Guys, if you had to choose, would you rather date someone who makes more than you or less than you?

[Flower7]

I’d prefer someone who makes more money than me.

I’d prefer someone who makes less money than me.

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[Qdbrown]

It's not wise. Women are nest builders. They are always looking to fill that home with all they can. It's the way most are wired.

So as a guy, with a woman who earns more, is going to spend more. The income line never stays constant up, and one day she will expect you to ante up and keep the good (expensive) times going. Having a lot of money is a hard habit to break. This is why so many lottery winners often go into bankruptcy later on. If you marry into that, she could very take you down, and poor people never hear what that is like, especially when the IRS shows up, and then the repo guys. What goes up, must come down. This is definitely a new money issue.

The other real issue men face dating women who make more is easy times starting our, but if you marry, you face nearly a certain divorce. Rich women have a tendency, not all, to trade up when she sees something better. She will not depend on you much. So as long as you know what you're getting yourself into, and understand that a rich woman is also likely going to be outgoing, aggressive and adventurous which sounds great starting out, can have you in her rearview mirror, at virtually any moment of the relationship. Not to mention if she is still hooked up, she is going to have connections to great attorneys and accountants. The kind of people who know how to dispose of you, so you can't have much. Unlike how it goes when it's the other way around. Men often do dumb things, and women know it.

[ohshee]

When I date somebody it's because I like her for who she is and that means something to me it doesn't matter what she makes it's not even about that if she makes more than me I'm going to stay right on.
Because that tells me that whatever career that she's in she worked her way to get there and that's empowering that is beautiful she deserves everything that she gets.
And I would never give it another thought because it's not that big of a deal
And vice versa if two people are together because they love each other that's beautiful that's the way it should be
But if it becomes a competition
Then you might as well look at each other and say goodbye because there's no reason for that it all goes downhill from there

[AviatorTom]

Interesting question. I had to think about it for a while before answering.

Best would be for each of us to make about the same, but that's the question.

Given the choices in this question, I'd rather have her make more money than me. Why?
1. If anything happens to me or to our relationship, she can take care of herself.
2. If necessary, we can live off her income... say I lose my job, go back to school, change careers, or just get lazy and sit around the house.
3. She doesn't need to come to me and beg for money to get something she wants.

[crossdressingrihno]

I personally don't care

I'm 20 years old and I live in a trailer right now though given the backstory behind all that I'm kind of proud of it

Anyways for me money is certainly a valuable commodity and in my eyes money is a gateway to even greater success or a good way to distract yourself when you need to be distracted

But who has more money doesn't really matter to me honestly as long as we have enough money for the person who I am with to be happy with their life then I can easily be happy with my life as well and then I don't care what else goes on

[Lliam]

More money is always nice, but it's not that important to me as long as she is bright, ambitious and has a good work ethic. I do appreciate a woman who has made her way in life and can support herself.

I chose 'A', but I would hesitate to get involved with someone who made lots of money but was a workaholic or had to continually spend very long hours.

[monorprise]

Less, the last thing you want is a woman who doesn't recognize you as her provider. This undermines her respect for you and caused great drama.

Its also not a good idea to have a woman too busy to take care of her family.

[Flower7]

Good points, you seem to have traditional values.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Wouldn't matter, income can be increased or decreased at any time, and compatibility is hard to come by, I'm not turning someone down if they are dirt poor or filthy rich or anywhere in between.

[Flower7]

Very true, financial status can definitely change!

[DarkWinterNights]

I would rather date a woman who makes less if only for the statistic that the divorce rate is much higher when the wife makes more than the husband.

[Flower7]

I hadn’t heard about that, but it’s good to know!

[Adam1978]

It's never about money, it's about character, and the more they earn the less likely it is that they have good character, but I could say the same about those who struggle to earn anything at all too.

[libsaretards]

What she makes does not matter, but for the sake of answering the question I would probably prefer her to make more if I had to choose. Police officers do not get paid a lot so if she makes more it would help the household out.

[DonkeyDan]

I don't really care how much she makes as long as she is financially stable. My current partner is a Surgical Consultant and makes considerably more than I do, and my salary is already pretty high.

[NathanDavis]

it doesn't really matter to me... but since you want me to choose either I would rather she makes more, the more financial stability the merrier... as simple as that