Have You Ever Been Used By The Opposite Sex? Please explain?

[Anonymous]

I work full-time in construction and house rebuilding.

I met an girl online and we began to date. She inherited an old house from her grandparents. It needed a lot of repairs. Soon I was doing these repairs free of charge - because we were dating. We never had sex or were intimate. She was nice, polite and a pleasure to be around. When she had no more repairs left to do she told me she found someone else.

[bamesjond0069]

I've been used a lot for sex. Lots of girls have pretended to be what im looking for or otherwise manipulate me into sex. I sleep around... a lot but i prefer at minimum an ongoing situation. But im hot and intimidating looking and girls like to use me to get back at boyfriends and husbands or just for a good time. They lie that they are single and we go out on a date and have sex then i find them on Facebook married. Or they later confess and ask if they can wear their wedding ring while we fuck because they are mad at their husband. Or they have even tried to get me and their man to confront each other and tell him shit about how im richer and have a bigger dick... because when he sees me he's going to be intimidated because i look kinda scary to some people i suppose. These sorts of things have happened many many times over the years.

One girl literally posted a video of me banging her on a major porn site without my knowledge. Then her fiance contacted me swearing and cussing and talking shit and sent me the link. I didn't even know she was seeing someone! Over the years i did get off seeing more and more views rack up on the video, she never took it down (although it came down pretty recently finally like a decade later lmao). The ex fiance over the years would once in awhile leave angry comments like "you ruined my life, i hate you but sadly i still love you. If you see this please call me" its kinda funny but tbh i dont like being used as a pawn in other peoples games like that. But it happens so much!

Yeah I've had girls try and use me for money but i won't spend a penny on a girl unless were having sex OR i know she's a virgin and im trying to court her. Thats it. I fell for it a few times but not badly. Never bought a girl a car or something expensive lol. Now that im older im good at shutting that shit down, like "bitch, dont ask for something, you're not my girl. Tell me how you're a fucking loser and can't afford it and beg. If it pleases me i might do something but probably not."

[Asker]

Do you ever use women?

[bamesjond0069]

For my own purposes with them getting nothing in return? No. Im always very straight up about what i want and what im there for.

[CA4444]

Wth i can’t even believe these stories 🤯

[bamesjond0069]

@CA4444 my girlfriend didn't either but now she's seen some of this shit go down so she's like wtf bitched be crazy lol

[FlaMike]

Pretty sure I am right now. We've been together for 10 years I proposed to her five years ago and in that ten years she has used me and my money to build her credit rating and buy herself a house and I can't even get a ride to the social security office to replace my card. So I can't open a bank account or get a job. We buy things using her credit and pay them off using the money I have earned trading crypto which is technically NOT allowed where I live. Thereby leaving me just about broke and with no credit. And you can't even rent a rundown shack in America with no credit. And after five years of being engaged she keeps telling me she wants a Catholic wedding and stopped having sex with me 3 or 4 years ago. I spend my days just cleaning up behind her and being abused with her derogatory comments. There is something seriously fucking wrong with this human being and after all this time I know it's not accidental. I now wonder exactly how long she KNOWS she's been lying to me. This isn't about another guy it's about her fanatical avarice and laziness. And now that I know, because this has gone on for a ridiculous amount of time, I just want out but I only have a few thousand dollars no car (could have easily bought one with the money I gave her) no credit, my three closest friends who would help me have all died over the last few years and I now know I'm alone and screwed. The house she bought herself is thirty miles from a city, there's no Uber, no busses nothing. AND THE REAL reason I'm still here because I would rather live in a gutter at this point is we have five pets. And when I first moved in with her she had a cat. Who wouldn't eat. I tried different foods and flavors (we lived in a city then, I had options) when I decided to clean the refrigerator put because I ate something that made me violently ill and I noticed the food had dates FIVE YEARS in the past. She didn't earn me she just let me eat it until I figured it out. So I looked closer at the cat's food bowl and it was full of maggots. She never emptied it just kept stopping more food on top until it started rotting and flies laid larva in the food. So that's when I started taking care of the cat and it got healthy and started clinging to me. So now we have an assortment of strays people throughout here in the woods and if I leave these animals I care for deeply they will be made to suffer. She's a pig and won't clean the cat boxes or feed them until things are ridiculous. And not wanting her to be cruel to these animals they way she is with me is the ONLY reason I'm here. These are all middle aged pets no one will adopt and I am all they know. I treat them like children because they are all I have. And it's impossible to do anything with 6 pets, no job, no credit rating and no car. And it has been slowly dawning on me over the last two years what has been done to me. I am being kept as a slave/butler so this garbage human being can sit on her ass, do nothing but her job 36 hours a week and be waited on hand and foot. I was trying to be nice and to prove I was a worthwhile partner and she has just been using me to make her life easy this whole time. I'm certain she never had any intention of ever marrying me I might have legal access to our finances and money is her one true love and God. I am completely screwed and suicidal depressed. I think I should take my crypto, go on the deepweb and buy enough heroin to OD on once and for all...

