Do you check a girl's weight and height on dating apps before messaging them?

[Anonymous]

Not me, just a photo from google search.

Yes I do check it.

No I don't check it.

[Phoenix-gb]

Height isn't something that bothers me too much, and most people aren't going to post their weight but I will look at the provided photos to see if there is a level of attraction. Not exactly bothered by the total the scale shows, more just "am I attracted to that person's physical appearance?" If you count that as checking then yes, I guess I do, but I personally don't think so, so I put no.

[Asker]

That's pretty much the same thing I do.
While I do care a bit about height, usually it's pretty unnecessary to check out their exact weight / height if you can see pictures of them.

[Anonymous]

What women list these things? 1 in a million? Lol
I really don't care what she weighs she can be 100lbs. Or 250lbs. I'm either attracted or I'm not. And while I don't care what height she is. I tend to get turned off by taller women because I'm well over 6 feet tall and I don't like women messaging me primarily because of that fact. I know most women are going to say they don't. But most of the women near 6 feet tall almost always say they're only interested in a guy over 6 feet tall, so I know they do. In other words if you're interested in knowing me. Message me because you want to know who I am. Not what I am.

[dorksided1]

They have a weight division? or you mean by checking out pics for weight? I think someone legitly looking for love will take into consideration your pics but also what you write about yourself. My one friend is overweight and had no issue finding her husband online. They connected on interests and it went from there

[lrina]

i would've definitely done that. oh and also by the way you might be better off if you switch to another camera angle, since the current angle is atrocious. it makes your head look big and everything else small, it stands out very much. i'd hold the camera straighter or something.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice.
Tho there's a "Not me, just a photo from google search." sentence under the image.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker But we all know you're lying.

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs Do a reverse image search then genius...

[dragoblack]

Though many think it's petty or some other degration insult, but everyone has preferences in an ideal person they can get along with. Some people's preferences come from dating history of what they want to avoid.
One should not be insulted or degraded for having preference... now insulting those who don't meet your preferences is a different matter, that's just being an asshole.
Me personally I like athletic, muscular, and petite women who are passionate about their hobbies and interests, but i find no interest in women with big butts, big breasts, or are overweight. Many people get mad about it, but like women say to butt hurt guys..."i don't have to date you or find you attractive. "

[ZackBan]

Don't care about height since I'm tall myself so she can't be way too tall for me and short doesn't bother me.
Weight however I do check. Now I don't have insane weight standards but at the same time I'm not intersted in someone that is morbidly obese

[DaveJord]

I do not check her height and weight, but the pictures matter... so if the pictures are not good then I would not message her. You can be bigger and look good, but not all women can... like the one above does not look good larger. With a different body shape the weight would not matter.

[ohshee]

No I dont check it out I'm more concerned about the parrot lady on the shoulder show the picture of the left hand side you can see what happens when she loses that that lady and becomes the lady on the right hand side picture know to be honest with you I just look into the eyes that's who I want to see who she is

[HawkPerception]

Height yes. I prefer if the girl is shorter than me. Weight... I kinda just guess by looking at her profile pics as most dating sites don't disclose that info. Weight is important to me because I myself live an fit lifestyle and would love to have a partner that's the same in that regard.

[MCheetah]

Yes I do check it because 1) I LOVE tall girls (5'9"/10" and up) and 2) certain girls will tell you right away if they don't want to date short guys (less than six feet tall). The weight I don't care about that much, but I do love a thicker girl.

And this tall woman posted here looks better on the left. She just needed a dress that isn't so ugly.

[libsaretards]

I do check it. I have a medical background and this is one of the indicators of whether or not she takes her health seriously. She does not have to be perfect. A little bit overweight for her height is fine. However, there is a point where the girl is clearly unhealthy. Looks is not the reason this matters to me. I check this because I need a partner who will be healthy enough to stick around for a while.

[cookiecrusher]

Not height, but weight yes.
It's a good indicator of her lifestyle and other personality traits.

