it.
It isn't always you that he is concerned about, many girls (especially those 17 year olds) have parents who will report the man against the 17 year old wishes and there is nothing that she can do about it.
That is why my state has the 4 year buffer, as back in the 90's there was a lot of registered sex offenders that was an 18 year old guy who has sex with his 17 year old girlfriend and they ended up getting married but her parents didn't like him so they reported him for statutory.
It could matter, depending on what the legal age is in your state. If you are under the age of consent in your state, and you had sex with him, he technically committed statutory rape. It doesn't matter if it was consensual, or not. It also matters that you lied about it, not so much that it's a year. You put the man at great legal risk. He should've asked to see your ID in the first place, but those can be faked too.
You're now legal for sex in every state, so there's no need to lie about your age.
Well yes the lying matters especially because he could have gotten into serious trouble.
Honestly though if you thought it was okay to lie about something as simple as your age what else will you lie to others about?
Yes it does and good for him... lying any type of lie early in a relationship is a huge RED flag. Someone who will lie about something as trivial as their age will lie about many other things that they believe should not matter or be a big deal. Which if they should not matter because they are not a big deal, then why not be just honest about it?
But not being 18 is not a trivial thing, its actually a pretty significant lie. So he did the right thing.
If you are in the US, it depends on what state you are in. Many of them the legal age is 16. If you are in one of those states you are OK.
The fact that he broke it off with you tells me you are probably in an 18 year old state so he did the right thing if you were having sex.
Yes I'm afraid it does. The law regarding the age of consent is extremely unbending. Of course different ages apply to different countries.
You may or may not have been involved sexually but irrespective of that fact, how other people perceive you as the older person in a age difference relationship is very important.
Only from legal perspective, cus on human to human contact if urcbosy is rdy for fuking it doesn't matter. But cus we have foverment rules and regulations yeah, you have to check under law if it matters. Thats why he left you, not cus he didn't want you, its cus he didn't want police knocking on his door to give him trouble for nothing
yes i would care. yes that extra year matters. i would care because that is starting off a potential relationship with a lie. that extra year matters because first that's one less year for your mind to develope into a grown up. second it comes with possible legal troubles (often with penalties that are harsher than murderers) . third there are social issues that can stem from it.
Yes especially if the relationship is going to get sexual at all. He's risking serious legal charges, even if you think you'd never do that, it can still happen. Not to mention if your family found out etc. But also you're lying to him right from the start, which is never a good way to start a potential relationship.
It matters because that extra year could be the difference of a man going to jail or not.
Also people don’t like their partners lying to them in general. If you lie about something as simple as your age, then they will assume you’re gonna lie about other things too. They’re not going to trust you.
It's wrong to lie about your age. It's wrong to lie, period.
The age difference is unimportant, but you put him in jeopardy of being accused of statutory rape, which is serious. His life could be ruined.
It matters that you lied, and it matters if you live somewhere where he can go to jail for sex with a minor if your parents don't like him or you get mad at him. Half the states say you have to be 18, the other half it's 16. You broke his trust, you lied. That's the worst part, he can't trust you now.
it matters when you're 17
any other age over that doesn't really matter.
Don't be dumb, you can get him in jail... Smh 🤦♀️
where do you live.. under a rock!
It matters HUGELY to me. In my country, dating anyone under 18 carries legal implications. Furthermore, the lie would have made me angry enough to break it off, besides making you contemptible in my eyes; if you're lying about something as basic as your age, what is there that you wouldn't lie about?
Ofc it matters. A man doesn't want to go to jail or be thought of as a pedophile for that. Why would you lie about?
That causes men to be put in jail. That’s very selfish and messed up all around. The jaw don’t take “ I didn’t know for answer “ you could be cost that man his life. How dare you!
Yes it does! You selfish, inconsiderate bitch! How dare you lie about your age and put someone at risk like that.
Two reasons, one; dating underage is illegal.
Two; you can never start a relationship with lies.
But still he should have given it a chance, but it all depends on how he knew and what was your reaction.