[Cathy7734]

I was taking a college class and this girl, who has never said "hi" to me before, came up and said "hi." She was very friendly towards me. She told me we have the same class together. She asked if I could make a copy of some of my notes for her, which I did. As soon as I gave her the notes, she went "poof." I once saw her afterwards and I approached her to say "hi" but she brushed me off.

[Cathy7734]

Oh, sorry, you asked if we have ever been used by the opposite sex. Hmmm not that I can think of. Maybe I have but I'm not aware of it.

[Rania05]

I'm used by the same sex never by the opposite sex, out different genders gives me more comfortable position to reject and alienates them in subtle ways.

'Women are the biggest enemies of women' Sadly, it's true! 🥺

[Asker]

In what ways do women use you? Do they still use you?

[Rania05]

I keep a stronger front to guys because I learned horrors that would occure if I show my weakness to them, sadly no one taught me how to deal with bitches or how to keep them away without them trampling on me.
There's this girl that used to 'borrow' my things and never return them, I kept getting colder to her until I snapped and told her to get it from her cronies who're silly enough to think she's their friend and I'm the 'pretending to be kind' outsider for warning them about her, she blushed and yelled we got into a physical fight (she started it first) somehow and finally the teacher intervened and I stated that I didn't actually forgive her and I would like my things retuned if they aren't 'lost' she throw them in the ground and I picked them, smiling while mocking her for her lies, no one dared to talk for a while.
Another who kept using me as material to make fun of so she can get laughs and popularity around her, I said "Are you having fun?", when she hahaha my serious smile I gave her one hard slap and she couldn't say a word from how shocked she's and I lashed out at her with venemous words (facts only facts, no emotional cards), after this she learnt better than to disgrace herself by messing with me since I never kept the polite front with her since that day.
I get used financially once, when I figured she wouldn't return them or make it better for me in another way, I blocked her right after listing all the things she did I tolerated and express that she would get her due karma one day whether now or in the afterlife.
I do get used in minor ways by girls but I'd act colder and insert a small warning to my words even if things gets spicy the matter wouldn't get out of control for me, I keep distance after showing them their standing. My patience is wide for outsiders but if they start being bitches after trying to act like my friends it would be their regrets only. The 'wait and see' atitude is like a protection talisman to an introvert.

[finesxed_j]

yes because she knew i was always there for her at anytime any place, id always compliment her i was always there when she was hurting or angry i was always there to listen if she needed to vent or rage or even be there if she needed someone to talk to even though i have never felt inlove with someone before, i did for her, i was so inlove that id do anything for her i helped get with a guy she liked even though it hurt me id stay up late for her even if it fucked me up. so yes i have she knew all of this n just wanted the attention it hurts still cause I've never been inlove before n the first time i did she fucked me over.

[RobT312]

Damn, that story sucks! Yeah a girl used me to just have a boyfriend and have good sex and free dates. I liked her ok, but I guess I was doing the same with her. I knew I was being used and made sure I found a new girlfriend before she could dump me

[Asker]

What's it like spending all that time, energy and money on someone who you feared might dump you? Did she have the same sentiments towards you?

[RobT312]

She never put any effort into it…. so I realized I was being used. Yeah putting in the time and money started feeling like a waste so I moved on

[Asker]

Didn't the free sex you were getting from her make it all worthwhile?

[Anonymous]

No. I’ve been cheated on and hurt in that way, but never used.

It’s impossible to use me because I’m an asshole. I mean, I don’t think I am an asshole, but I don’t mind being viewed as an asshole for sometimes putting myself first.

I will never do favours or pay for a woman unless we’re really serious. By serious I mean we’ve been dating for months, and I know her well.

I won’t consider the relationship real until we’re already having sex. And, if we’re not having sex by the third date tops, I’m moving on anyway.