Height i don't care about, it's not something a woman can control.

I do like tiny women more but have also dated a really tall woman, much taller than me. Not an issue.

[Asker]

Unless someone's like 300 pounds morbidly obese or some other extremes I don't think it tells much about someone's personality.
As for height, fair enough.

[cookiecrusher]

Of course it does.

Crazy fit, skinny starved, vegeterian body, somebody who lifts heavy, runners body, models body, instas fake butt, regular bodyshape, skinny fat, a bit of fat around, chubby, fat, obese etc

They all tell a story and knowing the actual weight along with profile images, helps to draw a picture of what the person is like, what values they have inlife and etc.

Of course it matters.

[Asker]

Yeah of course when it comes to the extremes it does tell about their personality but like good luck judging the difference in a personality between someone with a bmi of 26 and a person with a bmi of 28.

[cookiecrusher]

No need, as i wouldn't date somebody who doesn't value their health nor looks like somebody with an active lifestyle. Not for me.

BMI 25 and up is considered overweight, and if a woman hasn't trained at all then this is mostly fat.

Thus for the need of pictures or a first date to have a look at her myself.

And people (men and women) who don't answer height or weight or similar touchy questions are just immature.

You are looking for a partner, they will learn a poop ton about you anyway.

Reasonable questions, not to judge you of your life choices. But to see if the life/wishes/goals matches.

[Asker]

Saying that over 25bmi is "somebody who doesn't value their health" is justwrong.
30 and above? sure, that is straight up obesity, but under that writing them off as "somebody who doesn't value their health" is just so wrong.

Like for example
-Dressing nicely
-Pays attention to makeup
-Good hygiene
-Does some cardio exercise
-Has a bmi of 26-28

Guess I must not be caring about my body then. 🙄

[cookiecrusher]

In general yes, some few are working towards lowering it.

While most slowly increase the number each year, and few just decide to eat their way to new weights.

No you are not "caring" about it, in general. If we think about the next 10 years to come and how this aspect almost always gets worse. Especially after kids.

You are okay, a bit chubby, depending on your height and muscle mass. And that is good, do what you like.

But you have competition.
Women who keep themselves around 20-23 or a bit more with added muscle, they enjoy it, go to marathons, climb, ride motorcross etc.

These womem also dress nice
Have good hygiene

Make up doesn't matter that much for guys. Most women do it too much anyway.

These women have a similar lifestyle of mine. And i find that attractive, it's also something i would look for in a partner.

And most guys would find that more attractive if you have 2 equally great women to choose from otherwise.

Like i said it's about carimg about your health and equally so about the lifestyle i can share with a woman.

[mrsaviour]

Yes, we do. Not just in dating apps but in general everyone looks at their physique to match them. Even women do that no women will go on a date with a obese man, you can judge a person's lifestyle by looking at them. Obese people will be liked by some but my point is you will able to judge their lifestyle and your compatibility. No women will date someone who is way less taller than her. Just facts

[Asker]

Mostly true.
Tho I think many people are too judgmental towards people who are overweight but not obese because take care of their bodies.

[mrsaviour]

Sorry I meant the same overweight. How they look matters while choosing the partner. You might like their personality later but first you need to like how they look

[Kiran_Yagami]

Why wouldn't I? Women check men's weight/height on dating apps. In fact, many dating apps have threatened to force men to verify their height on their profiles. That implies height is so important to women that they are deeply upset when a man lies about it.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I have never been on a dating ap, but no I wouldn't.
If you think about it, anyone is capable of putting on weight as indeed they are of losing it. It also seems ridiculous to me that anyone can be so closed minded.

[globetrotter22]

I do look for her body type. If she is only using face pics then 90% she is a big girl and trying to hide it.

I don’t care much about height though. That’s something people have zero control over.

