If I date with the guy who is Christian does it work?

[Anonymous]

My families are from another country and they are Muslim. If I date with the guy who is Christian does it works? What I should do? Any suggestion?

[slatyb]

You better think. How religious are you? How religious is he? I'd your parents disapprove would you be willing to go against their wishes? Are you dating to marry? How do you see that working? Do you want children? How would you raise then in a mixed marriage?

Nonw of these are automatic deal-breakets, but you need to think about them before you get involved with a non-Muslim.

[Berethor]

It would likely not work, because of how common honor killings in muslim communities.

[PrettyPriya]

As long as your family approves and you don't have any issues with it, go ahead! My SO is not the same religion as I am.

[PrettyPriya]

I should mention that he IS christian. So, I have some experience with that.

[Asker]

My family are believe to Muslim they are Muslim I mean I do not think they accept

[Asker]

Even they told me we cannot come your home my mother told to me how I will take your baby to my hand 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ She asked me also if I will change my surname too 🤦🏻‍♀️

[PrettyPriya]

I'm sorry to hear your family doesn't accept it. Seems like you have an interest in this guy. Not sure what you can do. My fiancé and I make it work, so it is possible. I am Hindu and he is Christian. We aren't even from the same country. He is Australian. We make it work.

[Asker]

The only issue is my dad will not accept it or I don't know maybe by time if he realize that I am happy he will accept. But I know that it will be an issue at the beginning with my dad especially

[PrettyPriya]

I understand. That is something you want to ease into slowly. I know how dads are. They want to protect their little girl.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Sure, I guess it’s fine unless you don’t think so.
Would yours or their family approve?

[Asker]

My dad is religious and he is aggressive person. My mother has her belief. However I will have first of all this problem. My father will ask probably about his religion. He does not like to be with Christian guy. Even my family told me if you get marry with someone who is Christian we will not come to your home 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Asker]

I mean from now , it’s a really big issue.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

If it is going to cause issues between you and your family, I do not suggest you pursue the relationship.

[Asker]

So what about? I should not date? Because there is many good guys outside who is Christian and even there could be chemical connection. It will be so hard for me to accept it. Even sometimes I can have better connection with them then Muslim guy. I am not that religious person but I believe there is one god. I grew up like this. I do not really know what I should do

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

No, I don’t think you should date him because it will cause issues between you and your family. I understand that there are good guys out there with different religions, and real connections… But it will most likely cause tension in the family and they won’t accept you or him anymore.

[Asker]

But imagen if I date with someone who is in my job and we fit well everything etc. I am wondering if my family still not accept it. Because everything is by time that’s correct but the living lifestyle is more important then religion I think. If it work well I do not see it as problem. Also if my husband is not rude person or not religious person too much it can work. He I think has to be flexible as well if my family tells something he should accept. If he is strong Christian it will not work anyway because both side should be flexible to make it work otherwise it is really impossible if he is strong Christian, probably he became like this from her family too and they will not accept me too 🤷🏻‍♀️ This is what I think

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I agree, but religion isn’t something some families are willing to compromise on. Some families disown their children for marrying out of their religion. Do you want that?

[Asker]

I do not want that ofcourse but I wished from them to understand me otherwise I will have to tell them lie if my husband is not religious that much for me, and if he loves me that much there is good future between us, he should say some words after he can believe whatever he wants just he should do something for me for my family because I do not want to make my family accept. But I am thinking the surname how it will be possible?

[In_Trance]

date sure, there's no commitment with a date. You can date whoever you want

[Asker]

But I do not want to date with someone which will not go serious or if there will be any problem

[In_Trance]

There's no way to know if it will be serious unless you invest the time and effort; that's what dating is for

[Asker]

Yes you are right but the thoughts I have and the way I go could be certain from the beginning as different two religioun relationship etc

[In_Trance]

Well, religion is something people fail to compromise on. It's worth considering for sure. Think of what someone would have to say or do to get you to compromise yours; you'll realize you have no chance of having someone else change theirs

[FearlessHero7]

I'm Christian and I wouldn't date a Muslim for that reason.

[Asker]

In your religion is it allow for you to get marry with Muslim girl? For Muslim boys it is

[FearlessHero7]

There's no limit to whom you can marry. Just as long as you both Serve Jesus Christ. Make Him your savior

[Asker]

Haha for muslim men’s it’s different for us, we can not get marry With Christian but Muslim men’s can because family goes from Father as carrying of the surname etc

[FearlessHero7]

Why do you keep bringing up men. Isn't this question about you. Date whoever you want

[Anonymous]

From where?

[Opinion Owner]

Where are you from?