Can you explain why it is important to hold hands with your partner in public?

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DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Well for me when I am with my girl I just want to touch her and feel close to her. So it gives me that emotional reinforcement that I crave from my special lady. Some women would say its not their responsibility to reinforcement my ego, and may not feel the need to have to or be made to feel the need to hold my hand. To these type of women I would agree with them... but then they would not be "my" special lady.

I feel as a man that holding hands in public is the most appropriate form of public display of affection. It expresses your commitment to this person not only in private but in public. It expresses that you are not ashamed or embarced to display your attraction and love, and it reinforces your commitment to each other with physical as well as emotional bond.

I am a hand holder and I promote hand holding.

HighlyVolatile · Accepted Answer

I just feel like I'm leaving my girl hanging if I don't. I feel cold if I don't. I've surprised most girls, including my wife, when I held their hand for the first time. But it felt natural to me. I felt cold and mean-spirited if they were just walking alongside me -- or getting behind and trying to follow -- if I didn't offer a hand.

I walk kind of fast. I was a sprinter growing up. I like to move fast. And maybe that's why I feel like I should offer a hand to someone I care about so I don't leave them behind. It feels cold and harsh if I don't.

Some people might seem some warmth and affection with the way I do this. I see coldness and harshness if I don't do this. I'm not even being affectionate so much. I'm just trying to avoid being a cold-hearted man.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

It's not? If anything, it's mostly to show "possession" (this person is mine), to show them off, or a comfort concept.

Personally I've never been a fan of holding hands with a guy in public... unless it's cold outside and I need someone to warm my hands up, haha. Otherwise doing so, at least in public, is not a necessity so much as you letting others know that you're with said person.

On_cloud_wine · Accepted Answer

I met a guy at a bar once, and we left holding hands around town by the water. It seemed natural.. I felt safe and relaxed with him.. it was quite a randomn evening and I don’t get. a lot of those but holding hands with him.. I felt somewhat sage and protected and admired.. and this is just holding hands with a complete stranger I just met

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I don't think it is "important" but I enjoy it so I do it.

CurlyGirl42 · Answer

It is in general important for me to physically touch my partner. Makes our connection stronger plus touching makes me calm and gives me high well being and that is one thing I want especially from a romantic partner (compared to friends).
And if my partner did not want to hold hands just because we were in public, it would make me think he is not happy about how we look together as a couple and other negative thoughts about myself.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I can show im taken in other ways. I dont really like holding hands but i’ll do it if he wants. I also dont like Hugs unless they’re from behind which should be a dead giveaway that we’re together

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Not necessary, really.
But could be good..:
- If you enjoy it.
- If you are moving through a crowd and want to not get separated.
- Can be good for comfort.
- If you want to signal to the world that you're not available. This could be important to some as it shows your official, not ashamed or it could also be a sign because some is a bit jealous.

ohshee · Answer

For me its because I want to feel her energy I wanted to flow to the both of us it's an electrical connection and energy speaks through that touch I will be telling her how much did I love her and I care for her and I respect her how much I want her in my life and I don't care what anybody else thinks

GlassTop · Answer

Shows that you are ok with showing love and affection to your partner in public, and aren’t afraid to let people know that you are taken and romantically involved, not available in the dating pool. It also makes you closer with your partner, a good way to get over arguments and other things.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

I cannot tell you the importance, but whenever I see a couple with hands hold, I find it quite fulfilling and wholesome. Like a peace in myself. I don't know why but I just feel happy for that couple.

Cormac995 · Answer

It's reasuring and helps you bond. Studies have actually showed that people in relationships with a regular sex life and frequent physical affectionate contact are healthier and less likely to cheat on their partner

Sophxoxo · Answer

It’s not really too important, but it’s nice to feel physically tethered to someone while conquering the world. It’s also just nice to feel them there, physically.

TransAm85 · Answer

I haven't held hands w/my husband publicly since about December 2015 when we went to visit his family in Mexico and when they took us touring. But occasionally we hold hands during sex?

honeynut-scenarios · Answer

It’s important to hold hands before crossing the street so no one gets hit by a car. Any other time, I just hold his hand because I love him, and we like feeling close.

RobT312 · Answer

I don’t think it’s important. Not necessary to show public display of affection. for me a relationship is a personal thing, not necessary to show the public

TheorionMage · Answer

There are VARIOUS ways to hold hands... some show MUTUAL commitment, ... others one-sided possessiveness OR a Dom/Sub or 'wandering eye' unspoken situation.  ... Body language~

nitsuj86 · Answer

Because women want me to do it. So I do because it's not a huge deal. But it can get annoying if someone is constantly trying to hold your hand or hang on you.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I don't think it's 'important' as such.  But I really enjoy it, you feel connected to your partner, you feel close and it helps you to keep a similar pace.

