Is "waiting for someone special" worth It? 25 yo and I've never even kissed?

[Anonymous]

I am the type of person who has always been romantic.
I am not ugly and a lot of guys actually have asked me out but I did not like them that way.

Should I just go to parties, find some handsome men and make out like most of people are doing in their twenties?
I don't know If I believe anymore in "finding your special person". And even If I do find them, they will have "baggage" aka as more relationship experience, so what's the point in waiting for someone special when you are already 25?
The few times I've liked people romantically they did not like me back, fomo has been increasing lately.

What are your experiences and your advice regarding this?

[Mia-Wallace]

I don't know.

I don't know anything about you to tell you if x or y is worth it for you. Your education, social class, job, philosophy, where you live, how you live, etc. I don't know where is it that you look for men, and why. I don't know what you want in your life and "from" life and I doubt you do either.

On the subject of "waiting" and "special person", I don't understand the whole concept and worldview that leads to formulating these kinds of sentences.

To me:
You are a person from a certain background in a certain culture in a certain social position, etc. You want x or y or z.
There are persons out there who want x or y and/or z.

These needs and wants are specific to you, but happiness, consistency, sanity, and health are usually what people universally seek.

Now you go out there and simply meet people. You communicate, know people, and find friends that make you feel good, benefit you, add to you, help you, and you do the same to them.
In meeting people, you are also limited by your beliefs, your culture, your social class, etc. You're not going to meet and click with just about anyone. That's life.

You feel happier, healthier, and more consistent in your life and goals when you are with them.

A "special person" (to me) is simply one of these people, but one who shares more key memories/experiences with you. Also, one who fucks you and genuinely cares about you more than the rest of the people who you like.

I don't understand "waiting" (wait for who?) and I don't understand arbitrary "standards" people establish for themselves. They are all limiting thoughts and/or delusions to me, usually stemming from greed or stupidity.

[BlackBeauty90]

There is nothing wrong with waiting. If anything I give you kudos.

What when many women your age sleep around so much that they have far more in common with cheap prostitutes than they do with decent women worth respect.

And that's the thing. You don't have the "baggage" and kindly don't ever think it. That IS a claim that losers (men who don't respect women) looking for cheap / easy women will tell you, trying to guilt and bully you into something you don't want.

Women who sleep around have far more baggage than someone who waits.

No decent or respectable man is going to want an easy woman (only men who have similarly little to no standards as she does). Women who sleep around do not have good reputations period - either among men or women - and a lot worse.

[Anonymous]

Hard to say. I've been waiting for some special for 40+ years. I'm thankful I haven't been married and divorced many times like some people my age. But I think I'd have to have experienced that life to fully say whether someone special is worth the wait.
I can tell you this. In hindsight my opinion is love is messy. There's no such thing as Mr. And Mrs. Right. And even when you find the right person for you you should understand good relationships don't just happen. They all require constant effort.

[Drumlin2001]

I didn't have first kiss till 35. I wasn't deliberately waiting, I had a mental issue with physical intimacy.
I would say don't wait. Even someone you think is special can turnout to not be who you thought find someone who is right for that moment in life.

[jhl_x]

I'm almost 27 and I'm like this. When asked about this, I say that it's better to do their share of mistakes in life than to do nothing. I've never kissed someone or anything further than that, even with some chances to do it, and it's one of my biggest regrets in life.

[MikeInHawaii]

You are stopping your bad relationships before they start. Keep doing what you are doing.

If the right person has to be 6’ 5”, make $300,000, drive a Mercedes, and be good looking and muscle bound, but can’t be over 30, good luck! If he exists, he can afford to be pickier than you are.

[Anonymous]

tough one , possible in the long term something will eventually come into reality but is it worth waiting a year or 2 . i don't really see a lot of random people hooking up at the pub here but i live in a small city so its not really a random crowd and a lot of the people know each other so hard to just meet someone new one night

[loveslongnails]

Everyone is different, and it's tough to say what's right for you. I get the sense that you've missed the "special kiss feeling" you get when you're very young and it's your first. But since you're still un-kissed, it probably won't feel special unless you really like the guy.

[Markm3212]

as my dad used to say, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find the princess.

go out and have fun. if you are not making moves and showing interest Mr right is passing you by

[PatriceONeal]

You've surely met a guy that's "worth it" by now... how entitled can you be. You've met like 20 "the ones" by 24 ffs. Women are just lost out here I swear.

[BlackBeauty90]

She has standards, likely something you don't know exist.

[True_Music48]

Not if you want some one badly. You have to look for someone and they’re easy to find

[bootieclapper9000]

have you not been online tons of men are opting out of dating lol

they found out the truth about women lol

[TheFlak38]

you must raise your standards even more. That will definitely help you.

[driven159]

Just think of all the drama you have missed how lucky you are just be patient your time will come

[EaterPeter]

I doubt if it is worth the wait. Though don't accumulate too much baggage.

[LazerBean]

It's definitely worth it.

[Guy13]

Isn't there a movie about this?

[glassdunes]

Heartbreak is inevitable. Follow your instinct

[jahaims]

If waiting isn't working go find one

[Anonymous]

Never been kissed with drew barrymore