Since there is a height filter on dating apps should there be a weight filter too?

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Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

I think it's somewhat fair but you have to remember that sometimes weight is really just a number. You can tell that a woman is overweight if she's 5'4 and weighs 250 lbs. That's way outside of the norm for a person that height. Some people weigh a little more and may be overweight or obese on the BMI scale because they have large frames (they can still be slim and not fat at all, slim thick is a thing) or they have a lot of muscle mass. I'm against removing any sort of filter based on attraction (including height, weight, and even race) on dating apps because I honestly think it's tyrannical to police people's dating preferences. Some people have ridiculous standards (like short women only liking tall men) but they still have the right to have them and go for what they want.

Smashingdoozy · Accepted Answer

Not really feasible. You're not actually concerned with the number on the scales you're more concerned with the aesthetics of their body.

Some sites do have filters for body type but they're generic terms like: slim, average, fit, above average, curvy etc.

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Weight doesn't tell you much because: 1.) Most women lie about their weight even IF they look perfectly good from a male pov. This means most of the weight numbers you have access to compare to are useless lies also. 2.) Proportions matter more than weight. You could sort of get closer to knowing with BMI but still, people would lie.

A company could eliminate lies by requiring people to go into an office where they get measured by an independent observer but why would a dating company want to do that when it would reduce the number of people using their service which would then reduce how much ad revenue/customer fees they can collect.

JSmuve · Accepted Answer

I think that would be pointless. You can't reasonably discriminate based off weight because it depends on 1) height and 2) muscle mass. And then there's the added complexity around how that weight is distributed. A woman who weighs 120 lbs at 5'0 will look a lot different than a woman who weighs the same at 5'8". Likewise, two women who are the same height will weigh differently if one is a stick and the other is voluptuous. So you might ironically filter out all of the attractive women by setting your max at a specific weight. If you want a comparable filter to apply to women, then you're probably looking at waist size.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Both are a bad idea. Remove the height filter, instead of adding another into the mix. There's enough problems already. (But yeah, they're about the same.)

ManOnFire · Answer

There should definitely be a weight filter. There are too many truly overweight women on dating sites who believe they're entitled to having any guy they want. I say it's time they get a wake up call.

Pinay_ako · Answer

🤣 sounds fair. As long as he can flip me over and pick me up! 💪

coachTanthony · Answer

Doesn't matter what filters there are people will always lie to game the system.

Moose304 · Answer

Filters are never going to be a substitute for a physical date. A while back I was speaking to a 20-something female who got pissed because a man had used an old photo of himself on social media. It is estimated that almost half of the dating profiles have some form of catfishing on them. I don't use social media or dating websites. Some of the people I know have. This is what I tell folks. Never trust a dating profile. Just go meet them. If they are unwilling for whatever reason, move on!

tiajoka · Answer

A weight filter doesn't make much sense to me. A woman at 180ibs can look disgusting or well toned and endowed. Putting the pounds doesn't change the person's actual apperance; that's why you look at photos and use common sense. But a person's height can't be well determined by photos and can make a difference when seen in person vs just photos. The logic is faulty and clearly bitter and immature. I'm saying this as a woman who has to put her height because I know many men are turnt off by a girl who is well above average height.

TommyWiseau69 · Answer

Of course there should be. Women lie about their weight every single time. Even if you have weight filters they would still lie. A guy is allowed to want a woman of any weight. If women are allowed to want guys of specific height, it is fair. More guys should be rejecting women for their weight and having it close as possible. If a woman is 5 lbs or heavier than a specific weight requirement a guy has she should get her ass rejected. After all its "just a preference"

Qdbrown · Answer

There should be filters. It isolates what people are searching for.

Sure, some are going to lie, but with expected full body shots, anyone can tell if they look the part.

As an older guy, I would like to see a debt filter myself. I don't want to date any women more than 50% in debt to their relative income to be able to pay all their debt, realistically speaking (After take home pay minus all their expenses) in less than two years. And that is pushing it...

TroyDT · Answer

That is up to them, but I can see a difference. 6'2 is 6'2, but 200 lbs with 10% body fat is a far cry from 200 lbs with 25% bodyfat. A weight filter would not tell you that. Or a lady who works out and is fit might weigh 20+ lbs more than a lady of the same height who is a bit flabby.

ZackBan · Answer

I think id you add in some AI you can use pics to add a body type category that is automatically generated.

