Since there is a height filter on dating apps should there be a weight filter too?

[Thatdude091699]

[hahahmm]

Weight doesn't tell you much because: 1.) Most women lie about their weight even IF they look perfectly good from a male pov. This means most of the weight numbers you have access to compare to are useless lies also. 2.) Proportions matter more than weight. You could sort of get closer to knowing with BMI but still, people would lie.

A company could eliminate lies by requiring people to go into an office where they get measured by an independent observer but why would a dating company want to do that when it would reduce the number of people using their service which would then reduce how much ad revenue/customer fees they can collect.

[Vegasrunner]

@hahahmm Think your overthinking this. Yes they could lie but eventually you'll meet them so its irrelevant. Same why I sure a guy lies about his height also ot would give you a good range so you would have to do what's called in Basketball program height. If a guy is listed as 6'2 he's probably closer to 6'0 so if a girl says she's 140 she's probably closer to 150.

[hahahmm]

@Vegasrunner If it's irrelevant then we need less filters, not more.

[Vegasrunner]

@hahahmm Lol, maybe but are you forced to answer height on dating apps, and if you are couldn't you just lie.

[Chazmatazz269]

Matchmaking services DO put people on scales for height and weight, AND put their clients on video with mandatory updates. They charge MUCH more than internet matchmakers and more yet for more or less guaranteed results. THAT’S the way to go if you have standards, male or female.

[hahahmm]

@Chazmatazz269 Good point when it comes to those non app services.

[Cherry234]

I think it's somewhat fair but you have to remember that sometimes weight is really just a number. You can tell that a woman is overweight if she's 5'4 and weighs 250 lbs. That's way outside of the norm for a person that height. Some people weigh a little more and may be overweight or obese on the BMI scale because they have large frames (they can still be slim and not fat at all, slim thick is a thing) or they have a lot of muscle mass. I'm against removing any sort of filter based on attraction (including height, weight, and even race) on dating apps because I honestly think it's tyrannical to police people's dating preferences. Some people have ridiculous standards (like short women only liking tall men) but they still have the right to have them and go for what they want.

[Smashingdoozy]

Not really feasible. You're not actually concerned with the number on the scales you're more concerned with the aesthetics of their body.

Some sites do have filters for body type but they're generic terms like: slim, average, fit, above average, curvy etc.

[VanillaSalt]

The terms BMI. You find a persons bmi by comparing their weight and height. There’s graphs online to find a healthy BMI.

[Smashingdoozy]

@VanillaSalt isn't accurate at all, a fit persons BMI would show overweight.

[VanillaSalt]

You might be mistaken about something. It’s not that men want a twig. They just don’t want the land whale. Being heavy and being the degree of fat that exists today is a huge difference.

at least you can find something close to what you want that way. But honestly most men settle hard on their swipes… actually most men just swipe on everything and judge after they like back lol. That’s what I do. My times valuable I ain’t got time to sort through hundreds of women.

[Smashingdoozy]

@VanillaSalt Dwayne the rock Johnson would have a BMI of 33.7 which is incredibly obese... Obviously he is not obese though is he.

Any ounce of muscle throws off the BMI scale dramatically.

[VanillaSalt]

But most women won’t have 200 lbs of muscle will they lol. It wouldn’t be useful to women I’m sure but men would be thrilled.

[Smashingdoozy]

@VanillaSalt again any ounce of muscle throws off the BMI scale.

My Drs were about to admit me for being severely underweight according to my BMI. You know what I did? I worked out and gained muscle. I didn't change my eating habits if anything they got worse. But according to my BMI I was now healthy.

[VanillaSalt]

So what? It still would cut out the 3-400 lb women that are under 6 feet tall… and again most women arnt putting on tons of muscle. And I’m not interested in the ones that are anyway…

[Smashingdoozy]

@VanillaSalt I don't know how much more simpler I could put it. So whatever it's not like it would ever happen anyway

[JSmuve]

I think that would be pointless. You can't reasonably discriminate based off weight because it depends on 1) height and 2) muscle mass. And then there's the added complexity around how that weight is distributed. A woman who weighs 120 lbs at 5'0 will look a lot different than a woman who weighs the same at 5'8". Likewise, two women who are the same height will weigh differently if one is a stick and the other is voluptuous. So you might ironically filter out all of the attractive women by setting your max at a specific weight. If you want a comparable filter to apply to women, then you're probably looking at waist size.

[caring__1]

Waist divided by height is a more accurate representation of a person's size than BMI. Healthy bodies never go above 0.5 (meaning a person is at least twice a tall as the circumference of their waist). www.omnicalculator.com/health/waist-height-ratio

[AmandaYVR]

Both are a bad idea. Remove the height filter, instead of adding another into the mix. There's enough problems already.

(But yeah, they're about the same.)

[ManOnFire]

There should definitely be a weight filter. There are too many truly overweight women on dating sites who believe they're entitled to having any guy they want. I say it's time they get a wake up call.