Guy122 · Answer

Cuz it builds trust, which'd make your partner more comfortable, and most importantly it creates a sensibility that your always there for em, no matter what

IamAdonis · Answer

I don’t display public affection with just anyone … they must be a significant symbol in my life for me to extend my arm/hand in public. However, those that I do, it means something special to me.

himiko089 · Answer

So that maybe the people that pass by know that you are taken and/or the loving touh of each other makes you two come closer together<3

leighbee · Answer

Because it shows to other people that you're in a relationship. So you are more likely to get eyed up less or whatever and it makes you feel safe in a way I guess

HighValue · Answer

If someone doesn't want to do that with their partner I'd bet they aren't faithful and want to pretend to others that they aren't in a relationship/they are available.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If I had a girlfriend, I would hold her hand to show my love to her, I'm from America and you will even see older couples holding hands and it's so sweet

dustybiker · Answer

That would be a question for the partner themselves. For me it just comes naturally when you both like it.

loveslongnails · Answer

I don't think "important" is the right descriptor for it in most countries. However, it is VERY important to be careful where you do it in certain countries. Know the local rules, like never kiss in public in Dubai, EVEN if you're married.

weysally · Answer

its not important, but just a nice feeling, holding hands whether in public or in private, gives me a warm feeling of being wanted

Bluemax · Answer

Because touch is important for virtually all human beings. Whether or not it's in public is neither here nor there.

luvstoned4him · Answer

It's not that important just public display of affection but you don't have to do it if you don't want to

RawIronhide · Answer

It's not about showing off. I think I just want to hold em all the time. It feels good to be together, that's the only reason for me.

muscularbumblebee · Answer

I mean it’s not? People like doing it then cool, and it shows you’re together romantically I guess but I personally hate it and other PDA in general

LaNc3L0TT · Answer

Cuz that is some kind of "chain" that is bounding you together. And from my perspective something very important, specially in start of relationship.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Holding hands comes without thinking, public or not, this act makes the couple feel each other and makes them closer to each other and the man likes the touch of a girl'a hand and the girl feels safe when her man holds her hand 😌

Anonymous · Answer

Guess it's to show everyone the two of you are together. So, since nobody ever wanted to hold my hand in public, it means nobody ever wanted to show others we were together.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It connects you, joins you emotionally it’s a physical representation of ‘ i am here for you’

SavySav · Answer

It's not important... you shouldn't need to hold hands only if you want to

andreasderjuengere · Answer

With a firm grip I can pull her away from shoe shops and handbag shops :D This will secure our food shopping for another 1 or 2 months

Anonymous · Answer

Because holding hands is intimate and it's being possessive of each other. People release oxytocin when holding hands, the same hormone as cuddling does, the love/bonding hormone.

007kingifrit · Answer

for my safety. i bring a small woman with me everywhere i go so i can pic her up by the hand and beat would be attackers to death with her. that's why women wear sharp shoes on their other ends. to enhance the force of my blows

KatieB713 · Answer

It isn't 'important' as such, but can be nice and also useful if in crowded areas

Daniela1982 · Answer

So if one of you is looking at other girls or guys you can't smack the other.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think it matters as much to men as it does to women. I’m not saying there aren’t men who don’t like that. But like me I’m not going to get mad if we don’t hold hands in public.

mikaelis · Answer

Some people like holding things. Some like you probably don't. What's your opinion on hugs?

Darine123 · Answer

Because I’m so clumsy and need a guy to hold my hand all the time or when I cross the street a car will crash me😭

DonkeyDan · Answer

It shows you are not afraid of your commitment to eachother, and happy to show it.

jshm2 · Answer

She might fall down a manhole? Seriously, why gatekeep?

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think it's important and I don't like it, my hands get sweaty especially in summer and they get cold in winter so I don't like holding hand at all, it bother me.

msc545 · Answer

It feels really nice to be able to maintain a physical connection with your partner even in public. I enjoy holding hands with my significant other and look forward to doing it wherever we go.

checkingavailability · Answer

Its been 3 days. Still this question is on loop.. Hehehe

Yumix · Answer

It's not important. Do it if you feel like it but if for whatever reason you don't, then that's perfectly fine too

Waldoe · Answer

So, I don't get lost and wander off with the Nice Lady with the big tits...

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

It’s a a comfort thing for me. Just a nice feeling.

MickHardin · Answer

So you can get more attention and let everyone know that you are hum_ing this dog.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

So none of you gets lost lol. It's easy to get separated from people in crowds.

Nebulosity · Answer

I think it gives confidence like maybe on a sub conscious level. One girl i knew in school felt confidant knowing like "I got you" kinda feeling when holding hands

IsoUser · Answer

I think that it is somewhat important in that it shows openly commitment to one another.

Juan_Sheet · Answer

It isn't important, but it feels nice to know she is beside me and feeling the same way as I do.

MountAverage · Answer

It isn't to me. Most of the time I even dislike it.

Iron_Man · Answer

It shows a connection a good way to bond And it shows that you’re not afraid to do it in public

boobliker · Answer

no hate doing it But i guess it shows' love to others and some want that

Anonymous · Answer

it's often pushed by women to make sure she is not a side hoe that guy is using for sex and telling his actual wife/girlfriend that she is just a friend.

anton_dee · Answer

There is no "rule" that you should hold hands. Wanna hold cool, don't wanna hold, that cool too...

Anonymous · Answer

It feels nice like you love each other and it’s like a public acknowledgment of your relationship. It’s feels like you’re connected to that person.

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