What does it mean when the guy you dating barley talk to you or only talk When I start the conversation?

[Anonymous]

I have dating this guys for about six months now at first everything was great, we were connecting, however Lately he barely talk to me and goes weeks without making conversation and we both live long distance. But he is happy to post on his social media. So I assume a guy who does not talk to me is not interested. I do not a romanticise and rationalise the behaviour of this guy. It is an intelligence-insulting interlude to think a guy who does not talk to me, who takes absolutely no interest in my personal life and avoids my existence is the same guy who is interested in me. I have now blocked he without a explanation why I decided to do and no longer wanting to date. Is that the correct way to address this situation?

[SteveSmith1985]

Yes, and also No.

So a big fat "yes" on your realizing that you don't need to waste any more time in this "relationship". Good for you. You have an excellent mindset when it comes to demanding to be treated the way you deserve to be treated. That's a very good thing.

But a giant "NO" when it comes to how you dealt with HIM.

While I can appreciate that you're angry. I can appreciate the sentiment that would lead you to block him. I really do. There's nothing wrong with feeling that way. However this is 100% the wrong way to handle this.

First, its just 'not right'.

Unless someone is a true monster, they deserve to be made aware that their relationship is ending. This is a bare-bones minimum. War criminals deserve this. It just isn't right for someone to all of a sudden be blocked by their romantic partner (I know, I know...).

He deserves at the very least to be 'informed' that he is dumped.

Ideally though, you should tell him WHY. Sure that may benefit him... but it'll really benefit YOU. You are feeling that you deserve better, and that he has been a shitty boyfriend who hasn't bothered making even a bit of effort. You're right. And if your ass-is-chapped about it... you should get that off your chest. You'll feel better (at least I would) if you close this situation by walking out with your head-held-high.

There is something inherently cowardly about blocking someone. If you're mad enough to block them. You should (in this case anyway) have the guts to say it to his (online) face. You ARE right. He DOES suck. So tell him why he sucks and why he's dumped. Then block him (after giving him a chance to reply).

I think that even if you won't/don't want to actually call-him-out and tell him why exactly you're ending things. You do absolutely need to tell him THAT you're ending things (even if you're not totally upfront about "why". But... I think you SHOULD be upfront about why. I think you'll walk away from this feeling better about it if you do)

[007kingifrit]

whenever a woman says" what does it mean" the answer is always... nothing.

it means nothing, its not a problem, stop overthinking it. he might just like you to start the conversation

[HollyK21]

Sure. You guys weren’t together, and by his extreme lack of conversation and effort, maintaining a relationship with you was clearly not on his priority list, so you didn’t owe him any explanations. Unfortunately I do think that his behavior was caused by waning interest, and he may not have been emotionally available. So overall, I think you made the right choice.

[Guy13]

Sounds right…🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

[In_Trance]

I think you already have addressed the situation