Why do guys only want to hookup with me?

[Anonymous]

I have talked to soo many guys over the past 3 years and nothing has ever worked out. The pattern I have been noticing is that guys are only ever interested in hooking up with me, never dating. To make it clear, I never actually end up hooking up with these guys - the most I have ever done with some of them is makeout. At the end, they always say "I am not ready for a relationship yet" or something along those lines. I can't say that these guys are the type to not get into relationships because sometimes I end up finding out that they are dating another person months later. Is there something wrong with me? Why am I good enough for a hookup but not a relationship? I have tried talking to a wide range of different types of guys but it's always the same thing.

[Anonymous]

It's not you, and there's nothing wrong with you... it's the sexually promiscuous culture and times we live in. Everything is more about satisfying genitals egos, and libidoes.

Girls keep giving it up without commitment. They shoot all women in the foot, essentially giving all women reputations doing that. Why would a guy commit if he can get laid without doing so? Why would a woman agree to getting laid without a commitment?

If that's not you, then look at others and see them as the reason men want nothing more than sex from you.

Guys have their own problems. They'll say it's the age old argument of nature and instinct to justify pollenating as many flowers as possible, when in truth, it's a lack of self control and self respect. They'll take what they can get, and if she's going to be difficult about it, they'll just go somewhere else... and they'll screw multiple women at the same time. It's just what some guys do.

You need to put it out there... no sex without a commitment, and stick to it. What? You're worried you'll appear prudish, or never know the pleasure of getting laid? There's the rub. Only you can decide how important your self respect is to you. No one is going to hang around if you keep opening the door to casual, and giving it away for free.

And yes, I realize you're not opening the door and giving it away for free. It's just a figure of speech The reasons guys say they're not ready for a relationship is because they want free pussy... anyone's they can get. Tying themselves to one woman limits their ability and many guys don't want that. It just works out that you're on the shitty end of the stick because you're finding ones that only want to get laid.

Head up, keep your standards, stick to your guns. You'll find someone.

[Anonymous]

I will never understand these questions. Women changed the market by embracing casual sex and men stopped expecting commitment. Actions and consequences... cause and effect. There may not be anything wrong with you...99% of guys just want sex. Commitment used to be a requirement in order to gain access to regular sex, now it is not. Therefore good luck trying to find any commitment. In other words women were fed BS and most of them fell for it.

Women were supposed to be the gatekeepers of sex, and men have always been the gatekeepers of relationships. Once women opened their gates and allowed a flood of casual sex, men stopped concerning themselves with relationships and in essence of shut the gates.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Usually at our age range, most people are just looking for fun, non committed, casual hookups or friends with benefits. I noticed that when I started dating.
I don’t know you, your personality, or your looks, so I can’t judge you and know what is wrong with you… But I do have to ask, do you let them know that you want something serious? Telling them that you don’t want hookups?
Here’s the thing, you need to put up boundaries. When you meet someone on a dating app or wherever you meet guys, you need to let them know from the start your expectations and what you are looking for. And be strict with it too. Put your boundaries up. Don’t give into sex or even making out. That will show you who is serious about it and who isn’t.
Age is a big factor as I said. The college age is just a breeding ground (literally lol) for hookups.

[Anonymous]

When I was your age, I had the same problem. It's not you. it's the truth of the dating game. It's options based.
In the age range that you are in most guys who have the privilege of sleeping around or holding out on relationships until they meet the best (in most cases, most attractive/appealing) girl they can find, are going to do that. The guys who don't have many options, or you're the best option they can find, are going to be the ones to want a relationship.

[GJ2154]

Only a small percentage of guys are able to do that.

[Opinion Owner]

@GJ2154 You've dated guys too?

[GJ2154]

Nope, I'm simply speaking from a more realistic perspective. Most men don't have the same amount of options women have.

[Opinion Owner]

@GJ2154 Ok. so you wouldn't really know what dating guys is like from a woman's perspective?

[GJ2154]

Yes, I know you have dozens of options to choose from, unlike most men. It's not that hard to grasp.

[Opinion Owner]

@GJ2154 Oh but it is. How do you KNOW when you're not a woman or one of us who's dating men?

[GJ2154]

Easy, I've seen it first handedly from female co workers I used to know. Some weren't even a 5 on a 10 scale and still had dozens of options to choose from. How many are you getting? 2-300? Lol

[Opinion Owner]

@GJ2154 "Some weren't even a 5 on a 10 scale"... So, who are the 2's on a 1-10 scale of men suppose to chase? The 10s are far out of their league. Oh wait... or is this where the woman is suppose to be attractive to the guy but she is to be content that any guy wants her. He is to be attracted to her but she doesn't get to pick who she's attracted to. I've never seen a woman have many "options" of men she's attracted to.

[Mofunfour20]

Because you're displaying hookup tendencies. If you displayed yourself as a long term option for men, they wouldn't try to hookup as much. It's not difficult to tell if a woman Is easy

[Jamie05rhs]

You must be putting out signals that attract them.

Try changing what you're "looking for" in your profile. I always swipe left on the girls who include the option for "hookups."

[TommyMountainFigure]

You must be doing something wrong, but from your question I can't fathom what it might be.

[Anonymous]

welcome to female empowerment 😀 why be in a relationship and wait for sex with one chick who isn't anything special when the chick down the street is fine hooking up on the first date

[TheMajesticKing777]

I don't mean any offense by this but how do you usually dress? 🤔

[Cowboy6666]

Well you can talk to me and I might be interested in you for dating :) I want to know about your personality and behaviour :)

Just follow my profile and we will talk, if you want :)

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment to get sex.
Women wanted equality and freedom.
This is the consequence.

[Reijen]

Considering you've identified you're the common thread, you've got a good start.
What are some thoughts on why you think this is the case?

[IsoUser]

Sounds to me like you're interested in attracting a guy for a one night hookup and that's very dangerous for YOU!

[bamesjond0069]

Something about you comes off as dealbreaker to the guys.

[Deserter]

Probably your vibe, but that's just a guess, I don't know you

[Alwayreckles93]

It's not you guys your age are jerks.

[Anonymous]

Is he a hooker?