My boyfriend is busy with bullying his ex online, he has hacked her gmail, is this normal?

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What should You do?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

The very first thing you should do is understand what you just said if he does it to her he's going to do it to you except for 10 times worse

Then you have to ask yourself do you want to be with a guy like this it is capable of hurting you in many different ways because if anything's ever to happen between you two he's going to do it to you too I would run right now I wouldn't look back I would probably kill his X2 because it's just wrong morally ethically

I think you in a bad position right now and I think it sucks done with him doing what he's doing is basically telling you exactly what kind of guy he is who he is it's your choice to listen to that and run or stay and sooner or later believe me you'll be going to the same thing just because he says he loves you that means nothing you know what he's capable of doing and he will do it run run run

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Anyone who still wants revenge on an ex has not concluded his previous relationship and is not emotionallly available for a new partner. Why are you with this guy?

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

If he is bullying this woman, this isn't normal. And why is he still involved with her after he's broken up with her. He clearly has NOT gotten over ending the relationship.

And if he is bullying this woman, why do you think he won't eventually bully YOU?

I'd back off of a relationship with someone who is acting in this manner. He needs to clean house and to stop his aggressive behavior.

You should have a talk with him, and don't accept him doing this if he's with you. It's abusive. This isn't isolated behavior. He will do this with you sometime in the future. I'd leave.

anniisa97 · Accepted Answer

He obviously wants her back. I dont care what excuses he gives you, thats not normal by any means. He's obsessed with her and I would be very concerned for her safety.

Get away from this guy. Even if he does manage to leave her alone, he will turn into a very controlling, abusive partner. Red flags everywhere.

I would also reach out to her, and tell her the situation if she doesn't know already that he's behind it all. Please tell her because there's so many cases where things like this end up in murder.

Sixgunsound · Answer

When someone shows you who they really are, believe them. Not only are there unresolved issues with his ex that he still values more than he cares about you because he willing to do this in front of you, but there is no reason to believe you won’t be in the line of fire once he either finishes his revenge on her or you manage to do something that offends him worse than what she did. For your own safety and for the good of humanity, please encourage him to get some therapy on your way out the door once you have created a viable exit strategy.

Lliam · Answer

That's some fucked up, narcissistic shit. His behavior is cruel and sadistic. That kind of bullying can drive the victims to suicide. It sounds like that's what he wants.
I believe his behavior is also criminal, and rightly so.

Why are you with that dangerous psychopath?

abc3643 · Answer

Not only is it not normal, it's a felony!
You need to do the following in this order:
1. Without telling him, create new accounts and IDs shifting them to the new account. Even consider getting a new phone with a new phone number.
2. Dump him, but in a really nice way so he doesn't suspect that you are doing so because he is a controlling, obsessive, sociopath.

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Also, you should let the ex-GF know.

DaveJord · Answer

No it obsessive behavior, and it means obviously he still has feelings for her and not over it. Its huge RED FLAG and you should run from these types of people. Just think what he might do to you some day. It straight up creepy ass stalker bull shit, and very dangerous behavior.

dorksided1 · Answer

He is a goofball, he is obvi still hung up on her and obsessed. For you it is not healthy or fair. Instead of lying to everyone saying he is giving her hope, he should seek a mental health professional in his area.

sissyalexa · Answer

No that's disgusting 😐 if that's how this guy treats people then he is definitely twisted and sounds horrible!

I'd say it's also very clear he is not over his ex so there are some more warning signs there

It kind of also shows the level of respect he has for people, it seems like if he doesn't like someone he thinks he has the right to harass and abuse them 😒

No offence intended but the guy sounds rotten!
Do yourself a favour and run!

Dude_777 · Answer

The only thing i understand is that he is going to do the exact same to you as well. So stop worrying about his ex and start worrying about yourself about what will he will do to you after he breaks up with you. 😂😂.

It isn't normal, he is some piece of work.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

That's not normal. That's not your boyfriend. If he's bullying her like this he's not completely over his ex. You should not have gotten involved with him in the first place, not should he have put himself out there in that way, until he had gotten over her.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

He has problems, maybe consider getting far away from him as possible considering he's not right in the mind and that he is still obsessed with his ex, if you break up with him, he's gonna have 2 exes to hack and bully 😂

Lionman95 · Answer

I think it´s weird and shows that he´s not over her. I´d probably try to talk with him about it but chances are that he won´t. He surely has some problem with her either jealousy or some hurt he put him under.

Anonymous · Answer

He’s not over her. The opposite of love isn’t hate. It’s indifference.

If I were you I would give him an ultimatum. Tell you understand he likely went through a horrible experience. But he needs to put that behind him if he is going to move forward with you.

Let him know you will only tell him this once. He’s got one opportunity to get his act together or it’s not going to workout. He will either change or he won’t. This crap keep going on. It’s disrespectful to you.

nikiWerduch18 · Answer

I’m sorry but he sounds extremely childish and he’s clearly not over her , if he has the time and energy to bully her like some 5 year old lol

n4meAL · Answer

lol do you really know if your boyfriend hacked his gmail or just heard from his mouth , honestly i have had experience about hacking world since 2017 and most people usually lie if he can hack to make him look cool , lol🤣🤣🤣🤣

Rei13 · Answer

I feel like you need to run, that is a major red flag. I would definitely secure all of your social media etc before breaking up with him if that is the route you choose to go

DarkWinterNights · Answer

This sounds like a very toxic relationship. He obviously has unresolved issues with his ex. Every bit of time he is spending focused on her is time he isn’t spending on you. Find a new boyfriend.

