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My boyfriend's family said they will disown him if he marries me. He still wants to get married anyway. What should I do? (Page 2)
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Sorry to hear. That is unfortunate and not a good for him (whether it’s with you or another). Unless they either, totally disown him or totally except you (which could happen over time - after a disowning event) he will likely have a stress filled life (unless he stands up to them both in private and with you present).
You should do whatever your boyfriend wants to do. Anything else will most likely ruin your relationship. Be grateful that he's putting you above his parents... that's a good sign.
Find out why they hate you and try to sort out differences. If not, it is yours and his choice. But beware that in future it is going to be a bit of a thorn in the side. Every family event gonna be awkward and bit painful.
Haye is strong. I don't fit the mold and the mom knows she can't mold me. It's largely about control.
Haye*
Then it's a bad situation. Continue and have that thorn life long. Break off and lose your love.
It is and it isn't. It's mostly theatrics.
Okk...
Follow your Heart... When you get "married" you are beginning your life and starting your own family... if they can NOT support you, then you are better off with them out of your Life. You will have children and Love and Less stress from "Controlling" relatives, you are NOT children... seek happiness
@DermalPunch it is sad that his family feels that way but what matters is he wants you and for you to be his wife. as long as it what he wants loves you and you feel the same about him. The marry him and screw everyone else
Parents have no control over their adult kids. In the end his choice is what really matters, he’ll marry who he chooses regardless if his parents what to be control freaks about it or not.
What you should do? Do whatever makes you happy.
Just curious, is there a cultural difference?
Age gap is the main issue and that his mom has a girl she wants because she that she can train to serve the family but he doesn't want to be with her. There is somewhat of a cultural difference but it isn't the reason for the drama.
Do what your heart is telling you to do. If really love you wouldn't want to loose him knowing that he wants to stick with you even after all the drama. He sounds like a keeper
Get married anyway. My parents were in a similar situation once - and I was the result. They've lived happily, even though BOTH sets of parents formally disowned them.
OK, you are 38 and he is 23? That's one of the things she has a problem with. My kids' Arabic teacher is from Morocco and was lucky not to get disowned when she got married a second time (to a non-Muslim).
Married him, grandchildren break many grandparent hearts.
If you love him
Love him so much.
Marry him, city or county house marry same day
If knocville Tennessee, I married both by happen soon wedding 💍 license
You know what you have too doo handle your business girl if he's worth the drama and u have too compete for him goo all in lol and NOO don't be nice that other girl is not pretty your supposed to say she thinks she pretty or something lol and tell his parents u can't wait to call them your new mom and dad lol 😂😂😂 jk well I hope it all works out:)!
For some reason people have a very hard time to walk away from being controlled like that by their family. If he walks away like i did, i will salute him. strength and honor.
In the opposite case Stockholm syndrome might be as rampant as is depression.
Do marry him, it must've been hard for your boyfriend to bear with his mother and his other family members for so long. He wants you and you choose him 😉
Where Im from, (Finland), parents ain't got no say in the matter who the girl chooses to marry as long as both are adults.
Love, if anything should never be a business or family politics. What is happening to the freedom of choice?
I don't understand the problem... he clearly loves you. If you love him too then you shouldn't even ask this question, it's no brainer.
He loves you , He has that romantic connection to you. People can't forced anyone to love someone that's something I've learn this past year.
Marry him. It doesn't sound like the sort of family anyone would want to spend a lot of time around anyway..
In fact, if they actually go through with the disowning (which I doubt), >you< must absolutely enforce it. If his mom calls three months later, tell her to "stop calling, you walked away" and hang up. That's all you say over and over. Stop calling. You walked away. She will almost certainly say she was only leaving you not him (in some subtle way) but fails to understand that the two of you are united now, and, again, "you walked away." And hang up. She will eventually be "sorry" for walking away from him. Press that she "need to be sorry for walking away from >us<."
Until she apologizes to >you<, don't even let her talk to him.
I'm sure he'll be fine with it, of course. He doesn't really care if he never talks to her again. The thought seems a little... empty, but not really a painful emptiness. Just a confusing one; precisely the sort of emptiness that never nags at you leaving you free to ignore it into obscurity.
But as it's true, in all ways, that he doesn't really care, he also wouldn't mind if you did make up with his mom. And it does make sense that since his mom started the war, it is within his wife's right to establish the terms of surrender.
Ngl I would not approve of my son marrying a cougar either.
Yes, I would absolutely be bothered by my son marrying an older woman who wanted him for purely sexual and ego gratification puposes. Don't see how it applies here.. oh waiit it's Fuentes. You say attention-seeking provacative BS all the time. 😘
It was you who said the age gap, any woman pass 35 dating a young guy in their 20's is a cougar in my eyes. You can't tell me how to think.
No I can't tell you how to think. I also don't give your opinions much -- if any -- weight at all. So we good. Carry on.
Then don't tell me I'm attention seeking and being provavctive because what I said isn't what you wanna hear. But I don't care a lot of men think your age is older & would be considered a cougar in their eyes and I think that as well. So don't try to tell me that's not how I actually think. Don't ask questions if you don't want questions to them.
"Don't ask questions if you don't want questions to them." Ok.
Answers to them it must have been my historical spell check. But that's besides the point.
I picked my wife over my family. No regrets.