Why can I not get a man (25/f)?

[Anonymous]

I am a 25 year old solicitor (lawyer).
I live alone in a nice apartment.
I have a good social circle.
People say I am very attractive, I often get approached on the street to be told I’m good looking which isn't very common in the UK.
I can get the dates, I can get the s e x, but I can never hold onto men for very long!!
I really wanna settle down but I can't :(

[DaveJord]

All I can say is that looks and money isn't everything. there's obviously not enough context for me to render any good advice.

But in dating rejection and failure is just an ingrained part of the process. But every failure is an opportunity to improve yourselves and make ourselves better. So you need to do some serious self reflection and make any changes you think you need to inorder to become the guest version of yourself possible.

If your constantly doing the same things, and getting the same results, then you need to make changes in the way your doing things. Consider different methods and approaches.

Most people tend to think they know what they want, but maybe what you want isn't its what need. Really drill down on the things you feel you need and separate those from your wants. Becauae once find someone that really fulfills all your needs your wants tend to be less nesscary, and develop a deeper appreciation for who your with, l.

[Lycanthropic]

First off, if you sleep with a man too soon, he will never really see himself as your first choice. He'll look at you and think, "if she can do that with me so easily, she can do it with any guy." He'll associate you more with sex and you will no longer be able to pair bond with him. Real love takes a long time to develop. You have to develop a bond with someone.

Some men might be turned off because you're a lawyer. They might believe if things start going sour, you'll sue them into oblivion. Also, take a look at the men you are interested in. Do you consider them high-value? High-value men don't generally care about a woman's career. They are looking for young, pretty, family oriented, and preferably a virgin to settle down with.

[hotwife98]

Your career is going to make it difficult for you to be able to see your potential partners for a reasonable amount of time.

It may be a struggle to find a man who is willing to not be around you for what is considered to be the usual amount you would see a girlfriend.

I would suggest telling any potential partners about your career early on into knowing them so they can prepare and know what they are in for.

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you and I communicated previously?

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life if you never try you will never know & although guys are approaching you maybe it’s time for you to start approaching them. As for your love life like court it has not adjourned & although you may feel like the jury is still out anything is possible & like court if you find someone you should never settle.

[FilmGuy93]

Speaking as solicitor myself; we tend to be abrasive and combative people. I could easily see a situation where guys are avoiding you because they don't want to risk getting screwed in a breakup.

I know that the reason I don't want to date a lawyer is because all the women I know in law are either super nerdy or incredibly combative people. Which is awesome for practicing law, but it's not a personality trait that will bring me peace in a romantic relationship.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

There are some things guys want in a girl's character to see her as long term relationship material: she has to be supportive to her man, loyal, open to talk (also about feelings and intimate stuff), down to earth, no gold digger or taking advantage, be actually open for compromises, share some interesters he has too, not be offended by every little thing and get crazy/mad easily

[DryGermanGuy]

Food for thought: What are you and the guy (s) doing together, when you not have sex?

[exitseven]

A lot of guys will not date a lawyer because if it went sideways she could make his life a living hell.

[DenizLikesTennis]

Well, I know that career helps in many ways but when it comes to running a relationship, for that, it's a way too demanding job. Such as Doctors, Lawyers, Senator,/Prosecutor, Psychologist,

[exitseven]

@DenizLikesTennis I know property owners that won't rent to lawyers because they want to sue all the time. This is sort of the same thing.

[slatyb]

Maybe there’s something that puts them off. How does it go when you meet someone?

[driven159]

you are still very young don't worry just let it happen in time you are in a career, so you have the world by the tail it will happen when you don't expect it

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex.
Women wanted freedom and equality. This is what it looks like.

[anylolone]

Probably your choice in men and your own lack of willingness to settle down.

[Anonymous]

you are not worth it

Proverbs 2:17

who has left the partner of her youth
and ignored the covenant she made before God

you left your husband

[KostasKouvalis]

I don't blame them. I wouldn't trust a lawyer

[In_Trance]

I think you've posted this already

[Anonymous]

Lawyers are bloodsuckers

[crazyy_men]

they always say so