Girls, I'm 24, a virgin and I kind of like this guy I work with?

[Anonymous]

I had one boyfriend before when I was 19 and it didn't work out. He wanted to move too fast. This guy I work with is 29, tall, strong, attractive and great with people. He speaks to me respectfully and we have some great conversations. He said he liked me, and he was willing to go at a pace I'm comfortable. He hugged me, and I felt comfortable in his arms. We went on a date shortly after that, and he opened doors for me and we got a coffee together. He dropped me home and we kissed at the door. On the last date (10th), he wanted to watch a movie with him at his place and I agreed. I sat next to him, and he lifted my shirt and leaned over and kissed my belly. He asked me if I was comfortable and I said yes. And he said "Don't be scared, I won't force you to do anything you don't want to". I know he has desires and needs and will start touching me and kissing me more, and exposing my back, belly, arms and legs will only increase them. But he seems to really like me and care for me as a person. How long should I make him wait?

[Changiis07]

I would say wait! Wait as long as you can girl. This guy is moving way too fast and he will do as much as you let him. I wish I would have waited until marriage to have sex, that would have saved me so many heartaches. If you are not wanting to wait until marriage at least wait until you both are official boyfriend and girlfriend for some time. Give it at least 4 months to get to know him. See if he is willing to stick around because he genuinely likes you for you and not for your body.

[Asker]

We're actually official. We were talking for three months before we went on an actual date. But I'm not experienced in dealing with a man's urges.