(20F) Do I need to dumb myself down to find a boyfriend? (Page 2)

Question

I've never had a boyfriend. I'd really like to have one, not gonna lie. I'm incredibly smart, and I don't take bullshit from people. I've come to the realization after talking to quite a few people that guys my age like stupid girls. Probably because they're easy and men like to feel needed. Every one of my bestfriends in the past acted dumb as rocks all of the time (secretly were some of the most manipulative people I've met in my life), and guess what? They had boys left and right. Most every girl I met who is outwardly intelligent doesn't get men at all. So I'm curious, at my age... do I really have to dumb myself down to get a boyfriend? Because honestly, I don't want to be single till I'm over the age of 30.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

Guys always and only cared about women looks and body. So being half nude attracts hundreds of guys.

OddBeMe · Answer

If you want a dumb boyfriend.  Its like actual fishing. The good fishermen know crappy ones are the easy ones. To get the big fish, patience, skill, etc, is needed.

exitseven · Answer

No, you just need to hangout with a smarter group of guys.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes they deserve it.  But do at your own risk. I pretended to be dumb and ended up attracting players, fake wimps and cheaters.

slatyb · Answer

No, you just need to expand your dating pool. Come to Seattle, it's full of very bright single men.

msc545 · Answer

If you are actually all that smart (which is questionable given your writing), then a dumb boyfriend or even worse, a dumb husband, will bore the hell out of you and won't last long.

Imsmurter1 · Answer

Yes I'm over the age of 30 and still single and part of it is that I'm shy and nerdy. You don't have to be full dumb but being an enticing lady-like personality could help.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Uh huh. and what exactly makes you so smart if you don’t mind me asking?

Anonymous · Answer

don't do that. The right man will appreciate your intellect, not condemn it. Besides only abusive guys, who want to dominate girls want them to be dumber than themselves to elevate themselves only.

Alcoholic_Wannabe · Answer

This is narcissistic as fuck. Just be attractive enough and don't be a bitch. Jesus Christ you act like it's difficult.

Anonymous · Answer

What makes you think you aren't already dumb? Have more faith in yourself.

Agent_Elflord · Answer

Don’t do it! I’m a sucker for smart women, and most of my crushes lately have been STEM majors.

Ironic_Method · Answer

I feel like if you were smart you'd know exactly what the problem is here.

Waldoe · Answer

mmm in general, Guys like to feel 'Needed', to be asked for advice, opinion, et al... makes them feel appreciated...

anylolone · Answer

No, just try being less of a cunt, start chasing guys that like you, and put yourself out there more.

Djaay · Answer

For example try me being as smart as you can , not dumming down... try it and let's see where it goes

Anonymous · Answer

A great pair of tits will get you noticed before your intelligence. Make whatever you want out of that.

peedy · Answer

No why would you even think of doing that just be yourself

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Think of it this way. People our age just aren’t mature. And I’ve never had an established girlfriend either

EnglishEuropean · Answer

You should try it. It might be very entertaining. Also being smart is hard.

Hanrej · Answer

No, you could instead find a dumb boyfriend. That works too.

wjburch · Answer

Be who you are. If anyone wants you to change because of that they don't like you for who you are. The best person to be is yourself.

MissingAWoman · Answer

I am wanting a woman like you SO BAD. Please pm me.

Anonymous · Answer

Only if you date guys your age. I like intelligent women.

NathanDavis · Answer

this didn't sound intelligent at all...

baserunner611 · Answer

No, look 👀 at different places

Lycanthropic · Answer

Just date older men.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Nope, that would be fake

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

No, not worth it. Be better

jimmy2 · Answer

Come over we will find out lol

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Maybe. Lol

enocheli · Answer

I doubt that

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