How likely is it to find a guy who’s willing to wait 6 months for sex in a committed relationship?

[Anonymous]

I understand to a lot of people waiting that long is pretty useless and I respect that. I literally have like barely any sexual attraction to anyone ever and have no sex drive so, I really need to connect with someone before I even want to consider having sex with them. This does mean like once were in a relationship after 6 months I won’t have sex as often as my partner would like I just also don’t value that much and would prefer to wait a while. What are my chances of a guy waiting 6 months while in a committed relationship to have sex. Also for anyone wondering why 6 months exactly, I just think half a year is a decent amount of time to get to know someone.

Yes

No

[DaveJord]

For me i do not like people putting any expectation or limitation on a potential relationship prior to it even getting started. No it not that I won't wait 6 months, but if you are saying its because;

"I literally have like barely any sexual attraction to anyone ever and have no sex drive.."

Then I would not wait 5 minutes before leaving. And honestly putting out all the energy to really develop a strong emotional attachment without sex is hard for guys... nobody wants to waste their time and put out all the effort to only find out later the sex is terrible. Most people what the question answered soon than later before even trying.

[slatyb]

Why I won't wait six months: "I literally have like barely any sexual attraction to anyone ever and have no sex drive." That's what I would expect from someone who wanted to wait and wait and wait.

Don't think you should disclose this before someone invests months in dating you?

[Asker]

I would but they would still have to wait six months. When did I even alude to not telling my partner I’m mostly not thinking about sex?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

It’s kinda unlikely unless you find someone who is similar to you (which would be labeled as demisexual), or is waiting for marriage.


I’m the same. I waited a long time before I actually got intimate with my boyfriend. I’ve had exes before who I have dated for 1-2 years and didn’t sleep with them…


People are willing to wait, but you’ve got to share the same values and views. Otherwise, it’s unlikely because most people nowadays expect it in a relationship.

[Varanus]

That sounds more like a close friend than a romantic partner. I mean, there are some asexual men out there, but not a lot. Sex is a really important part of most relationships, and sexual incompatibility is very frequently a deal-breaker, so wasting 6 months of your life just to find out your partner and you don't like the same things in bed sounds pretty awful.

[StephiC]

Well there's a lot of community deck out there that won't wait, which is fine, it's disease ridden anyway.

Hold out for the guy that you want and that sexually stimulates you mentally and emotionally first. With the right man you may not need 6 months but he also won't want to rush you

[Anonymous]

If a guy is truly interested in a relationship with you, it won't be a problem. The hard part these days is finding anyone looking for a relationship period, no matter who with. But I also believe it's not something you can put a specific time frame on. Every relationship is different.

[Drumlin2001]

You mean 6onths then a healthy sex life? Or six months then an awkward sex life cause you're not really into it? Personally I think I would be put off cause I'm not sure we'd have same expectations for our sexlife

[Anonymous]

I am a virgin and probably gonna wait but I don't think most men will wait that long. Plus, even though I can wait but it depends. If you don't show any affection, I will consider that as non-interested and leave you for good, half a year is a lot of time.

[Asker]

I mean we’d still go on dates, hug, kiss, cuddle, etc (which is honestly how I view a relationship) but just not having sex for 6 months.

[Opinion Owner]

I can wait for that as I also like getting to know the other person first. I have rejected sexually advanced before as I didn't like the girl at all (not for religious reasons). But if you are asking for most men, they will not wait for that much.

[Opinion Owner]

But on the other hand, you seem sex-negative and perhaps will not put any effort after six months too so can't really say...

[Asker]

I’m pretty sex neutral. I care about dating and falling in love so I understand sex is part of that for the vast majority of the population. I’d be willing to have sex as often as my partner wants to because I understand it’s important to a relationship for him and I would like him to be happy.

[Mofunfour20]

Hell NO. That guy will probably be unattractive to most women

[Asker]

Not trying to say your wrong or anything but like what should I do then?

[Mofunfour20]

Ask your dad what qualities you should look for in a man to be in a relationship with. Since he isn't trying to sleep with you, he can be honest

[Asker]

No like I already know qualities I’m just saying I don’t want to have sex without really liking the guy and that will take a minimum of like 5-6months. Otherwise I just kinda don’t find them attractive in any sort of sexual manner. I was just asking how should I go about navigating that considering you don’t think it’s possible?

