Nothing is Sexier than Self-Confidence and Belief in Oneself. True?

[Snsl153]

I think it is. When you look at people who are timid and don't really have faith in their positive qualities, it really shows, and people aren't really drawn to them. Charisma counts.

Yes, definitely.

No, it's usually something else (like youth, physical attractiveness).

Results so far.

[DWornock]

Confidence is highly, perhaps even 90% correlated with looks and/or ability. Success is equal to confidence. Beautiful people are almost successful; therefore they have confidence. Ugly people are almost never successful; therefore, they lack confidence. Children that always win at basketball are confident. Children that never win are not confident. Never in your life has there been a 5 star basketball player that, if he has the grades, wasn't confident he would get scholarship offers. Second team high school basketball player are not confident that they will get an athletic scholarship because they get zero offers.

All that other stuff about confidence is stupid talk by ignorant people.

[NathanDavis]

1000% agreed

that genuine confidence that does not need to boast, it just is...

the kind of confidence that gets playful at times, the right times... with the right moods and the moment

a well balanced confidence in who you really are, to me... it has no match

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Self-confidence and belief are important and attractive, but I've found for me there's one that trumps them - it's is necessary for me to find those other two qualities truly attractive, and a lack of it makes those two a red flag instead.

Competence.

I've dated people with self-confidence and belief, but they had no competence to back it up and they fucked up so frequently in such big ways for such stupid mistakes.

Competence is sexiest to me. Add a healthy self-confidence and self- belief to back it up and that's downright smouldering.

But just confidence and belief without the ability to follow through? That's just arrogance and delusion.

[MoniqueTLC]

Confidence and self-awareness is so important. We don't actually 'choose' who we're attracted to. It's highly unlikely we're going to be stay interested in someone who's needy and insecure, it just kills the attraction.
Women want mystery and and something that's not so easily available. A confident person will be seen with much more value as opposed to someone who give you their undivided attention straight away.

[RafaRodri]

Then why do women always destroy my confidence if they find it attractive?

[MoniqueTLC]

@RafaRodri How do they destroy your confidence, and what do you mean by 'destroy'? do they make you doubt yourself?

[MoniqueTLC]

@RafaRodri The first thing that needs to be established is how you view confidence. Remember confidence is different to self esteem. It's impossible for a girl to destroy your confidence, but it is possible for a girl to have an effect on your self esteem.

Self Esteem - a deep feeling of security and love for oneself. Knowing that you're enough and worthy of respect and love from others. Think of self esteem as the oil in a car, in order to go on a journey, oil is needed to make sure all components are lubricated and operate freely and smoothly. This is self esteem.

Confidence - A feeling of certainty in your actions and knowing that if you move forward you will be able to deal with whats in front of you. This is the 'warriors cry' before they go into battle because they know they're equipped to win. This is the petrol/fuel of a car. It ignites and pushes the car forward.

When you say these women destroy your confidence, confidence is created by using the act of courage. When you use courage, confidence will be released into the body. Its the actions of courage in any situation that will build your confidence. This cannot be affected by a woman. This is your own decision that you make.

Self esteem on the other hand can be affected by others if you allow it to. Remember, if a girl rejects you or doesn't want to see you, this bares know reflection on who you are as a person. By reminding yourself of this, you are enough, and you are worthy you can use any rejection from a woman to build your self esteem as it is at this point that you remind yourself that it is truly her loss.

[RafaRodri]

Heard of false allegations right? And I’m not saying you’re wrong but stop trying to educate me confidence and self esteem are almost the same thing I wasn’t taking about rejection I have that exact mindset it’s their loss ahaha. Maybe you’re right women maybe cannot directly destroy my confidence but they can definitely cause situations that lead to my confidence being destroyed and always remember not all men take rejection so harshly. Also it depends on how many times a guy gets rejected you women don’t understand what rejection does when you’ve been rejected hundreds of times also women reject men now a days just for the sake of it, I’ll try and start a casual conversation with a women not even looking for a relationship just to be friends and they’ll still reject me. I’m a good genuinely nice person and I have a strong connection with animals and the earth just cannot find a solid connection with a woman because they destroy my confidence or self esteem bit by bit. I feel like these women have ruined me for all the other women…

[MoniqueTLC]

@RafaRodri Ahhh my apologies, I didn't mean to come across as though I'm trying to educate you. You can definitely be put into a situation that's going to impact your confidence which will obviously affect the next time you put yourself out there.
Do they shut you down as soon as you start a convo with them, or after some interaction?

