What am I doing wrong? 23 and never had a girlfriend is it me?

[ShyGuy303]

Male
23
Black
6’2
Handsome😏

I've never had a girlfriend and I don’t get it. Of course I never fit in as a kid BUT I always had the most friends because I used to have a big personality and was fun to be around not so much anymore but I bring that up cuz even back then NO girls were interested in me I had 1 female friend in middle school maybe 4 in high school (all got married and dipped so their goes my emotional support🫠) but no real love interest and I feel it’s mainly because I walk a different path than most and women by nature don’t usually step out of their comfort zones unless they really really want something so maybe I’m making it hard for women to feel comfortable showing their attraction to me? I don't know it’s hard to pretend around people like u want to fit in when all your life youve been shitted on by the in-crowd.

Forgive me for saying this but the only girls who have ever approached me were the less attractive/weird girls. Which if I was unattractive I would be fine with but I’m average and I like average looking girls. Super pretty girls don’t USUALLY do it for me for many reasons. But now of days the girls who show me obvious affection are in their early 30’s and married😭 which has led to multiple embarrassing moments. Smh it feels like I just can’t win but luckily I’ve been working on myself for the past few years so when that pays off maybe I can switch things around maybe my upbringing was just f’d up and I haven’t reached my peak yet (fingers crossed).

Oh and the most interesting thing is that 0 girls looked at me back in school when I was slim and handsome with an outgoing personality now Im older with a Dad bod and shy which lead to some sexual encounters. But never any relationships so its still pretty bitter sweet. But lately I’ve just been at clubs trying to work my magic or at least get some experience talking to chicks so I don’t lose the progress I worked so hard to make but it’s still never lead to much more than that.

[DWornock]

Guys date down for sex. Therefore, even if you are both average, she can do better. Even if they don't appeal to you, I suggest you date less attractive girls. Your experience with them will give you confidence to ask and date more attractive girls within your league, that may appeal to you. Those that will not accept are out of your league, regardless of what you think. Therefore, just accept the fact, that if they reject you, they are out of your league. If you discover that the best you can date are big girl; that is proof that more attractive girls are out of your league. If you wish to improve your league, you obtain employment with a very high salary; at lest $80,000 per year. If you are earning less than $40,000 a year you are just another N! GG3R that pretty girls don't want.

[Anonymous]

It's a very common tale man. Feminism has put the power firmly in the hands of women. Sure you can still strike up a conversation with a her. Maybe even f*** a few. But women simply do not want guys anymore. They want a dancing monkey that's all.
This is why the Chads and PUA's flourish because it's a changed game. You need to change your game with the times. Basically stop worrying about it. Just go out chat women up. If she's DTF then hit it and move on to the next woman. If this is not appealing to you then just accept being alone. Because there really is no middle ground anymore.

[Honesttguy]

Dad bod, handsome they dont go together in my mind.
But its not even that cus women are into behaviour, masculine behaviour so if u talk talk talk they get bored and fuk off basically losing any interest that was there from begining.
If they say jump do you jump? If they say lets go do you go?
Do you have mysterious character that makes them chase you? Or do you just lay everything out on table for them to lose interest again and again. Think about it

[LemonsAsks]

so you might be full of yourself or maybe your handsome. but here's what i know.
if you ask some girls out, at a mall or bar etc. you will find one worth your time apply yourself. being tall helps too girls love a tall guy. and maybe go for the weird girl she is your first you probobly won't be forever, just get the experience.

[Anonymous]

Tbh, I'm in the same situation. My friend told me this but this is probably reality. Most women only pay attention to the best men (I'm talking 8-10s with a lot of money). If you got a dad bod try to lose some weight if that doesn't work, your fucked

[Opinion Owner]

Try making more money too see if that works and get muscles

[Birbman]

That kind of relationship is better not to be rushed or forced.

[Twalli]

I didn't get a girlfriend until I was 27. In fact I never got a date or sex until then either.

[TrillXHippy]

Just cause you quote on quote 6’2 don’t mean nothing

[Anonymous]

He's just like you remind me how I have a different mentality and perspective towards the social dynamics of relationships now

[Anonymous]

Black or white doesn't matter, it's the way dating and women are these days.

[Babygirl_S]

Maybe because you're too shy to ask a girl out.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Handsome lol... You are saying that not others.