Ladies, when/if you’re single: is it by choice? Why/why not?

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ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

If a woman with a sketchy past has turned around to become an honest woman, I'd be honored to give her a chance to prove it.

Alas, such women are few and far between. Some actually prefer to live dangerously. Or, they volunteer early to become knit maids or cat ladies. I can't understand it, but those types actually exist.

As for those addicted to being reckless and sexually irresponsible, they have to want to change. I can't force them to. Been frustrated a few times before, watching girls I care about through away precious opportunities and relationships to chase garbage thrills. Which is why my mom reminded me a few years back of the common saying that "you can't make a wife out of a hoe." The phrase makes sense, but I've always found it unsettling. I've often been too eager to give "hoes" a second chance. Much like finding a toaster at Goodwill, that works just fine, but needs a little TLC. Previous owner was an ass, and I want to make things right. Such optimism can be blinding, however.

I've tried to get married a few times, but it never happens in the end. I can't bear to live like a dog.

Still, I'd like to settle down at some point, so I don't die as the male counterpart to a cat lady: the gun-toting Linux caveman. I'm not sure which is worse.

Decoded93 · Accepted Answer

I feel like for every single woman it's a combination of the two, more like a spectrum than black and white.

Women can easily find a guy to date, but does that guy match them? I think most women would rather be single than in a meaningless relationship.

user1516 · Accepted Answer

Yea. Honestly when guys message me I really just don’t have the energy to text them back or flirt because the majority of you guys just look for something else like cheating on your girlfriends, interested in hooking up and never talk again, just want to see if you can “get” us, really it’s a lot from you guys. So, As of now I don’t really care I’m focused on graduating and get my friggin diploma already because Im tired of not having one lol. Plus, I’m sure that “love” will come to me someday and I hope that guy is ready to be with me and is emotionally mature enough.

Idkwtfimdoing96 · Accepted Answer

i'm single by choice

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Technically by choice. My ex lied to me and stuffed me around to the point I was making life changing decisions because of his lies. I couldn't be with someone who allowed me to make choices like that and not come clean about their true feelings.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm not a lady but, yes... it was my choice

because I had things to do that take a lot of time and work to do

and when I am in a relationship, I like to be into the relationship and not just half there or extra busy all the time, lol

Lucy68 · Answer

I'm single cause I'm unfortunately not what the average today's man into. Pro is next Friday night I can eat all the tacos, triple chocolate fudge brownies, chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream, dill pickle chips, fruit, and Mike's Hard Lemonade all to myself while watching whatever on YouTube. Con is it'll be nice to have a loving significant other to join me

melanieeeB · Answer

Right now it is.
Like on one hand I want a man but for that I have to go out and meet men, I already know the dating world and I know that 96% of conversations won't be worth my time and energy and that you have to really dig through dirt and trash until you might find a guy worth a few dates and then you can't still be sure if that is going to work out... I'm already exhausted and I haven't done anything yet haha

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Yeah, by choice. Also, still healing.

Left my ex-fiancé about 4.5 months ago, it was a year and a half overdue tbh.

I'm not really in a space mentally or emotionally to be dating. I'm also working through some bad habits of my own and progressing more of my goals.

I figure why not take a few years to just become more authentically me? I'm not in a rush and there's plenty I want to do without the time or attention pressure a relationship requires right now.

ZS007 · Answer

no guys are approaching me and I haven't seen a guy that peeked my interest either right now. But I've been single since forever and I do want to experience love and having a relationship.

shaysh87 · Answer

I am 26, currently single but won't be for much longer. I expect to be married within the next few years when I hit early 30s. I have no plans on spending the rest of my life being lonely and have no children or family to enjoy and celebrate life with. Life is always better around family. There is more to life than romance.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Always been by choice, or rather I'd be single than have someone I knew wasn't a good match that promised they would be great.

YollyM · Answer

Personally it's by choice. I believe most of us girls get asked out almost everyday so if we wanted to get to know the girls/guys that ask us out then we would.

Sour-rose · Answer

Because I know practically every face around this city. Also I'm asexual... and it ain't as simple as find a girl/guy to fall in love with.

Still-alive · Answer

I wonder why you're asking this one hehe ;) :P

Spotifyplaylist · Answer

Usually after my relationship I choose not to date for a while until I'm fully capable of dating again.

Victoriawww11933 · Answer

I’m single because I’m too scared to put myself out there or the guys that come to me aren’t my type and I hate that I think that way

Zolly99999 · Answer

Not a ladies but single by choice is better then settling...

Angalia · Answer

I prefer to be single at this point, everytime I'm in a relationship I find out the guy is cheating or married or has a secret that isn't always good and can cause big problems.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes it is my choice. I want to take a break and completely get over my ex.

Becca1998_ · Answer

Yes it is was cause I don’t have be in relationships to be happy. We gotta be happy in ourselves.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Every 1 has own reasons cheating ex divorced been used for money ice had a few of these

ILikeHumanBlood · Answer

I'm single by choice, because I hate everyone equally (unless it's my friend)

Prettysammie · Answer

Never by choice. I fall in love too easily.

kataang · Answer

No, not by choice. I’m homeschooled.

VikingWarLord · Answer

All women are single by choice

Kkoalalita · Answer

By choice…I’m tired of being disappointed

fonduegirl · Answer

Of course

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