[t-8900]

I see what I like and that's what matters. But I don't use dating apps. The pool of women is too shallow tbh and your should ask women out in different ways. Dating apps aren't a good option

[Anonymous]

Height always, I know women want a guy that's at least 3-4 inches taller. I'm a short guy, so I'm not going to pursue a woman knowing I'll be rejected right off the bat.

Weight, as long as she looks relatively healthy, and she looks the same as her pics, then I don't care.

[Asker]

Some girls prefer shorter guys so you shouldn't write off everyone over X height.
But yes, they are a minority.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not worth the frustration, anyone over 5'3, I swipe left

[Asker]

Sure.
Good luck with dating.

[Opinion Owner]

Just being realistic, and you too

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Nope. I had fun with tall and short women, big and small, I personally prefer tall and a bit of curvy to them

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, and if its not listed I just look at the pictures to infer it (which I'll likely do first anyway) and if there aren't pictures capable of showing that, then I pass on her.

[oralmajiq]

Oh my God is that really a thing?
It's been a little beautiful princess that has had that done to them I would like to say I'm sorry for that having been done to you never should have happened cuz all you girls are princesses

[Honesttguy]

Hehe nice one

[ClaryFairchild26]

No I just look at the age rage that’s all
I’m straight and I don’t discriminate girls for their weight or not!

[bamesjond0069]

Yes i do. I care if she's big. Like weight. If she's a little curvy and i mean legit curvy not fat, and is short thats ok. Tall girls i expect to be thin because i need them to weigh significantly less than me or i will not have sexual attraction

[TonyV]

Yeah just like women literally say if your under 6 foot slips left now.

[RogerTomas4534]

Height no, weight yes. You can't control your height but you can control your weight. Poor healthy/over weight is a clear indicator of poor decisions.

[Asker]

Isn't it a bit unnecessary if you can see their pictures?
by the way. what bmi do you consider to be too big?

[crossdressingrihno]

Kind of
I mean don't care about numbers
It's mostly about asthetics

[Anonymous]

Dating apps don’t have “weight”
They only put the height option because women select men on the demographic they can not fix but if we were able to filter out women based on weight, the fat girls would never get options.

[TallAnon]

Not specifically, I just look at their general appearance and sometimes their profile. Usually there's no reason to, because the chances of a match are abyssmal.

[Rizwan_khan]

I don't check either but over weight is bad for look and personality also

[Asker]

Looks? Maybe.
Personality? Unless someone's like 300 pounds morbidly obese or some other extremes I don't think it tells much about someone's personality.

[Rizwan_khan]

But it is very harsh reality that over weight or obese people are unattractive and yes it's show your personality that how much you care your body

[Asker]

-Dressing nicely
-Pays attention to makeup
-Good hygiene
-Does some cardio exercise
-Has a bmi of 26-28

Guess I must not be caring about my body then. 🙄

[Rizwan_khan]

I'm not talking about you it's my general statment and if you do all these thing then it is very good for you I'm sure you are a wonderful person. it is not necessary that all the answer is for you I don't even see you or know you. And I m sure you have a very good personality my dear friend 🙂

[Asker]

Yeah but I'm just pointing out that constructing some weird fantasy personality based on someone's weight is pretty unproductive, there's a lot more to someone's personality than their weight.
(but yes, when it comes to extreme weights that is telling something of their personality)

[Rizwan_khan]

You got my point. All I want to say that always take care of your body it is gift given by God to you and it you responsibility to take care. and my statment is some how unproductive but you can see every where that no one like obese person in general

[Asker]

"but you can see every where that no one like obese person in general"
yeah and from the start I kept saying overweight, not obese...

[Rizwan_khan]

And you don't get my point that overweight is first step towards obese but it is okh if you over weight and you take caution.

[Asker]

And you don't get that many people are overweight but never become obese.
It's like many people drink alcohol, but you wouldn't assume them to become alcoholic binge drinkers just because they do some social drinking from time to time.

[Rizwan_khan]

🤗🤗

[Jltakk]

I check if they are using obviously photoshopped or stock imagery because it shows whether they are honest people or not.

