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If I was single and she was not my type…
I’d thank her and then politely decline. Afterward, I may follow up with changing the subject so that the silence won’t feel as awkward for her.
It takes courage to approach, so I definitely wouldn’t be an a**hole about it.
Since I’m taken, I’d probably say something like, “Hey, I really appreciate your kind words and your courage to be so open with me. I’m happily taken though, so I can’t give you what you want…”
Im not single very often, so I just tell her Im not single. In the past, when I have been single and asked out, I at least have gone on a date with her and I haven’t had a bad time yet doing that. Just because a woman isn’t that attractive doesn’t mean you can’t have a good time with her.
I told a female friend I was going to ask a girl out that worked in the same building (different company I don't date at work) she sent flowers to my desk at work, we were married about four years later.
🥰 she didn’t want you to go to anyone else aww sweet
Sweet till I lost my high paying job and she got knocked up by some guy.
I would find a kind way to reject her, I'd just hit her with the classic let down and say that I'm flattered but I'm not ready to get into a relationship but If she doesn't mind I wouldn't mind being friends with her and that is just so I don't carry her on, thing is that if she doesn't mind being friends then that's all good, who knows maybe I could catch feelings but I wouldn't want her thinking that I'm interested when I'm not cause that's just wasting her time
Depends on if I have formed my opinion on them yet. If it's a new connection, I prefer to get to know them a bit more before making my decision.
If I don't see them in a romantic way I say I appreciate them making the effort, but I don't think of them in that way. Even if it's a negative result, I want to give them props for going for it.
I just tell her that I don't think we would be a compatible match.
That way I'm not being mean or making her feel bad about herself.
The most common reasons for turning someone down that I didn't know at all so it was purely based on appearance, besides their face or weight, it was usually due to tattoos or hairstyle. (Dyed or very short) I just don't give a specific reason because it won't change the answer and is unnecessarily mean.
As long as she is not horribly ugly I'll give her a chance. A 7/10 woman (aka average woman) with confidence is hotter to me than a 9/10 without the confidence.
If I am making the first move of course I will go for the 9/10 first. However, if both girls like me, I am still single and the 7/10 makes a move before I move on the 9/10, I will reward her confidence with at least a first date.
The time it happened, I said thanks and moved on.
HELL NO. It was highschool and I am immature as fuck.
She pulled me into her classroom, told me she liked me. I mean, we're not friends but we have common friends. It was awkward. I smiled and said ok but I really need to go, my friends are leaving me.
I cringe on my reaction. I feel like an asshole. I hope she does not remember me.
I say “hey sorry but I don’t feel that way” and hope to God she doesn’t wig out. I have had girls get really upset in the past when I turned them down. Once of them gave me a veiled threat.
As a guy on the other hand I am used to be turned down. Yeah it’s disappointing and embarrassing. But men are more used to this. Maybe it’s time women get more used to rejection. See what it’s like.
It's easy because women usually give subtle hints. All I have to do is show no interest towards her hint and then she backs off.
Making a bigger move, phone number exchange for example, I'd add her number but not text her to be nice. Asking me out would be tough for me to say no to her face. I'd probably nicely tell her I'm flattered but sorry no.
The fact that she approached is attractive (shows confidence, just like you like in guys), so not all about looks. But I would thank her very much for asking (and mean it) but I'm sorry I'm not interested.
Hypothetically of course, cause I've never been approached ever.
If I really don't like her for some reason, or I'm not attracted to her, I'll just say " Hey it's cool that you're interested, I just have to run it by my significant other. Are you down with that?" That hasn't failed yet to end the interest right then and there.
Do not reciprocate any flirting. Try and keep my conversation polite but short. If she asks me out, I reply "No thank you. "
It's still fine by me. Nobody said she needs to look like a ten to take the initiative.
But how are you going to deal with that? If the attraction isn’t there?
I don't date people just based on how much I'd want to f*ck them. Love and lust are two entirely different things. Love is determined by personality and behavior, not looks.
True. But I based the conclusion on most guys answers saying she has to be at least attractive or their type from my last question. that’s why. 🤷♀️
She was out of my league but the opportunity was too good to pass up. It seems she saw more in me than I saw in myself.
I just held on for all I was worth.
19 years later... we both chose pretty well.
Good question. Squashing fear to take that leap is hard for both genders. Letting someone down easy is important.
Yeah, but easier said than done.
And we tend to have less experience with that...
@Losalt Tell the person what you would feel most comfortable hearing yourself.
People are different.
The same actions may have different outcomes.
Before I was in a relationship, whenever this would happen, I would feel bad turning them down, a little lie like "sorry I'm talking to someone and want to try to take it further" I found was the best thing to say but I think it's better than just stomping their confidence and making them never want to go up to someone again. The mutual attraction must be present for a relationship to move and work. Being attracted to the other person is important for both sides.
Here's some advanced game for most men who don't actually consider the datin game from this angle non ideal looks are much easier to bear than bad spirits and with the resources that we got today looks can easily be changed so that's easy ass for the Dickin down if your as polite to 6s and below as ya are to 7s and above that way if those 6s and below ever get fine and ya wanna fuck em ya can easily
i think the attention from anyone i do not like is gonna be hard for me, i would not want to hurt anyone's feelings but i also am not gonna settle for a woman who i am not into at all. but i do admit i give anyone credit that makes the first move me or a woman.
Well it's hard for me to tell when a woman is making the first move because I think I've only had it happen once but if I figured it out I'd probably just say I had a girlfriend or something or either give her a date to see if I changed my mind about her