Will you date an actual scientist, why or why not?

[Anonymous]

I am doing a Ph. D. in molecular biology. Men get intimidated after hearing it and eventually ghost me.

yes

no

[Effably]

I keep hearing the whole men get intimidated by line but where are these intimidated men?

Oh sure, there's a good portion who would be a little more mindful of what they say and how they say it given that with q PhD in just about anything you're probably more intellectually equipped than most.

However that is not intimidated or uninterested. It might be akin to being a little shy at most. If I am talking with someone and reveal significant expertise in the subject of course they will treat me a little different.

Anyhow. I don't see many of the intimidated guys. I myself might think twice before commenting on your field. Ultimately intelligence and academic prowess is very attractive. Anything beyond that is about what you do with it.

[Truthatanycost]

How do you know that is the reason why they are ghosting you?

I do not date or do relationships, but the last girl that approached me was studying for a PHD in medicine. I thought she was cute, feminine, had a nice voice and was smart. The fact she was studying for a PHD had no bearing on how attractive I found her. If I didn't prefer to be single, she would have been an option...

[TacosRAwesome]

Associated with a number of females in science, as long as they weren't really unattractive or socially inept, most of them are married or in long term relationships.

[Asker]

Yes a lot of them are single too. Most date within circles.

[jennifer_bloom]

I will date a smart guy if he has a personality to back it up - some guys are smart but their personality is abusive and condescending

[Asker]

In grad schools or universities, most people are nice compared to people in other fields.

[jennifer_bloom]

I know a PhD guy who tried to humiliate me for fun so I will need evidence they have nurturing qualities before I give them a chance.

[RolandCuthbert]

Molecular biologist? Wow!

Well, I dated a micro-biologist for six years. Most brilliant mind I have ever encountered. I really learned a lot about genetics, mutations, etc.

I don't know why certain men are intimidated by smart women. But I loved it.

My only issue is she wanted to take care of me.

And I can't be a "kept man".

[DaveJord]

I dated a PhD once, she was pretty cool and down to earth... she was a professor at a major University and she would crack on all the other stupid PhD... looney toons at the college. She did say to stay way form biologist because they are whack jobs.

[Asker]

That sounds bitchy, what was her subject?

[DaveJord]

Geography, she wasn't bitchy she was just very real and down to earth.

I work for the National Park service so there are a bunch of PhD and science types around here, from ecologists, biologists and geologists. The thing about Science types, be it at a university or national park, is that they tend to live in there own little bubbles and are some what disconnected from reality. Which is find as long as they keep it about science and not about themselves or thier personal crusades and agendas.

[Avicenna]

My sister was married when she was working on her PhD in Biochemistry. I asked her if she would have dated outside that social circle of graduate students in science disciplines if she hadn't been, and she said no because she felt that others would not have been able to relate to her that well. Maybe these guys assumed something similar.

[Kaneki05]

More of the question would they date me lmao. Of course I would if I got a chance too. I very much like such topics and I am more knowledgeable than what my exams say because simply I on purpose didn't try even though I still indeed passed all science granted not top marks but enough to get through. Like I say though my knowledge on it is much more when I want it to be which is often the case in my free time. So free time with my girlfriend we could talk about such things.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I’m single & accepting applications & yes I would date an actual scientist if her & I had chemistry & we clicked & fell in love with each other. As for being intimidated that would never happen.

[ColHathi]

I like the idea of dating someone like you, I'll say that much. It's impressive and attractive, but I also imagine that such a relationship probably wouldn't work out.

When you say that you're doing a Ph. D. in molecular biology, I imagine you as a strong-willed go-getter that knows what she wants to do, and who is probably passionate about doing it. I'm basically the polar opposite, and I imagine that for someone like yourself, that would be unacceptable.

[Asker]

total opposite can be a problem

[VikingWarLord]

How hot are you?
Most dudes don't give a flying F what you do for a job or how much money you make.

Women don't seem to understand we don't care about your money or posssessions. That's what women care about when looking for men, but men don't care, we just want a hot little stunna.

[Brittanyroseee]

So you only care about looks?

[Intothevoid666]

@Brittanyroseee most men care about ur income but not nearly as much as they care about ur looks. There is absolutely nothing in the world that will replace youth as beauty to men.

[Anonymous]

Ghosting is so common these days (where people actually consider it "normal" - very sad), that it may not be the reason. Or indirectly if it is. They could make assumptions such as you're too busy to have time for them? That's the only thing I could think of. Otherwise good for you/her.

[TheLoneTerran]

You bet! Intelligence is a huge attraction for me. Plus, your subject sounds pretty interesting. As long as my SO enjoyed her work and her field, that's all I'd worry about. And it never hurts to learn or pick up on a few things.

[Anonymous]

Oh for fuck’s sake, it must be because they are intimidated by your great big smarts and not because they think you’re boring or fat or ugly or a horrible conversationalist or they don’t like your teeth or feel no spark or you have shitty taste in music.

It’s obviously because you’re sooooo smart and we just get scared. All those big words! And a woman knows what they mean! Heavens! Somebody catch me! I’m intimidated by the profundity of your intellect!

[EmmaMary]

Well very fortunately for me (forensic scientist) my husband did.

[slatyb]

I would love to. The smartest people are true sexiest too.

[BeMuse]

Sounds good to me... I'd give you bonus points for that, but that's just one of a million details that I'd take into consideration.

[JoyGirl]

Sounds like those are uneducated men. Jk jk 🤪🤪🤪

Forget them, you are too smart to be worried about all that. You will find a good guy. 💜

[Asker]

Uneducated no, one was an IT engineer. It happens to other women in grad school too. I have seen several articles based on that, lol..

[Oigit]

No because it means I can learn something new and have more meaningful conversations.

[just_a_potato]

No I wouldn't, and the only reason would be because they wouldn't be around to fuck me as much.

[007kingifrit]

men are not intimidated by you. women use that word too much. men don't have anything they need from you. i want at least 3 children from you and for you to raise them

[bamesjond0069]

Its not intimidating for most men. Its unattractive. The boss dates the secretary not the vice president. Same principle applies here.

[Anonymous]

It's not your Doctor title that repels them away. There are a lot of men who prefer intelligent women, but an uni title doesn't make a person automatically intelligent.

[dolemite89]

they’re probably ghosting u for another reason, i’m not turned off if a girl likes science 😅

[Asker]

When everything going okay and you mention your Ph. D. and they say an awkward, "wow" you can understand the reason.

[dolemite89]

i’m sure there’s some detail about your behavior that you’re omitting here

[Asker]

One cannot state their own behavior even if it's awkward, they cannot know themselves. Still, I think, I behaved normally.