Would it be weird to add a girl on facebook who I kind of know?

[Anonymous]

She and I talk and have proper conversations everytime we see each other. She and I know each others name. By sheer luck I accidentally came across her on my people you may know list on facebook cause she has 1 mutual friend of mine. Would it be weird to add her?

She is a coffee shop lady and I'm a customer. Would it still be weird.

[Chris_Chambers0010]

It's worth a try.
If she accepts and messages you it will have been worth it.
If she ignores it, oh well, at you know where she stands.

[Asker]

I'm just worried I'll come off as a creepy customer that added her

[Chris_Chambers0010]

Do you think you two are compatible physically and otherwise?
I mean there's a big difference between trying to get closer to a woman who is flirting back and attracted to you as well, or trying to get someone who's in a different league.
If she seems into you go for it, but if she's way hotter than most women you've dated and she's just being nice because it's he job then it may not go your way. You're gonna have to be realistic and decide if it's worth it. There's nothing wrong with sending a friend request and saying hi though.
That's what Facebook's for.

[Asker]

I didn't know she was friends with my cousin. But she was the one who started waving and smiling at me when I was a complete stranger to her. She just got overly excited with me. She has asked me questions like where I grew up, what suburb I live in, who I went hiking with on Saturday etc. So even has asked me how my police application is going

[Asker]

She is just your normal average girl. She studying to be a nurse. She just seems so normal and she always asks me how work is going.

[Chris_Chambers0010]

It sounds like she has an interest in you. Good luck, I hope you make a connection.

[Asker]

Do you think I'll come off as a creep

[Chris_Chambers0010]

You will come across a guy who's interested in her.
She's either going to be happy to talk to you, or she's not. It would only be creepy if you were asking her for nudes or saying sexual things, or coming on too strong.
All you have to do is be honest. Say that you recognised her on your People you may know list and just wanted to say hi. Ask her how her how things are going and see if she seems into talking or not.
That's all you can do.
You win some, you lose some, but "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take " according to hockey player Wayne Gretzsky. Lol.

[Asker]

Do I say that in person about the people you may know list thing to her

[Chris_Chambers0010]

Do whatever you like, but it is true that most women respond well to confidence.
If she's honestly attracted to you then just talk to her on facebook or in person.
Generally I like when women make the first move and start up a conversation because it lets me know that she's open to wanting to talk to me. It seems like this woman has tried to talk to you so I think it's worth it for you to continue the conversation wherever possible.
Just be nice and sweet and polite to her and see where it takes you.

[Asker]

So you don't think it's weird?

[Chris_Chambers0010]

I used to chat with so many women on Facebook that I can't even remember most of them.
There was one woman overseas who actually took all of my pictures from my facebook profile and added her pictures and sent me a slideshow of our pictures together set to music.
That was unusual, but just adding somebody you actually know and saying hi isn't weird.
She's either into you or she isn't. If she ghosts you it might be a little awkward at the coffee shop from now on. Oh well, at least you would know whether to pursue her or move on.
If you do nothing, then you never know.

[Asker]

I'm just scared she will think I'm odd. I would I explain to her she happened to pop up on my people you may know list

[Chris_Chambers0010]

If you truly feel uncomfortable about contacting her on facebook that's fine, you don't have to do it.
It sounds like you may have some nervousness because you don't have experience with that.
There's always other strategies in the meantime. You can make sure you look as good as possible anytime you might see her at the coffee shop. Be sure to say hello if she talks to you, and play the long game until she makes a move. That could take forever or possibly never happen.
Contacting women on facebook is a risk I guess, but it lets you know pretty quickly whether your wasting your time or not. I think the thing you need to work on is realizing that there's billions of women out there. Some are gonna want to get to know you, and others are not even gonna respond. You need to accept that and move on quickly if they ignore you. Don't get hung up on one person or put too much value in what she thinks about you. Don't be rude to her or anything, just say hi and if she responds, great. If she doesn't, you just forget her and move on.

[Asker]

Do I have to message her straight away explaining why I added her? Or will she work that bit out

[Chris_Chambers0010]

It doesn't matter.
When I say that women like confidence I mean they like a guy who isn't so easily affected.
Worrying about what she's gonna think and over analyzing every word you might say is gonna appear desperate. You never want to appear desperate.
Just talk to women in a relaxed way as if there's no pressure. You're supposed to enjoy interacting with her, it shouldn't be so terrifying. Just start out by treating her as a possible friend. Be nice, say hello, and if she's honestly attracted to you she's gonna make it easy for you to talk to her.
If she isn't into you she will probably seem closed off and have an excuse why she can't talk.

[Asker]

She is friends with my cousin. like She just by coincidence popped up on my people I may know list. I didn't even know she knew my cousin

[Rainbowdash990]

No it wouldn’t be weird