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 sounds fair. As long as he can flip me over and pick me up! 💪

[ZackBan]

Funny enough that is exactly how I draw the line of overweight women on dating apps. And fortunately I can lift quite a bit so I can definitely got a bit into the plus size

[Pinay_ako]

@ZackBan right? 😂

[coachTanthony]

Doesn't matter what filters there are people will always lie to game the system.

[Moose304]

Filters are never going to be a substitute for a physical date. A while back I was speaking to a 20-something female who got pissed because a man had used an old photo of himself on social media. It is estimated that almost half of the dating profiles have some form of catfishing on them. I don't use social media or dating websites. Some of the people I know have. This is what I tell folks. Never trust a dating profile. Just go meet them. If they are unwilling for whatever reason, move on!

[tiajoka]

A weight filter doesn't make much sense to me. A woman at 180ibs can look disgusting or well toned and endowed. Putting the pounds doesn't change the person's actual apperance; that's why you look at photos and use common sense. But a person's height can't be well determined by photos and can make a difference when seen in person vs just photos. The logic is faulty and clearly bitter and immature. I'm saying this as a woman who has to put her height because I know many men are turnt off by a girl who is well above average height.

[TommyWiseau69]

there's a certain point in which no matter how much a person weighs they will most likely be fat with that weight. Its very hard for a small person to weigh 180 lbs without being fat. A taller person can look fine at that weight. But a small person would have to have an incredible amount of muscle mass for it not to be fat and even in that case it would look weird because in my opinion anyone that has a lot of muscle mass packed onto their frame doesn't look as proportioned. You can also guess height in pictures. If you know the standard size of a door and if they are standing in front of one thats easy to tell. Its also easier to guess height than weight for sure. Many women are turned off by a guy well below average height. It goes both ways.

[TommyWiseau69]

Of course there should be. Women lie about their weight every single time. Even if you have weight filters they would still lie. A guy is allowed to want a woman of any weight. If women are allowed to want guys of specific height, it is fair. More guys should be rejecting women for their weight and having it close as possible. If a woman is 5 lbs or heavier than a specific weight requirement a guy has she should get her ass rejected. After all its "just a preference"

[Qdbrown]

There should be filters. It isolates what people are searching for.

Sure, some are going to lie, but with expected full body shots, anyone can tell if they look the part.

As an older guy, I would like to see a debt filter myself. I don't want to date any women more than 50% in debt to their relative income to be able to pay all their debt, realistically speaking (After take home pay minus all their expenses) in less than two years. And that is pushing it...

[TroyDT]

That is up to them, but I can see a difference. 6'2 is 6'2, but 200 lbs with 10% body fat is a far cry from 200 lbs with 25% bodyfat. A weight filter would not tell you that. Or a lady who works out and is fit might weigh 20+ lbs more than a lady of the same height who is a bit flabby.

[ZackBan]

I think id you add in some AI you can use pics to add a body type category that is automatically generated.

Because if you let people add in the info they will all lie same as height which makes it pointless

[more_than_a_guy]

It won't work, I like girls in a varied height scale. So a thin tall one can weight as much of a short fat one. Also a muscular girl can weight as much of an overweight at the same height. We should just keep the body type filter: average, thin, athletic, curvy etc...

[Anonymous]

Nah usually you can tell the women that are trying to hide thier bellies. They typically only post shoulder height and up, and over the head Pics to accentuate thier breast and minimize thier bellies. It's comical to guys because it's OBVIOUS when they're trying to hide it.

[RiseofArtemis]

Yes absolutely but we all know women never add their real weight so it would probably still be useless. There should be a photoshop filter instead.

[Tekashi_Rosas]

Hell yea lol, SOME girls be saying they want a dude that’s over 6’ tall. Like ok then, step on the scale real quick

[TheVigilantOne]

There is a weight filter on dating sites, when i went on there for a laugh I had to put my weight in, don't see any harm in it to be fair, the more you know the more you can decide if you want to bother with that person or not.

[BlueScorpio]

Wait there's a hight filter? Um anyway I guess? But honestly I don't see point cause people can put any height or weight or weight on there. You're gonna really know until you see them.

[FooBar444]

Nah, it tells you nothing alone, you couldn't set the filter to any number and get it to actually filter the way you'd want. The filter you're looking for is BMI.

[Anonymous]

Maybe not a weight filter but there should be a warning when you are about to date someone who is overweight. Maybe have a ⚠️ symbol next to someone who is overweight and a 🛑 symbol for someone who is obese. Then at the very worst ⛔️ icon for someone morbidly obese. That way l, nobody’s feelings get hurt.

[AviatorTom]

It wouldn't accomplish much. People would just lie about their weight, like many lie about their age.

[Phoenix98]

Wouldn't do anything except make people feel bad about themselves or people would just lie and people would still find something to bitch and complain about anyway.