SamIam96 · Answer

Hell, no. Not the least bit normal. When is he going to turn on you? Time to move on. The guy's nothing but trouble.

genericname85 · Answer

i'm quite sure he hasn't "hacked" her gmail. he just figured out her passwords... i don't believe he's able to hack google of all places.

anyway: this is how he treats exes. so probably best to get away from that guy.

sahaaaaar · Answer

He acts like a child and he is just wasting time. He must be responsible, he's dating you now so he must be careful with your feelings, cus after all, you are his real girlfriend

yucychan · Answer

Why are you with someone that is so childish and petty? So instead of spending time with you, like what he should be doing, he spends it on his ex? And you asked us if this was normal?

KarinMcDonald · Answer

Just so you know: this is exactly how he will treat you when you've finally had enough of his shit! He's controlling and an asshole. Now's your chance to be free!

desidoll · Answer

He is obviously not over her yet. Looks like he has unfinished business with her and you are probably a rebound. This is something serious. I won’t take it lightly.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Yeah, I would honestly leave.  He's clearly not over his ex, and it's very unattractive to behave that way in general.  Giant red flag.

Miristheiss · Answer

It sounds like there is some bitterness from him towards her and he is wanting some kind of revenge.  What went down between them? Was there a bad break up... did she wrong him some how?

Anonymous · Answer

No he has issues i got really pissed at this girl I loved having sex with when she broke up with me but I was in a bad place mentally and I wasn’t even treating her like I cared about her I’d only hit her up for sex and I got really angry at her and I feel bad about it now because she was so sweet kind and really liked me a lot but I needed therapy and counseling because I was mistreating her and got angry when she left if only I could turn back time

SnakeBoop · Answer

He's a fucking weirdo.  Evidence this and give to police. Then run the fuck away

AviatorTom · Answer

Your boyfriend's actions indicate that he is controlling and dangerous. Strongly consider leaving him and find a nicer guy.

bubbles328 · Answer

Dump him. He’s clearly not over her and is trying to keep her wanting him. He treats her this way he will also do the same to you

bolverk · Answer

No it is not normal, if the situation changes he could end up doing the same to you. I suggest you let this relationship die.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

She as in his ex is his current victim & don’t be surprised if the joker does it to you next or has already hacked your accounts.

WhitneySnow · Answer

That’s not normal at all. He’s obviously obsessed with her. I might think about breaking up with him.

Bananacake83 · Answer

Free advice, leave that guy. He would be disrespectful with you at the same way.

lrina · Answer

oh shit, you may want to report him to the police or something and break up with him. stay safe.

KennethNoisewater · Answer

What should I do? Well, he isn't hacking me and he isn't my boyfriend.  But I got a question for you. What should you do?

vduong1988 · Answer

omg you should break up with him and he hacking his ex account that’s really wrong

yolandra · Answer

No it's not. What he's doing shows that he isn't over her. If he was he would have let her be

Dburns1268 · Answer

RUN, RUN, RUN... VERY FAST!! That shit is psychological shit and u don't need that!!!

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

He is doing this to make her jealous, tell him you will move on if he doesn't grow up and stop acting immature

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Remember, what this asshole does to her, sooner or later he will do to you.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

What an asshole. This is not normal, and I would say leave him.

OddBeMe · Answer

Uh no…I mean “normally” it’s the guy who does this. And normally it gets really compulsive and she should start filing police reports immediately. Tell her to keep as much evidence as possible.

Staximus · Answer

Dump him, leave him. You don't need that kind of guy in your life. Tell him that behavior is unacceptable, and he needs to move on and leave her alone.

GenaBaby1995 · Answer

Really, what do you think is going to happen to you next after you break up?

DaddyDiablo · Answer

No that's what psychopathic or social pathic tendencies I believe I have psychopathic tendencies

nawtee_me · Answer

He is still obsessed with her, you need to leave him as his obsession will only get worse. When you two break up he will do the same to you. You can see how he really is...

True_Sage · Answer

Well that isn't the reason he is doing it, so maybe find someone who actually understands themselves. That's total BS.

Raphaëlle · Answer

Obsessed behaviour and he wants revenge? It's not normal.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If he does it to her, he could do it to you. Good luck

zagor · Answer

Looks like a red flag. But secure your social media before breaking up...

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That's completely inappropriate. You need to make him stop -- for the sake of all women everywhere! If he doesn't listen, break up with him.

Zolly99999 · Answer

No this is not normal and he needs to be stopped... What do you think he will do to you if you break up?

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

If you don't think he's cheating or something, let him have his fun.

spandersat · Answer

That is not normal and sounds like something to worry about. What is to stop him from doing that to you?

Anonymous · Answer

Talk to his ex and figure out how to please him sexually

Klinklins · Answer

Kick his ass. Warn him !! if he does that again, smack his balls

TallAnon · Answer

No, that's illegal and obsessive. By the way, he didn't hack it, he just guessed her password.

standardguy · Answer

Perhaps you should tell him to let this be or he will loose you. Have a bit female solidarity.

DARKCLOUD1945X · Answer

Say bye bye and get the hell out of there cover your trail because you next

spiralshape · Answer

If he keeps on doing that CALL THE POLICE IMMEDIATELY.

MountAverage · Answer

Why are you dating a bully who stalks and harrasses his ex? What is wrong with you? Disgusting.

Anonymous · Answer

No thats a felony or two right there.  I'd have him imprisoned.

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