So I’m a short guy for American standards. Only 5’ 9”.
I’m not big and muscular and domineering in appearance either.
But I do take care of myself and I always try to dress well. And I’d like to think I look decent as I have gotten compliments before in the past.
But that still doesn’t change the fact that in terms of dating, I’ve never once gotten approached. And always been single.
And while I get that its expected for guys to take the lead most of the time, I’ve still seen with my own eyes, other guys being pursued.
So I don’t know what my deficiency is but somehow I go unnoticed.
And while I get that I could be doing more I just don’t feel like doing more.
I’ve grown too comfortable spending a majority of my time alone.
And while I’d still occasionally like to be with other people, I just feel as though its not in my place to chase them down.
So I guess I’m just wondering what I could be doing differently.
I feel as though I’m not necessarily doing anything wrong to make others not like me.
It’s just I’m doing myself harm by spending a majority of my time alone.
So if there’s one advantage taller guys have its that they seem more ambitious and self confident in general.
Whereas I wouldn’t say I’m insecure, but I am very indecisive and uncertain about a lot of things in my daily life.
I routinely question whether or not I’m making the right decisions instead of acting out of absolute certainty.
But I don’t let myself get pushed around either. I’m not afraid to stand up to those who overstep their bounds but I certainly am not the one to be the leader for other people to follow.
I suspect that being born taller as a man is what makes you feel more confident.
So even though I’d like to think I’m not a bad person it’s just I feel as though there’s nothing impressive about me and that I have nothing to show for myself.
I could always try talking to random women in the cafeteria, but I just don’t see the point in trying with girls unless I see them routinely.
I’m not big and muscular and domineering in appearance either.
But I do take care of myself and I always try to dress well. And I’d like to think I look decent as I have gotten compliments before in the past.
But that still doesn’t change the fact that in terms of dating, I’ve never once gotten approached. And always been single.
And while I get that its expected for guys to take the lead most of the time, I’ve still seen with my own eyes, other guys being pursued.
So I don’t know what my deficiency is but somehow I go unnoticed.
And while I get that I could be doing more I just don’t feel like doing more.
I’ve grown too comfortable spending a majority of my time alone.
And while I’d still occasionally like to be with other people, I just feel as though its not in my place to chase them down.
So I guess I’m just wondering what I could be doing differently.
I feel as though I’m not necessarily doing anything wrong to make others not like me.
It’s just I’m doing myself harm by spending a majority of my time alone.
So if there’s one advantage taller guys have its that they seem more ambitious and self confident in general.
Whereas I wouldn’t say I’m insecure, but I am very indecisive and uncertain about a lot of things in my daily life.
I routinely question whether or not I’m making the right decisions instead of acting out of absolute certainty.
But I don’t let myself get pushed around either. I’m not afraid to stand up to those who overstep their bounds but I certainly am not the one to be the leader for other people to follow.
I suspect that being born taller as a man is what makes you feel more confident.
So even though I’d like to think I’m not a bad person it’s just I feel as though there’s nothing impressive about me and that I have nothing to show for myself.
I could always try talking to random women in the cafeteria, but I just don’t see the point in trying with girls unless I see them routinely.
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11 mo
And I’m socially reserved for that matter. But not necessarily shy in the sense that I can still hold a conversation without making it feel awkward.
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