(20F) Do I need to dumb myself down to find a boyfriend? (Page 2)
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Really intelligent girls seem stuck up and hard to get to most guys I have found.
At least that is their perception, where as girls who don't come off as that intelligent seem more friendly to them and easier to talk to.
There is always the exception on both sides, so just look for that is all.
If you can't be yourself around a guy, then that particular guy isn't worth dating. You'd have to continue living the lie, in order to keep him around, and that would be a pretty unfulfilling life for you.
Just relax, and be yourself; there are plenty of guys that like intelligent women. You'll find one soon enough, and you won't have to settle, or wait until you're 30.
A lot of really smart guys are also single so I think your looking for the wrong guys if you want them to be as smart as you.
Dumbing down just to get together with someone is no option because it's doomed to fail in the long run so that's definitely not a option!
Just be patient and wait for the right person to come along. Or be more progressive by letting guys you like know that you like them
Girls generally don't want to date a smart guy either, even the smart girls in class. They go after hot guys, actuaaly most smart guys stay lonely for a longer time. Smart guys also love smart girls but those women hardly ever date them while young after a certain age they tend to marry girls who just like them. But smart women after a certain age want to settle down with smart guys only to notice that not many of them are left. It's a well-known story nowadays among highly educated people.
I do know many older female PhDs like that.
Know what? I just graduated school and have never had a girlfriend either. I've had teachers hit on me, and 9.9/10 girls shower interest because I'm a weird rare independent thinker, and am literally the most ripped guy in school.
And the reason I didn't get a girlfriend is because most girls just don't seem intelligent enough for me to rely on spending the rest of my life with.
Yeah this is something I relate to. It sucks.
No, you need to think of the man you want, once you've imagined him. Think, where would this man be? And go see there. Dumbing yourself down will only result in worse potential partners. But I will say that most intelligent women i've met have some insanely high even almost impossible standards. So think about that too and what it is you're expecting out of a guy, as well as what you are offering, guys won't want you if you're not going to be a boon to them.
I never had a girlfriend `til a few weeks before I turned 25! And, so far, as far as I'm concerned, I've NEVER had a girlfriend and seriously doubt if I ever will!!
I'm pretty smart, too. Last time I took an I. Q. test it said I was a couple points shy of borderline genius. I'd love to have a girl that's smart enough to teach me stuff but dumb enough that I can teach her stuff.
No why do you have to play to get guys, when you can play smart to get a good man. I have never dated and would never fall in the honey trap of those pretending to play dumb rather i would pick a smart woman. Just don't play too hard getting a man, he will eventually come around
The thing is you already think you are too smart for any boy so your perception is built as such one wrong move from a guy and boom you will not be interested him.
Instead of tallying inteligience tally compatibility.
Luckily for guys don't look much for inteligence or most of women would be single lol.
You need to find topics that you could both enjoy and it's same for both genders be girls or boys
Don’t put on any facade to find a significant other unless you want to play that game for the rest of your life! You especially don’t want to hide positive traits. The only way you will ever find someone compatible with the real you is to be yourself.
As a guy who likes "intellectually delicate" women, as I like to call it, I doubt you would be happy pretending to be someone you're not. And that goes for your (future) man, too. I like women who may need extra help and attention in that regard, but I wouldn't like it if it was disingenuos. I see where you're coming from, and maybe I'm wrong, but I'd imagine you'll be happier being yourself and finding a man who loves you for it, even it it takes longer to happen.
disingenuous*
I wouldn't. You sound like the person that would be totally annoyed that you have to act like that. Sure, maybe most guys want that because they will think you're easy but the guys that will appreciate your intelligence, you will have a better relationship with.
No, it's fun personalities that most people want. Being smart is always a bonus. Maybe those girls acted "dumb" by being more fun and let go. There's a lot more to a potential partner then someone's IQ.
I've dated smart women before and they didn't have attractive personalities I was looking for after getting to know them a bit. They didn't have a big sense of humor, were materialistic, and kinda rude. Not saying you're like that but that's what I experienced.
80/20 rule.
Most women are only interested in top 20% of male population who're rich and has the best genes or both.
Whereas bottom 80% men are not at all desired by women, this group of men mostly comprise of men with average to below average looks with less to no money. Such men are mostly doing the blue collar jobs and not very good looking. That's why women doesn't show much interest in such men.
But the problem is top 20 % has abundance of women because almost 90% women are after them. So the competition is hard here for women who're competing for this 20%.
But if we talk about about bottom 80% they here most men are desperate for relationship. But most women are not interested in them. Coz They're blue pilled beta simps.
So This is a complete scenario in a nutshell.
It's not how smart/stupid a girl is it's about whether she's likeable or not. The fact that you wrote "I don't take bullshit from anyone" already speaks volumes. One can be smart and very likeable, or one can be smart and debate just about everything whcih is exhausting to any guy. So at the end of the day it's not about how smart or dumb you are but if you're a genuine nice person.
No, but what you need to NOT do is show people up by correcting them over petty mistakes (driving up the offramp is not petty). Most quality guys appreciate intelligent women. No one likes arrogant women (though they may tolerate them for a bit if sufficiently hot).
Also, smart is not synonymous with interesting. Find some hobbies where you can meet people.
Nope, just start doing some approaching yourself. To change who you are (in any way), is only going to make you miserable. There's nothing wrong with single and HAPPY, until you find the right guy for you. Which isn't easy for ANYONE! Some people luck out and find it quickly, but most don't, if ever.
Well, if you sound like you wrote this description, no wonder you don't get a boyfriend. The way you put your problem sounds super elitist, obnoxious, like you're a superior being for some reason and pretty much nobody likes that.
I think you first need to take a long, realistic and objective look at yourself to accurately describe yourself and to stop behaving like you're some sort of Goddess or something.
If you're looking for just any man, it's probably the best way. But if you're looking for a man who appreciates intelligence, it'll make him look right over you. I've always had to settle for comparatively dumb women, and it's frustrating. I always feel as if I'm alone with nobody to talk to.
In short, yes.
It's ok to be smart at work or school, but it can leave a guy confused and wondering if you are smarter than he is (they hate that).
When you're with a guy just smile, agree, laugh, repeat.