Why almost every dating advise tell men to give women the upper hand of the situation?

[kinggeorge007]

Almost every dating advise goes like, women are like this women are like that. They would be treated delicately. They have the upper hand. They are the Queens and you are the servants. I'm seeing girls are entertaining this as well, even in g@g. What's this nonsense?

They aren't a special species. You don't have to give them a special place or upper hand or place them on a pedestal. They are just the female counter part of men. That's it. Dear men, have some self respect. Create yourself a quality life and command respect. Only cheap guys need to put women on a pedestal in order to start a relationship and only cheap women will fall for it. If you know how to treat them equally with respect, you are already winning. Doesn't matter if a bunch of cheap minded girls are intimidated by this. A good quality woman won't mind being treated equal and respectful. Up your level to command respect.

[Anonymous]

We fall so fast and hard for a guy that its clear he has the upper hand and can break our heart at any given moment. Even if we have sex and then breakup, we’re the one still feeling attached… its usually not the guy. And dont even get me started on female competition and the lengths we go to keep our guy. The guys are definitely placed on a pedestal

[kinggeorge007]

While that's not rare, it's not mostly the case either. I'm sorry but I have to stand to differ.

[Opinion Owner]

We only have the upper hand until sex is involved. Then we cave

[Dontaaaa]

Any modern advice I've seen has not been anything like that.

In fact, in this modern Era, some people will call the things you listed as being a "simp".

[kinggeorge007]

Yeah, I have seen that too. But I see the "that" way of advising more. And I see girls even on G@G say "Oh girls are like this, you don't understand" like they are some elites from another planet. They simply aren't.

I don't know why people make it a big deal. Being equal and respectful makes this whole dating thing much easier.

[Anonymous]

You don't give them the upper hand you just let them believe they have the upper hand. Women are like grown children. That's the way you have to play them.