I am 23, never had a relationship or had sex. What am I doing wrong?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so as you can tell I am not too busy in the romantic department. I have dated guys, the longest time I have dated someone was for 8 weeks, he ended it. I am told that I am a very attractive girl ( I don't believe it myself) but seem to not really attract guys. What am I doing wrong? I am a friendly person although sometimes shy. I don't have the confidence of approaching guys myself. I know I could probably have sex with someone random guy in a nightclub but I don't want to just do it with a complete stranger. Any advice? Will this put guys off in the future?

[Orion]

You're not doing anything wrong you just have standards. 23 without a relationship is nothing to be concerned about, you have at least dated a few guys, so you're not completely unapproachable and it's too late to ever had sex, but do youself a favor and stay positive about finding someone worth doing it with. Don't dwell on it too deeply or you;ll drive your self mad and also because that can scare guys away because you'll seem a bit desperate.

[psychman]

Well first off if you're shy you're probably giving a closed off vibe. I would try and make yourself more open and aproachable. Try hanging out with your most social girlfriends more often and they will rub off on you. It's really hard to give good advice on such little information. If I was you I would try and build up my confidence before doing anything else. Good luck

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice, You are probably right, building my confidence should be my priority after all confidence is an attractive quality.

[Malcom_Reynolds]

I don't really have any advice to offer only that on the other side of the spectrum, I'm having similar problems and can relate.

[Anonymous]

Well, the girls here say that guys in your same position are unattractive (in every way) misogynists, so maybe it's the same for you?

[moviedude714]

if it makes you feel better, I'm 24 and still a virgin, never had a relationship

[ihatetakingcharge]

be glad you don't have to initiate anything

[Anonymous]

find that hard to believe

[Asker]

Sadly its the truth.

[Opinion Owner]

so you have never had a boyfriend before? still a virgin? because I'm in the same boat too except never had a girlfriend

[Anonymous]

i'm also still a virgin, and I'm 23, never dated