[Marshymallow]

I usually know when someone is trying to use me. If I need something from them, I just take it like we’re helping each other out but if I don’t need something from them, then there’s absolutely no reason for me to let them do that.

[Asker]

By the way, there are a lot of young pretty women at the college I go to that accept lots of gifts from men and/or accept the things they do for them. Once the "gifts" cease the woman goes "poof." For example, one woman had to put her car in the garage and a friend of mine offered to drive her to school everyday until her car was fixed. She agreed., She was polite, nice and kept good company. Once her car was fixed she went "poof" and never heard from her again.

[Googlemyahoo]

When a female who doesn’t normally show any interest suddenly does it’s probably because they want something. Female coworker doesn’t give me the time of day until around lunch time. Knowing I get coffee she’s suddenly my best friend.

[Asker]

Do you mind buying her coffee every day?

[Googlemyahoo]

I said its her turn to go. Stopped bugging me

[Anonymous]

Before you mentioned what happened, I could tell this was where it was going. A simple rule is to make a woman work for everything / anything you provide for her. That goes for time, and attention. A woman wanted to use me to look after her children through the lure of hot sex and home made dinners but I saw this a mile away. She already had a partner that she was trying to hide from me, but I could also tell this. I wouldn't even repair a door knob without them earning it...

[Cubus]

By one moderator on this site. We used to chat regularly and one day she blocked me without a reason, blocked my best friend here (even thought they never talked) and called me "an utter piece of shit" (even though I was helping her with mod responsibilities and comforting her when her mother had a cancer).

[Blackcosmo]

I'm sorry that happened.

[Cubus]

@Blackcosmo Thank you. It makes me more cautious of fake people.

[Avicenna]

Who hasn't been? I got used for tutoring by a few girls. One tried to get me to write a paper for her (I didn't do that).

[Asker]

So you tutored these women for free? Is that how they used you?

[Avicenna]

Yeah, they were classmates

[Asker]

There were a few women I got used by that I did enjoy their company. I enjoyed the conversation, their smile and the attention they gave me. Once I figured out I was being used I stopped offering them free services and they went "poof." Sometimes I wish I hadn't stopped it just so I could be around them.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, it was just like that. Happens all the time!

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear that… but yeah I was used for sex before for sure, it’s a classic and it doesn’t feel great…

[Asker]

Looking back, can you see the red flags that he was going to use you?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, they were by no means master manipulators, but as a girl you don’t understand men when you’re young and that’s how you learn… also you see what you want to see which makes you a very easy target of course.

[Asker]

I've been in relationships where I viewed her with "rose-tinted" glasses. She could do no wrong. If there were issues I would make excuses for her, or even blame myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes we have to keep our objectivity somehow with the opposite sex…

[zoe2187]

Ugh. I’m sorry. Some women are monsters. Not all are thought.
Yes, I’ve made bad choices with my type in men. I’ve been used.

[KrakenAttackin]

Brutal. This is how women survive, through manipulation of men.

[Asker]

I've read that most younger women feel entitled in today's world but it really isn't their fault. Society makes it so. Maybe the line between feeling entitled and manipulating men is blurred.

[Chazmatazz269]

Yeah, of course. I’m certain this is normal for men.

[Anonymous]

y'all keep being used.

I am not. Hence why i am currently single. Users are using.

[Asker]

Are you saying that anyone who is in a relationship is being used?

[Opinion Owner]

No. I am saying i am single because i am not allowing myself to be taken advantage of.

[Phoenix98]

That’s fucked up man I’m sorry 😓

and no I haven’t.

[d3n0939]

like four women whom I cared of They drained me emotionally

[Adronicus]

Yes, mostly to make other men jealous, women love doing this if they can get away with it.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I am slave to no one.

[Asker]

When I was 15 I wasn't a slave to anyone either, except my dog. It was my responsibility to feed, groom and clean up after her. There might as well have been a collar on her saying, "He's my Bitch"

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Mmhm. I knew cats were better

[Anonymous]

This story is such BS. Cause no full-time construction worker would do the work for free on some stranger. Especially if it’s a girl. Cause that worker would’ve been fired on the spot.

[spartan55]

Fired? Not if he was doing it on his own time

[Asker]

I did these things for her on my own time.

[annabananna]

Yup I’ve been used before.

[Anonymous]

I have been used by both men and women.

[ElementoP]

Women use me for sex all the time. It's horrible

[Anonymous]

No, where do I sign up, lol.

[laurieluvsit]

Yes, for sex

[NathanDavis]

nope