[RafaRodri]

Usually after a conversation. Maybe I’m just approaching them wrong it’s probably something I should work on

[mVCyberduVm]

I think there is a lot of truth to this.
People who have a great deal of confidence tend to influence attractiveness.
The problem is I have always struggled with this.

What do you think? do you think it is sexy?
Could you date a guy that was only average in appearance, but had a great deal of confidence and self respect?

[Snsl153]

Yes, I could, to answer your final question. Physical attractiveness isn't something most of us even agree on, and youth doesn't last. Character, on the other hand, actually improves over time.

[mVCyberduVm]

Awesome! I hope I can find someone that can want me :)
Is that picture actually you? Haha

[Snsl153]

Ha, ha, yes it is! :D

[mVCyberduVm]

Really? haha
Its not just a random pic you found? haha

I know some people just post random stuff all the time.

[Snsl153]

Oh, okay. Well, the other picture, the larger one, I found online.

[mVCyberduVm]

Haha well of course :)
But if that is you for real

Can we be friends? HAHA

[Snsl153]

Yes, we can.
Ha, ha! Ha, ha, ha... is that a laugh-track I hear?

[mVCyberduVm]

Yes, we are practicing our comedy skit :)

[ChrisMaster69]

Not sure about the ‘Nothing is’, as there are other things.

However, yeah Confidence, Belief yourself and having self purpose is hugely sexy.

Also some people who think they lack confidence, often don’t or rather do not come over that way and are lovely for it.

Equally, some who say they have confidence are just overly confident arseholes.

[athlete_7]

Kinda yes and kinda no tbh.😂 world is shrewed and unfair. Mentally it is sexy / attractive but people can't judge ur personality / self confidence in onw glance. I still think physical attractiveness gives unfair advantage to people.

[mandyfire98]

It's absolutely true. Insecurity (oh boy can I spot it) will dry me up like a desert real quick.

[EmmaMary]

I really cannot tolerate those who lack self confidence and assertiveness.

[TommyMountainFigure]

In terms of being friendly to someone, I will treat a person who is shy every bit as well as someone who is outgoing. In terms of excitement though? I have to go with A)

[McKellar]

Self-confidence and believing in yourself is probably in most peoples' view point hot, but that doesn't mean you are going to be automatically his or her type.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I dont necessarily consider it sexy but is still a good quality to have.

I’m still into women who say they’re “too fat” even though they’re actually still just average weight

[UniquelyBasic]

Its usually sexy on someone you find physically attractive. Otherwise it doesn't really matter that much.

[Flower7]

I’mn a guy, I actually prefer humbleness to confidence. I think shyness is so adorable.

[Berethor]

Physical attractiveness is better, especially in women's case, most women are passive anyway.

[Selene_94]

Truth and unlike being around this kinds of people.

[nawtee_me]

When a girl wears confidence like a well fitted dress she become very sexy...

[hahahmm]

Nope. Too many attention whores and idiots who think they're smart in today's world.

[Confidentandchill]

I fully believe this as well! On the flip side, Insecurities hurt people more often than not.

[Anonymous]

I don't have self confidence but I do believe in myself.

[B4852]

Definitely one of the sexiest factors about someone.

[Jltakk]

It can be a turn off if someone with an unhealthy personality believes in themselves over others.

[Anonymous]

Girls who think they are the shit usually loose attractiveness.
Guys generally don’t like arrogant females.

[Anonymous]

no sexy is looking good

end of story lol

atheist

[Snsl153]

What does being an atheist have to do with the question?