My friend is dating a really cute guy and I am jealous. Is that normal for me to be jealous?

[Anonymous]

When i found out she was dating him, the first thing that came to my mind was “if I am prettier than her then why did he pick her over me?“

I know it’s really bad and wrong. But that is how I feel no lies or anything. Ugh.

Yah

Nah

[Alyssa_11]

No it’s normal. Focus on yourself. Everyone’s so different. You can’t compare yourself or your relationships with somebody else.

[Anonymous]

why would you post them!

[OpenClose]

Totally normal. Hell, my brother dated a really cute girl who was like a great match for me. He broke up with her, so I just dated her afterwards. This was apparently pretty common in my extended family as well.

But jealousy is normal. It can help a bit to acknowledge that it's normal and try to find what the source is. For me, it is a feeling of scarcity. I feel like I genuinely connect with so few women that when a good match shows up, I feel like it's a missed opportunity for me. Like "oh there's finally a girl I feel compatible with, and she's with my friend instead.

But like, maybe she has friends? Or one thing I like to do is hear how they met, or what she likes about him, or what stood out. It helps give me an idea of how to stand out with girls like her. So you can take a situation that isn't fun, and use it as an opportunity. Hell, I've had crushes who turned me down later introduce me to someone I ended up dating. It's kinda awesome when things work out that way.

[Jessica405]

The issue is that maybe he chose her because she has a more compatible personality, not because of her level of attractiveness. A guy looking for a long term partner usually goes for compatibility first. Beauty is way down on the list.

That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. Just that you may be different from what he wants.

[Truthatanycost]

It's a sin, and it's a sign you need to work on yourself. Once you've done the work. Instead of envy you will see inspiration and joy.

'“if I am prettier than her then why did he pick her over me?“

Attractiveness radiates inward and outward.

[Adam1978]

Why would he pick you? You friend probably put in the job to get picked and you didn't. Looks are just a entry ticket, if you don't use it. It's wasted opportunity. And there is many other things that will matter after that.

[Anonymous]

oh god don't be one of those people. i had a crush on a guy and my friend ended up dating him for 2 weeks. what a waste! i still hate her for it. she's still a shitty person to this day.

[Fireguy17]

looks aren't everything.
Maybe he sees something in her that you don't have.
It comes down to her personality, what he likes and what she has to offer.
So be happy for them, that they found each other.

[Hunnybee1]

Love the answers from the guys here.
Don't feel ashamed, but you'll just have to move on. You'll find a good looking dude eventually if you truly want to

[Anonymous]

Yea, normal, but not a good thing. You don't know why he choose her "over" you. No need to be sad about it. You'll find your guy too.
Jealousy is generally a girl thing, especially when it comes to relationships. It can ruin friendships and relationships, so be careful.

[shaysh87]

you're jealous because you're immature and inexperienced. looks aren't everything. its only a matter of time before you grow up to realize this.

[BeMuse]

Jealousy is a character flaw a lot of people struggle with. I don’t understand it personally, but I assume it’s common enough.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Jealousy is a human emotion, in a situation like this the best thing to do is be supportive of her relationship and swallow all the jealousy

[pleasestopthis]

It's pretty common but it usually means you're a bit shallow and too focused on appearances. Relationships won't be successful only because you're prettier (in your own opinion).

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

No thats not normal, real friends dont get jealois of each other. Weird behaviour.

[Kisama]

You find him cute = you have feelings towards him.

So yes, its normal.

[scooogy]

My crush's friend seems to be jealous of me fancying my crush, even though she sleeps with another guy. Maybe this is why my crush's friend keeps on mentioning that guy.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Did you actually want him? Or is this just an ego or insecurity thing?

[Andres77]

Get over it.
If she's your friend then be happy for her and move on.

[rabbitzzz]

Maybe you wanted him to want your pretty face.
Whereas she just became his good friend.

[Northernlights25]

Maybe he picked her because her first thought wasn't "I deserve him because I'm prettier".

[Wise4myage]

Yes, but only do a certain degree. Why not use your jealousy to motivate yourself?

[Troyana123]

Do you feel love for him or you only see him as a friend?

[WhiteBoyChill]

Think of it this way. In a world of over 3 billion men, surely that man isn’t the only one you’d be compatible with.

[Anonymous]

Everybody has a different opinion of pretty. Good news is you can always find a cuter guy because women look better when single but get uglier when there is a man next to them

[MrJMM]

I don't know maybe. Single people can find people who are in relationships jealous.

[driven159]

you should be happy for her not jealous go out and get your own sweet guy

[Waldoe]

Sometimes it has NOTHING to do with "Looks" it is about personality

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

It's normal. Humans are envious by nature. Go get yourself your own boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Jealousy is not a personality defect. It's a feature! It's completely ok for women to be jealous because most want a high value man as her mating partner and women has a very limited time to find it ie from the age 16 to 35.

[Michael82]

You're happy with your friend but at the same time you want what she wants. You just need to put your self out there

[Abinav69]

Date a cute guy instead of getting jealous of someone else lol

[TropikThundah]

You should only be jelly if you’ve had a crush on him or an intimate history with him.

[OwwyPowwy234]

It sucks being alone, I think its normal to be jealous
Just dont act on it
move on from it.

[Anonymous]

girls always get jealous of what other girls have

its stupid

[Anonymous]

He chooses her because she is more prettier than you. I can bet she is pretty than you from inside and out.

[supercutebutt]

You aren't prettier than her though.

[Asker]

How would you even know lol 😂

[3LVS1RK]

I concur. Your less pretty.

[Flower7]

Yes, this seems very normal to me.

[IncognitoBandito]

Initially though you shouldn't stay that way.

[InquisitivelyNoxious]

You should be happy for them

[cloud9vortex1234]

It means you don't have a guy like that.

[Zygum]

Don't be jealous, try some other guy

[vald9inches]

Have a threesome! 😊

[Guardian45]

Find your own