Because if you let people add in the info they will all lie same as height which makes it pointless

more_than_a_guy · Answer

It won't work, I like girls in a varied height scale. So a thin tall one can weight as much of a short fat one. Also a muscular girl can weight as much of an overweight at the same height. We should just keep the body type filter: average, thin, athletic, curvy etc...

Anonymous · Answer

Nah usually you can tell the women that are trying to hide thier bellies. They typically only post shoulder height and up, and over the head Pics to accentuate thier breast and minimize thier bellies. It's comical to guys because it's OBVIOUS when they're trying to hide it.

RiseofArtemis · Answer

Yes absolutely but we all know women never add their real weight so it would probably still be useless. There should be a photoshop filter instead.

Tekashi_Rosas · Answer

Hell yea lol, SOME girls be saying they want a dude that’s over 6’ tall. Like ok then, step on the scale real quick

TheVigilantOne · Answer

There is a weight filter on dating sites, when i went on there for a laugh I had to put my weight in, don't see any harm in it to be fair, the more you know the more you can decide if you want to bother with that person or not.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Wait there's a hight filter? Um anyway I guess? But honestly I don't see point cause people can put any height or weight or weight on there. You're gonna really know until you see them.

FooBar444 · Answer

Nah, it tells you nothing alone, you couldn't set the filter to any number and get it to actually filter the way you'd want. The filter you're looking for is BMI.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe not a weight filter but there should be a warning when you are about to date someone who is overweight. Maybe have a ⚠️ symbol next to someone who is overweight and a 🛑 symbol for someone who is obese. Then at the very worst ⛔️ icon for someone morbidly obese. That way l, nobody’s feelings get hurt.

AviatorTom · Answer

It wouldn't accomplish much. People would just lie about their weight, like many lie about their age.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Wouldn't do anything except make people feel bad about themselves or people would just lie and people would still find something to bitch and complain about anyway.

TDDMS · Answer

Shit, why stop there. Let's go for nipple and clit filters. That'll be the day. You know, maybe you're a dude that likes sand dollar nipples and 3" long clits.

Staximus · Answer

No, because some people can't accurately judge people's weight. Like for example, I'm 5'7" and weigh 250 pounds. Most people think I only weigh 200 pounds because I don't look that fat.

Anonymous · Answer

is there really? lmao. glad i don't have to use that shit. sounds like y'all are having a hard time.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely! For those of us that are bigger and or want bigger partners that would be great! There are sites for us but the dating portion is never as good or as successful as “normal” dating apps.

cth96190 · Answer

No, because the BMI scale is bullshit. If a man has a physique more powerful than that of an underfed Chinese man he is classified as obese.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Of course!! Not only is it fair, but it's the right thing to have. If I can't lift you, I can't love you.

HaveNoName · Answer

Isn't weight dependant on height? Only makes if people know their numbers and they are able to do the math. I dont even know the table that links height and to ideal weight.

MementoMori_ · Answer

Great question. Don't count on it... doesn't pass the politically correct smell test.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not sure I believe there's a height filter but not a weight filter. But yes, of course there should be a weight filter if there's a height one. They should also make bra size and dick size filters.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Some already has body types like “a few extra pounds.” From looking at the pictures, “a few” can mean 100!

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Next time a Internet bitch asks how tall you are, answer her honestly. Then ask her how much she weighs and see how quick you are ghosted.

gerald5466 · Answer

no, some people look like they weigh less than they actually do, or look like they weigh more than they do.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Sure I have no problem with that unless someone expects an underweight or overweight woman.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I didn't know that there was one, but if there is one, then there should be the other.

msc545 · Answer

Oh hell yes, although women lie about their weight.

Heolurt · Answer

Yes because one of those things can't be worked on and yet it's the one that's always there.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Sounds fair to me.. I don't get the whole height thing anyway.

Bear-Naked · Answer

Yes as if height is, you must aloud everything Height Weght Size and shape of other things you would think to as it is just equally important

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely.. No rational thinking man wants a land whale.

Chthou95 · Answer

You think women are going to be honest about their weight 😂

77five · Answer

I weigh way more than I look so I say no lol

Fireguy17 · Answer

would everyone tell the truth if there was?

Googlemyahoo · Answer

People will obviously be truthful right?

art84 · Answer

Wouldn't people like about their weight.

Fuentes · Answer

Their should be

burlen · Answer

Yes!

Lilith_bumblebee · Answer

yes, it would be fair to include it

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

DEFINITELY!!!

Katebfun · Answer

Hell no

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

Sure

larry69 · Answer

Yes absolutely

Grubhub · Answer

Laugh my ass off

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