[Mofunfour20]

Any guy that would wait that long isn't a man you would find attractive. If he is, you're gonna wonder if he has other women. You're literally shooting your foot off with that logic. If you have to wait that long you may go old and grey beforehand. Your chances of securing a man decrease the closer you get to 30 so it's your choice

[Asker]

Man I don't know I can’t just magically make myself want to have sex with people🤨

[Mofunfour20]

Figure out what attracts you to men and lean into that. How else would you find the person you want to be with. Regardless, keep your body could low. That way when you find him, he won't see hoe like tendencies

[Asker]

Honestly guy the advice about finding what’s attractive to you is important but like outside of that some of the stuff your saying is just like lowkey I don't know out of touch from like what I’m looking for. Anyways thank you for responding

[Mofunfour20]

The funny part is you're asking guys for the advice you want to hear, no wonder you keep asking questions 😂🤣😂🤣😂😂😂

[Mofunfour20]

Women will tell you what you wanna hear, make it sound nice. Men are brutally honest, something tells me you already know that

[Asker]

Guy you seem to have some pretty big generalizations about women. I don’t mind differing opinions and I understand the majority of guys are willing to wait. I’m honestly even open to hearing why or how some people couldn’t go without sex but your just too negative. Like I can’t take advice from someone who probably listens to like alpha male podcasts yk

[Asker]

Aren’t willing to wait***

[tzdc21]

If he's waiting six months, you are gonna blue ball him to death.

[bamesjond0069]

I waited 9 months with one girl and 11 months with another. Both were virgins and very high quality women. Id not wait that long otherwise though.

[Cowboy6666]

Well I have waited more than 6 months before, but... Are you sure you have less sex drive?

[Asker]

Honestly I don’t know. I’m just kinda not interested in sex although I’m not against it. I keep getting told 6 months is unreasonable so I’m kinda relieved to have found someone who waited longer. Thanks for the response!!

[Cowboy6666]

Well I have waited for more than 1 year. Maybe I can wait again if I know this girl is serious for me and committed to me. I prefer open minded, kind, having some sense of humor girl. I don't like racist or super rude girls

[Asker]

These all seem like really good values and you yourself seem to be a pretty good guy. One final question before I leave you alone!! Is there any advice for finding guys willing to wait like locations or things to identify? (do really respectful guys tend to congregate in libraries or something😂)

[Cowboy6666]

Well you can ask more questions and about anything anytime, I won't get bored. Lol
I respect your way of thinking 😊
Thanks for your precious opinion about me 😊
I don't know which country you from?
If you don't mind you can follow my profile and discuss there 😊☺

[Anonymous]

If that girl has fucked other dudes that she barely knew, then FUCK NO.
Giving up the gut hole for “chad” and then expecting a guy you want to wait for it... fuck that shit.

[Wise4myage]

About as rare as finding a frog in the Sahara Desert, lol.

[Rangers]

Me and my long distance girlfriend have been together for 18 months, so yeah we exist

[Dchrls78104]

I am such a guy. Sex, I believe, is sacred and not to be rushed.

[vanshh]

Well, I am that kinda guy to be very honest. I think the probability of getting a guy like us is.001

[jjj101010]

Depends if u r offering alternative relief while he waits

[UniquelyBasic]

What do you define as sex?

[Asker]

I don't know man like anything sexual (Oral, anal, penetration, etc.)

[UniquelyBasic]

I wouldn't be able to wait 6 months for a woman I like to brush up against my penis even just slightly.

[Mofunfour20]

Facts, its a problem that any woman would even ask this. What would you even do for 6 months if you're not talking to other women?

[Shamalien]

For a high quality woman I would wait

[Flower7]

Very unlikely.

[Asker]

I hope this don’t come across in a mean way or anything saying your wrong or something but, like if it’s very unlikely what do you suggest?

[Flower7]

I don’t have any suggestions, but I just know that most guys behave like they’re desperate for sex, so I feel like finding someone different would be a rare thing. Nothing wrong with that and I hope you do find one, but I just feel like it would be difficult to find.

[Asker]

No that makes a lot of sense. Thank you for your reply!!

[Fuentes]

Not likely