How quickly can you get over a crush that either rejected you or clearly has no interest in you at all beyond a friendship?

[Still-alive]

It used to take me a bit to get over but now it pretty much is like a light switch as soon as i get rejected im over them.

Pretty quickly

It takes a little bit

It takes awhile actually

Depends on how hard i crush on people

[meetkitty123]

It would take me a bit of time. I may act like I am over them shrug it off and quickly turn elsewhere but the truth is it hurts for a little bit. Some crushes I may accept the rejection but they may linger in the back of my mind. One example I had the biggest crush on my brothers best friend. We played together and grew up together since elementary. I saw him briefly in passing 5 years and I still fluttered in my gut worst I sensed he had an attraction towards me (we were both happily married then) so I chose not to take him up on his offer of our kids having play dates. Just a few days ago he dropped by my house to do me and my brother a favor and again I feel the flutter (I tamper it down because I believe he's still happily married). So I may be over it as in it doesn't hurt but im not unresponsive.

Now If its a person I was in love with could take months to years to get over. Even if I was the one who did the breaking up. I find I miss the good times the love once shared the promises and plans made now never to be completed.

One love I have never forgotten or gotten over was my first true love. He passed away on his drive to come see me and purpose to me 😞 had the ring in his pocket. That still hurts.

Another thing is friendship. Oh a good friendship that goes sour or you are forced apart because of distance always hurts.

[Still-alive]

Wow so sorry about that guy :(

[meetkitty123]

Thank you 🤗
One of the many reasons why Im "guarded" in my private world 🙂

[meetkitty123]

And my response to SUBARUGIRL 's question would really explain my guardedness

[CrazyGirl2]

I’d say i get over a crush pretty quickly, I mean a crush is just a one-directional infatuation, I think that guy is just the cutest guy ever, and he doesn’t feel the same about me, or worse, he actively dislikes me! While it might cause me to feel some level of embarrassment, it’s not anything close the end of the world. There are plenty of really nice, sweet, gentle guys with great senses of humor out there, who happen to be gorgeous and would be more than happy to date me.

[Black_Ivory]

You have to develop the attitude that it is their problem, not yours. Never blame yourself for why others are not interested.

You can always do self-development or self-improvement, but always assume it is not you it is them with the problem.

[Sillyboi98]

It takes away bro. I normally like to occupy myself with hobbies I enjoy; it helps ease the emotional pain. In addition, watching plenty of Jerry Springer does wonders for a depressed mindset

[Apulu_Imback]

I have not proposed my crush yet to be rejected. I am not rejected yet now but I feel that my crush is fading away. Because he doesn't shows much interest and I have other more importantly things to do in life as well. I believe time is everything and I would rather move on instead of crying.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

It depends. It typically takes me awhile to really start to like someone. I'm the "I don't fall easily, but once I fall it's pretty hard" type. So if I actually start to like someone and get rejected, it takes a little while to get over it

[kylee2437]

Truly depends. I notice it takes me longer when the person is disrespectful about their rejection instead of just speaking up and being grown, so I’m reality I think I’m more fixated on the disrespect.

[Still-alive]

How come?

[kylee2437]

@Still-alive because it amazes me how many people want honesty, a great life partner, and a happy ending but don’t have the basic characters like great communication skills to even get a good partner

[kylee2437]

Or none the less characters to deserve a good partner

[kylee2437]

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[petitedollbabee]

If it’s just a crush, maybe a few weeks. If it’s someone that I fell in love with, it can take a long time. The last person I fell in love with who wasn’t interested in me, it took me a year and a half to get over them, and as soon as I got over them and moved on, they then decided to tell me they love me. But by then it was too late.

[Cherry234]

It takes me a little bit of time or it may take me a while, depending on how much I like that person. It takes me at least a few days or a few weeks but my crushes don't ever stay permanent, which is a good thing.

[menina]

It takes a little bit. Last time it took me the first months of the pandemic to get over my last crush.

[Autember]

Depends on how I was rejected I guess, if they were douchey then I won't think twice. If it was just incompatible then I'd be sad for a while

[mermaidcancermoon]

I get over guys pretty fast. After a couple days im ok.

[llorando]

Faster than you can say can't say that I do.

[mooky06]

I can bounce back from it quickly

[melanieeeB]

Just a crush? Nearly immediately

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It takes awhile actually

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Shouldn’t be hard

[EaterPeter]

It takes a while. One year is a good time frame.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!