The problem is he doesn't trust you anymore. If you lie once, there's a probability you'll lie again
Considering a man can be charged for statutory rape and be imprisoned for a long time along with getting this life destroyed, I'd say it is a huge deal.
A girl did this to me when I was 21 she said she was the same age but when we went to a bar downtown I found out she was actually only 19 I immediately left her and drove home yes that was a small lie but if she would lie to me about something so petty and we just started dating that’s a red flag that she’s a pathological liar
Apparently to him it did. Why weren't you up front with him?
I would say in your case yes, because you where pretending to be and adult while you where still legally and minor. He could of gotten in a lot of trouble.
That extra year does matter if it’s between being legal or not. it’s weird to lie about your age in the first place
Yes. That extra year is the difference between being raped in prison and not. At least if you're in America.
When I was 13 I would often say I am 15 😁 Now I am 25 and I would rather say I am 23.
But what can you do, only the dead stay 17 forever. So, it’s always better to be honest.
Girl that year is the difference between prison and being safe.
You could have came out and said to him, Look here I will be age 18 in a year could we date then I'm sure the guy would have said, yes
In this case, yes, that one year matters. You're legally underage and he could go to jail for statutory rape.
It's COMPLETELY unacceptable.
Huge read flag and automatic deal-breaker.
(PERMANENT deal-breaker!)
Yes, because you couple get him in a lot of trouble. Additionally, you’re trying to start a relationship with a lie.
Yes it does because you were lying about not being a minor and that could result in a lawsuit for him
Yes. Not because you're underaged, but because you lied.
When I told guys on tinder they would just stop talking to me. It's not my fault I had to lie to even get a chance.
You can use all the reasoning you like to justify it, but the fact of the matter is that you started things on a lie. All trust would be gone.
The age of consent is 17 in my state, so I wouldn’t really care. If it’s 18 in your state, then he made the right decision, and you should expect anyone else in his position to do the same. Not everyone wants to go to jail.
Yes, if you want to stay off the sex offender registry.
legally yes in most states. You are a minor, and he isn't.
It is only 1 year, but at that age it really does matter, sometimes a lot!
Read up on what the law says related to this in your country. We don't know where you live. It all depends on that, if what you ask matters or not.
I think generally the law is specific about who can have sex with who at what age, and not who you can hang out with / meet as friends, or "date".
So, if it's not allowed for you two to have sex yet, then you could just date and hang out.
Hell yes! Girl could get pissed at him, cry rape, and he now has a two hitter. Rape and sex with a minor. Also pisses me for minors to be in a bar with fake id and blame the guy for sleeping with a minor! If she's in the bar she's old enough
Yeah because if you would lie about that more than likely be you would lie about something else
Because it's illegal and most dudes don't want to be on a sexual offender list.
As far as him going to jail (if someone found out and told) it would, unless your parents consented to sex. So, yeah it’s a big deal.
I think I would be pretty pissed off and dump her. Lying about something like that I don't think I would be able to forgive.
Being underage does if it means he might go to jail over it, or just the fact that you were not honest and he can’t trust you.
Yes it matters.
For one, you lied to him. Two, that lie could land him in prison and on a sex offender registry.
God yes, I ain't going to the pound for no jail bait! Don't put a dude in that position.
If you lied about one thing, it means you could be lying about something else. So trust was broken.
Yes he can get locked up if he did anything with you..
Well no one wants to get in trouble due to that.
So he did
We could of just waited until I was 18
You are somehow right. So whats your age range for guys now?
Yes, it matters a lot since the guy can go to jail or prison for it.
I would definitely care. She would be jailbait, and I have no interest in that kind of situation.
You can still ruin that guys life, maybe wait and see if he runs for president.
Yeap. I don't date liars, betrayer and minors
only if your a MAN that wants to STAY OUT OF JAIL...
Yes I'd care. That puts men in sticky situations. And it's not honest. Just be patient.
Well It depends on whether or not she's a minor then I'd be very worried
I don't think I would care that much, But I would be curious why she lied.
In the eyes of the law... if you wanted to ruin his life... yes it matters.
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