Have you ever made an assumption and rejected yourself to avoid the hurt of feeling rejection?

[Rab1901]

Ex. I'm a black woman and he probably doesn't even talk to black women.
I'm a short guy, and she probably only talks to guys who are 6ft or taller.
I'm an Asian guy, and she probably doesn't like Asian guys.
I'm shy, and he/she probably won't like that I get nervous.
I'm thick, and he/she probably will only date someone thinner.

I have

I have not

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I mean specifically an assumption about how someone would be not attracted to you because of one or more of your traits.

[Anonymous]

I have. I told myself that he would never choose me bc I’m younger than him (he has told me before that he strictly only date older girls and has never been attracted to anyone younger than him ever) so I took it as an immediate rejection. Turns out he’s head over heels for me lol

[Rab1901]

oh so what's going to happen between you two? what are your ages?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m only 4 years younger than him. But all of his exes and past hookups are all girls who are 2-6 years older than him, he’s never even been attracted to anyone the same age as him. We’re dating now but he still brings up the fact that he can’t believe he’s fallen for someone younger than him and it makes me feel insecure at times…

[Rab1901]

that is odd actually. you should tell him to stop bringing it up because it makes you feel that way. if he doesn't listen, I really think you should think carefully about how you want to proceed with your relatioship

[Opinion Owner]

I did and he's actually saying it with a positive intention (as in wow I would've never thought that I could fall for someone younger and yet here you are, you're the only person that could've done that I love you blablabla) but still I just end up feeling like I'm not good enough or that I'm not the "ideal" girl bc I don't fit his type lol it's all just my insecurity talking tho

[Juxtapose]

All the time and I have reason to! I'm autistic so I know most people aren't gonna truly accept me. 😅

I'm not concerned with them! I'm concerned with finding that person who can make my heart pound in my chest.. my eyes tear up because I am so grateful to share love with them.

Show me heaven on earth, give me an eternity of devotion and I will give you my all in return. I will fight and die by your side with a smile!