[Asker]

I get the photoshopped part, but stock images?

[genericname85]

only, if the picture doesn't already tell the story

[SignedAutographs]

Not supposed to use peoples photos, without their permission hun

[Asker]

Go and sue 99% of the internet then.

[SignedAutographs]

OK, I will

[Asker]

Good luck.

[SignedAutographs]

Thanks

[Creampiekarl420]

Yes we do check women it’s ok if you’re bigger but that’s no one’s first choice we’d prefer if you were slim

[michol1]

Not really If she’s fatter than me than that’s usually a no for dating, but not a no for sex bigger girls are freaks and I like it

[007kingifrit]

no, but she shouldn't hide it. if i see only her face or upper body or w/e i'm gana know she's hiding it

[Samueljanderson]

Here's the reason each person has their likes and dislikes on how you respond to different people. To know height and weight is about as important knowing age

[Anonymous]

Not her height, but her weight, not interested in land whales.

[Asker]

What's your definition of "land whale"? like 30+ bmi?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm a fairly big guy, 230 pounds. At 5'6" for example I'd be uninterested if she was over 190pounds.

[user1245322]

@ANON
Sorry, you are not fairly big! 5'6 at 230? You are morbidly obese by medical standards. It amazes me that short fat guys have high standards of smaller woman, yet do not offer the same, back just amazing, WOW SMH

[Opinion Owner]

Dude I never posted how tall I am, I'm 6 foot 2 inches. Now fuck off

[Asker]

@user1245322 That's a different sentence dude. 5'6" is the girl's height in the example.
So what he said is that he finds 30 and up BMI too much but below that is okay. (so below obesity)

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks asker..

[Asker]

Ah so the obese range is too much.
Yeah that is 100% reasonable and realistic expectations. (even with the average female BMI in the USA being like 29.)
um... after I read my message I noticed it might sound a bit sarcastic, that was not intentional.
I'm 5'5" and about 169lbs (yes the funny number). Does that sound like a landwhale? :D

[Asker]

np, people should learn how to read haha

[Opinion Owner]

You definitely don't sound like a land whale. My wife weighs about the same, but she's very athletic, she use to play volley ball, and now officiates the sport.

[Asker]

That's cool :D
I used to play basketball and long distance run.

[Opinion Owner]

Nice!! I don't care if someone is curvy.. I mean according to medical science I'm over weight.. But I'm less than 10% body fat... Wtf am I supposed to lose lol.. But I want someone at least as healthy as me.

[Asker]

Yup, just straight up weight/height BMI calculations don't really account for people who work out and treats the weight as mostly fat. Which to be fair would be correct in most cases, even for me since for years I only do some very low level workout to improve my circulation.

[Pudsmucker]

Your weight is none of my business. Unless you give that to me personally.

[KrakenAttackin]

I like the picture on the left. She has big titties and some cushion for pushin'

[Nigjt]

No I don't there is no reason why I should.
God Bless

[DevinAM]

No but if they look too big then it's not for me.
Both example images are within an acceptable range for me.

[Brigantexx]

Yep I check weight bc I love fat and Chubby girls. They are very attractive then skinny girls

[Asker]

Um... good for you I guess. 😅
Tho isn't it a bit unnecessary if you can see their pictures?

[Brigantexx]

Yep no problem for me and they are very beautiful actually.

[Brigantexx]

Or are you fat? 😱😊❤️❤️

[Asker]

Overweight but not fat.

