Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months now. When we first met he seemed to love my body and complimented me often. But in the past 3 months things have changed.
I am a bigger woman, I am 5'3" and 190lbs. I've lost over 60lbs before meeting him but am still very insecure about my body.
Recently, we were laying together and he grabbed my stomach and said "whats your bmi? like 70?" it hurt my feelings and i felt embarrassed but i tried to brush it off. We talked about it a bit more and then he proceeded to say that he doesn't like my stomach and that nobody would unless they had a fetish.
I felt so hurt and this did become an argument.
Im confused because when we first met i asked him if my size was ok, and he said he likes thicker women and liked how i looked.
Also we were talking recently and somehow got into a conversation about rating looks and he rated me a 7/10. Im glad he was honest but I don't know... it just told me a lot about how he sees me.
I was hurt too bc he said that im not one of his top 10's.
I am trying so hard to feel confident but comments like that are damaging.
He apologized but yesterday he asked me if i was keeping up with my squats and sit ups. It bothers me he asks me bc ik now that he doesn't like my body, and i feel like he expects me to change.
Im not going to break up with him, dont suggest it.
I just need some guidance on how to handle this issue, and how to feel better about myself after these things were said to me.
I am a bigger woman, I am 5'3" and 190lbs. I've lost over 60lbs before meeting him but am still very insecure about my body.
Recently, we were laying together and he grabbed my stomach and said "whats your bmi? like 70?" it hurt my feelings and i felt embarrassed but i tried to brush it off. We talked about it a bit more and then he proceeded to say that he doesn't like my stomach and that nobody would unless they had a fetish.
I felt so hurt and this did become an argument.
Im confused because when we first met i asked him if my size was ok, and he said he likes thicker women and liked how i looked.
Also we were talking recently and somehow got into a conversation about rating looks and he rated me a 7/10. Im glad he was honest but I don't know... it just told me a lot about how he sees me.
I was hurt too bc he said that im not one of his top 10's.
I am trying so hard to feel confident but comments like that are damaging.
He apologized but yesterday he asked me if i was keeping up with my squats and sit ups. It bothers me he asks me bc ik now that he doesn't like my body, and i feel like he expects me to change.
Im not going to break up with him, dont suggest it.
I just need some guidance on how to handle this issue, and how to feel better about myself after these things were said to me.
