Where are all the genuine guys? Why is dating so complicated?

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I’ve been trying to date for months. It’s not the “attention” that’s the problem. It’s the fact every single one just wants to hookup when I give no indication of this whatsoever. I don’t even “dress” in any way that would say that either. I even have it on my profile that I’m not interested in hook ups. Yet every single one that speaks to me just wants to hook up.

Some even post on their profile that they want a relationship, they talk to you then say they just want to sleep with someone and complain that they can’t get anyone to sleep with. Or they make excuses constantly and just don’t to talk at all, and they’ll happily not speak for weeks on end like that. I even had a guy say to me he can’t get “laid” and said it’s easy for me because I am “pretty”. How disgusting is that? Im so sick of being viewed as purely an object. I’ve tried everything to make it clear that’s not what I want yet it makes 0 difference.

I have a good job, I’ve studied etc, I live a quiet life, always make plans to do things, I am not the “party” type either. Where can I meet someone who is just normal? Normal as in doesn’t try and send nudes, or ask to hook up or ghost you?

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I´m actually not sure. I think as stupid as it sounds that´s the algorithm meaning the app shows you guys they think would be attractive for you. I get their problem, I get your problem and I feel like there is not really something helpful to say about it.
The problem with the genuine guys is that they often are the boring guys meaning they are easily to be over looked because they are not that outgoing or they just don´t use dating apps.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

Half of these young people fuck like they are shaking hands. They fuck before even going out on a date. Not the way I grew up. When I was younger, most people got to know who they were fucking before having sex. That was in the 90's, but seems like things are a lot different with this next generation. Maybe you should move somewhere more old fashioned or date guys who are a few years older and have grown up.

FictionalCharacter · Accepted Answer

All guys are like this, even the ‘nice’ ones are more dangerous. Trust me, you’re better off pampering yourself than landing a fake guy. Even married guys who are supposedly ‘happy’ cheat on their wives. You are NEVER going to find a loyal, kind, respectable man. NO MATTER what they say, ALL MEN ARE LIARS AND CHEATERS.

Guy13 · Answer

If you are grounded in the World then you are going to receive the World which you described. If you are grounded In Christ Jesus then you will receive another Like.

The World experiences Offense when it encounters "Good" as In Christ Jesus, therefore, if you are grounded in the World then it is likely that Genuine will circumvent you as you would not "feel" Good.

bean2k21 · Answer

The problem may well be with you. It sounds like you're holding back in the sex department. I mean, even in14th century London church officials hired sex workers to keep their congregation happy. And, here you are in the 21st century being a bit prudish.

Djbett26 · Answer

There's no simple answer for this one. Just keep trying. You will meet someone who loves you just as much as themselves... Lol. I thing every opinion I read had to do with a personal experience. Just keep focus on you and being the best you, you can be. And I am almost willing to bet it just happens

Adronicus · Answer

We're at home or work. Sometimes we go out with family but rarely is this a bar or a club. More likely to come across us on the beach or water/park. You'll know when you see us, determined through our actions some of us serve ourselves (evil) & some of us serve something greater; we're wholly invested in those we love but we also expect that to be RECIPROCATED & appreciated:) Watch how children are towards him, are they drawn to him? Does he do well with them?

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Genuine men are normally too focused on themselves or their taking their time with someone that catches their attention. Either that or you're not interested in talking to a guy who makes an effort to get to know you.

Anonymous · Answer

Good men? Oh you mean "nice guys" well they're everywhere ready to simp but if you talk about high quality men they at the gym getting after it everyday.

Thatdude091699 · Answer

I'm saying this not to be mean so please take this with a grain of salt. If you are constantly getting bad men that won't commit, it's your fault, you chose them. And as for where are all the good men, to be honest you probably friend zoned them.

Sixgunsound · Answer

The good guys gave a good girl a ring in their early 20s. Back when they weren’t good enough for most girls.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

They’re called Giga Chads. Woman can be Giga Chads too, but in this case, we set them aside. Well we can’t but anyways, they are nearing extinction like Beijing River Dolphin. Only Giga Chads can find each other

Shamalien · Answer

There are plenty of dudes that aren’t like that…

but the super attractive ones almost all are. Being smarter doesn’t get a woman a more attractive guy…it gets you a better partner. Prioritize that over looks and you’ll find him

demonics · Answer

Date uglier men.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Those types of guys are absolutely out there. Where are you meeting men? Also, what would you say makes you a fun person to be with?

Wubs3000 · Answer

Go out and try to meet someone. I doubt most genuine guys are on dating apps.

msc545 · Answer

Oh gee, no "good guys" for you? You should have treated us better.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Certainly not online. You find them irl. How big is your social network? How often do you talk to strangers and ask for their number?

Anonymous · Answer

That's real simple. You only choose (have interest) in the guys who want to hook up with you. Until you learn to fix that, this will continue.  Glad I could help.🙂

In_Trance · Answer

it's because you keep chasing the same douchebags time after time and friendzoning the guys you're actually looking to get with

Anonymous · Answer

Probably in the friendzone where you left them...

Zygum · Answer

May be you are not pretty or sexy, seems you are not social, otherwise there is no problem to get boyfriend

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Your feminist/whoring sister's have killed men's interest in relationships.

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