[Brigantexx]

No problem 😍😊 if you want we can talk. It's an honor for me 😊❤️❤️

[Brigantexx]

You can text to me I wait 😊❤️😍

[Asker]

lol no, not interested in fetishizing horndogs

[Brigantexx]

Just friendship 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Yes
Weight
kids
Tattoos
Bio

The weight she might lie or film half way up and I don't like. liars or bigger women

[Better_off_here]

i am not shallow i look for the personality she seems to have :)

[Anonymous]

Yes because dating apps are meant for finding sex. If I meet them outside I don't because outside is for finding relationships

[Anonymous]

Always but they don’t always show weight so I have to look for full body pictures

[Anonymous]

the actual number isn't important it's whether she's good looking or not

[Avicenna]

Yeah, obese is a no go

[Asker]

Yeah I think most people would agree with that.
Overweight BMI is still okay, it doesn't carry much health risks, but obese is jus way too much / dangerous.

[Avicenna]

I agree

[Drumlin2001]

Height yes. Not weight.

[FunkyMonkee]

No. Why would I do that?

[cth96190]

I do not use dating apps, but, if I did, I would.

[HappyGoLuckyGal12]

I do not check it since that i dont date women

[Jamie05rhs]

No lol. Is that even listed, though?

[Asker]

Dunno, haven't used dating apps for like 5 years.
It used to be a thing on okcupid and most other dating apps (except tinder) if I remember correctly.

[Jamie05rhs]

Wow- for real? I didn't know. I've never seen that before.

[Asker]

Yup for real.
Is it not even an option anymore?

[Aerissa_Jade]

Last time I used one, it wasn't listed directly... more like categories. Slim, athletic, average, curvy, and so forth... so still lets people decide.

I think its funny cause I doubt anyone is going to put HEAVY as a choice cause they'll get zero hits.

[Asker]

@Aerissa_Jade lol yeah
Even 5 years ago there was a problem with morbidly obese people putting them as "curvy" (that body type option was there back then as well, but there was an optional weight/height section as well)
I can only imagine how useless these body type selections are now that these terms got diluted to near uselessness.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Aerissa_Jade Ohh. That. I think I've seen those categories. They're so vague, though. I think I check all of them just to be safe.

[Jamie05rhs]

And @Asker Yeah; exactly.

[MysteriousDarkness]

A lot of the dating apps have an option saying rather not say. That us any option for many other different sections like income, religion, schooling etc

[Jamie05rhs]

@MysteriousDarkness Knowing you, I bet you'd probably rather be mysterious and leave them in the dark.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@Jamie05rhs
There is no knowing me because you don't know me.

[Jamie05rhs]

@MysteriousDarkness Lol. Touché.

[Imsmurter1]

Yes just weight mostly

[Asker]

Isn't it a bit unnecessary if you can see their pictures?

[Imsmurter1]

Yes I mean by their pictures

[DiegoO]

I don't use dating apps

[anton_dee]

I check weight not height

[Iron_Man]

I don’t believe most women put that down

[htmndg183]

Height yes. Weight no.

[OddBeMe]

No but being physically attracted is important.

[notwoke]

yeah, if she's not skinny it's a non starter

[Bklynbadboy12]

I've never been on a dating site

[boggboss]

Think most people do

[Asker]

Probably, tho it seems like a pretty unimportant detail to me.

[boggboss]

That just shows weight or hight don't play a factor for u but that aside would u date a man the size of jubba the hutt

[Asker]

lol no, I have standards
I just meant that if you see someone's pictures and you like how they look, checking out their height/weight seems a bit unnecessary.

[boggboss]

I would have agreed but many people post pics of sizes they no longer are

[Asker]

I think there's nothing wrong with that as long as the difference isn't extreme.
Like I tend to weight more in winter compared to summer and getting rid of great pics from your profile just because of that would be pretty annoying.
Of course if someone uses pictures from 6 years ago where they were half their weight, that is pretty bad.

[boggboss]

I only say it because I have seen it happen to a friend

[boggboss]

Where the girl was clearly trying to trick people about her weight

[Asker]

like, how big was the difference between the actual girl and the pictures she used?

[boggboss]

She looked about 8-9 stone in the pic and was about 15 in person

[Asker]

lol
yeah that is just too much

[Cherry234]

No. I'm straight.

[Zlantur2]

Height no, weight sometimes.