So a girl I'm newly dating has recently moved into a house where she shares with a guy. Similar age they have their own rooms however I'm slightly jealous as it appears that they are quite close already. The guy cooks dinner and they go shopping together to throw more into the mix this is a long distance dating so we are only able to talk by call or send messages after work for both of us like 18:00 which I don't feel happens a lot in terms of calls. Obviously she lives with someone so it's inevitable but she speaks very highly of them and for someone you've only just met makes me feel slightly uneasy.
How can I better deal with the situation or any tips.
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Decide now if it's a deal breaker or not. If you knew about the situation going in, then you don't have any room to complain. If you didn't, figure it out quick so she can move on.
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Literally my timing with this woman was when she was looking to move out into an apartment or flat share and here we are... I never thought anything much of the fact she'd be moving in with a guy apart from the fact it's a guy because it was early stages we had only met once I couldn't have no say regarding her situation. Now we've been dating for a few months and I really like her a lot. Now the situation bothers me considerably more, it's not a deal breaker but a very tough situation for me. You can imagine the thoughts that go through my head. Then to meet up once every two weeks or so to hear about her eating a cooked meal by some dude. 😬
I mean, I wouldn't sweat it. Men and women can have platonic relationships. Most everyone does. And I can say this, especially with women I've been friends with for a while, I don't have any sexual interest in them. It doesn't compute. Try looking at the pro's instead of the potential cons. She seems satisfied with him as a roommate, so he doesn't make her uncomfortable or creep on her. He's handy in the kitchen and your girlfriend is getting some nice home cooked meals. And she's not alone, safety in numbers and most of the time, men are physically stronger so he can help deal with a situation if one arises.
I can see where you train of thought comes from, but it doesn't help anything and you're not going to get her to change her mind and move out, that'd be pretty manipulative. So look at the good points, don't dwell on the possibility of a bad situation because you cannot change it, out of your control, so worrying about it just makes it worse for you and improves nothing.
Part of a relationship is trust and vulnerability. You're going to have to trust that she's not going to cheat on you. I'm sorry I can't think of anything super positive or useful, but it's really the only realistic way to handle the situation other than breaking up with her.
Oh, and don't try to be sneaky or sly and try to figure out if she's cheating on you. It'll be incredibly obvious what you're doing and in the most likely situation in which she's not cheating, it'd be a massive insult to her and will make you look bad.
Much respect for that answer you have given me some light it's definitely a tough situation and your right I couldn't possibly force her to move out. Its a deal with it situation.
Are you sure about the dating thing you have with her. They could be grooming you for their toy. Sorry the just sounds a little different. If I was you I would pay a visit with her.
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No this couldn't be possible lol I just feel like for the time they have known each other and the praise she is giving him it's slightly off putting.
