Why do shy guys always end up alone?

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WeirdoFriendly · Accepted Answer

If you're talking about relationship wise, then it's probably because we don't have the confidence to tell those who we want to be with, how we really feel about them. I know on several occasions I have had a feeling that I should speak up or say something, but I never do. And it's not the fact that I care about what they may think of me, because that doesn't matter at all. I'm going to be who I am and I'm not going to let anyone change me by telling me what I should be. It's the fact that I'm afraid of a different life... with someone who I actually care about in it.

And although I have friends to keep me from feeling totally alone, I still feel like I need someone who understands me. Who can tell what I'm thinking about before I even say a word. I've talked to my friends. They think of me as a puzzle. They don't know which piece connects next.

Slartybartfast · Accepted Answer

Because, unfortunately, the social pressure and very one sided dating market says that all the burdens of approaching are placed on the sex that is demonized for approaching and most likely to get a bad outcome.

Men aren't allowed the luxury of not doing things they don't want to. Otherwise many dangerous and unpleasant jobs would never be filled. Without serious continuous social pressure we would quickly run out of roofers, linemen , soldiers, and loggers.

idk87334F · Accepted Answer

I don’t think that’s true! I’m sure there’s a lot of shy guys who do end up getting married! Perhaps the reason why there’s a thought of that is because for the most part, the guy is usually the one who makes the first move (and a lot of women tbh are used to that) and some women don’t like making the first move. For me, however, I LOVE making the first move and I love shy guys as well!! Have I confessed to most/all of my crushes, yes! Have I gotten rejected, yes but that’s not the point lol. Everyone has their own timing on when they will finally meet the person who is right for them. The best we can do I guess is to keep trying our best and have hope that whatever happens, happens for a reason.

kao118 · Accepted Answer

No but I think you should try approaching them because if you don’t make it known you’re interested you’ll never get them

jhl_x · Answer

He can be the best person in the world, but it means shit when nobody knows him or remembers him.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know.

They care about how they come off and pleasing. people too much and not caring enough about them self.

Shy guys are scared to talk to women.

I fuck 4 different chicks this week since Saturday. And one of them I didn't even know their name. Mellisa or America I don't know.

I have friend/Associate who didn't wanna talk to girl at the bar. And I walked up flirted with the girl and got her number.

I didn't sleep with her.. im not. messed up. Like that

NikolasGLT · Answer

Because they don't bother to make an effort to improve themselves and instead prefer to blame society over their laziness to improve oneself, as well as ask questions exactly like the title of this post.
Like Einstein said, only an insane person would do the same thing over and over again and expect different results.
Being shy not working out for you? Then fucking so something about it. The internet offers so much useful and incredible information FOR FREE yet those people don't use it.

Jimrat86 · Answer

Women should be the ones to approach, but they don't. That said, just practice and go out. My plan is to become a regular at bars and coffee shops to the point where it becomes my nest. Do this. Because the more comfortable you are, the easier it will be to talk to the girls you actually desire instead of just waiting around for what will never happen.

jshm2 · Answer

Because they confuse "shy" with being "soft and lacking assertiveness".

Nothing wrong with being a bit shy around some things and subjects. But being a softy and coward is a big turnoff for people looking for a serious relationship.

Yes there are some girls who like to dom. But even they find little fun in shy soft men.

ODC2112 · Answer

Because they don't take opportunities. It is the same thing as women and the labor market, women do not seize opportunities, then complain of being discriminated against. Shy people miss opportunities and are left alone. Often the problem of shyness is an anxiety problem, in which it should be resolved with therapy, but people are too self-centered to do so.

Juxtapose · Answer

Women don't have to initiate so why would they? Let's be real, initiating with a stranger and opening yourself up like that is not something most women are willing to do and even a lot of guys these days aren't willing to do it.

But women force us to do it or we face the penalty of being alone.

MrHopper · Answer

I am a shy guy, i just learnt to fake it over the years, i only do well in certain circumstances but people think i am confident and i get all the ladies, both things not true! i was the fat kid in school and a big fatty till about 30

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Because it comes across as a lack of assertion and leadership capabilities to be able to make decisions and stand up for themselves. It comes off as a lack of confidence and ability to face challenges. Natural turn off for most women.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Shy people usually get ignored so maybe that's why. I'm shy myself so it'll be even harder to talk to a shy guy.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I agree with the girls, sometimes it's worth making conversation with girls, this way you may find a girl, I know it's not easy cause I am a shy guy, even in school I was shy. That's one reason I am single cause of being shy

Anonymous · Answer

Women loves assholes and douchebags. Be ass to get some ass. Look it up!

KoolKita · Answer

Because a lot of the time they don't ever get up the courage to talk to the girls. If there's no interaction, there's nothing there.

fonduegirl · Answer

Because patriarchy and evolution has screwed up chances for both genders and individual differences are no longer valid

Berethor · Answer

Because guys are usually expected to do most of the work in dating.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Because you have a timid person trying to mate with a group of people who are absolutely terrified of expressing their needs.

likelyOK · Answer

They don’t always. My cousin is a shy Asian guy and he is getting married

Wubs3000 · Answer

Because shy guy's don't have as much confidence which is an attractive feature, and they don't ask people out. That's my best guess.

slatyb · Answer

If they don't talk to anyone, how could they meet a partner?

maximumpower · Answer

they don't. added plus is that they don't end up with nearly as many psychos as the guys that gladly latch onto them solely to "have someone." same goes for girls, by the way...

TexasRed95 · Answer

I mean it's self explanatory. We are shy so we don't talk to people. And it's harder for us to be close to people.

moviedude714 · Answer

Probably because men have always had the expectation and probably forever will unfortunately of having to do the pursuing and asking out

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Should be obvious buy I'll say it anyway. They don't grab the bull by the horns and instead wait for something to fall on their lap.

AlexM007 · Answer

Well not to be sarcastic but if "there shy" probably answering your own question.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

If you're shy but handsome it's not really a problem..

defnotraemie · Answer

Because women love confidence

sofia444 · Answer

Because men are supposed to chase women if a women does so she called as a hoe.

jahaims · Answer

Because they are less likely to display the behavior required to find a partner.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Don't feel bad 2/3rds of men end up alone or worse divorced

In_Trance · Answer

Shy is only a first impression. Not opening up in future meetings is a red flag

Jouth · Answer

cause they don't talk to girls lol try saying hi. It'll he hard at first.

LazerBean · Answer

Because they don't do anything.

MissingAWoman · Answer

I am in the same boat. I am 27, almost 28, and never had a real girlfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

They don’t. They just need to find the right person for them. 😊

ChrisMike1919 · Answer

Story of my shitty life...

Marianna546 · Answer

That's not true

jengeorge26 · Answer

They don’t know how to pick up girls

Gloree · Answer

Not shy guys. People make choices

MountAverage · Answer

That's simply not true.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

Cuz they 2 shy shy

Twalli · Answer

We don't. I'm shy and have a girlfriend

NathanDavis · Answer

I did not...

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

That's a lie.

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