So I've been dating this really sweet guy for the past 4 months and I really like him. However, the problem when we have sex, I personally like it rough but he likes it slow and sweet not rushed, he likes taking his time with me but when we do it how I want him to it feels like he's holding back like he doesn't and I think it's cute but it's not how I want it so once maybe a couple of times, I'd intentionally pissed him so he'd be harder on me, the first time wasn't on purpose tho but I noticed it worked so I kept doing it. He hates when I'm physical close to my guy friends, if my clothes are a bit form-fitting and are made of a certain material or when I attack his ego. Am I being toxic? should just tell him and maybe I can convince him to be a bit harder and that I'll be fine? Other than that we get along pretty great, we have a lot in common and I just lose track of time when I'm talking to him, I think I might be catching feelings because I smile and blush at my phone screen during some conversation and I like seeing him smile or just watching him do anything really, who knew drinking a glass of water could be hot and it wasn't with the help of lighting or some camera trick. He's an angel and totally my type but honestly, his definition of railing could use some work. But I think he's picking up on that I'm making him mad on purpose, we were cuddling after the last thing and he based if I did it on purpose but not in a mad way like it was a way of finding it cute almost, I froze and didn't say anything but he kissed my forehead and we went to sleep.
Just tell him. It's not nice to keep making him angry on purpose. That's also not healthy in a relationship. Communication is super important so just explain to him and if he's as nice as you are saying, he will understand and will try to meet your needs. Though I will advise you to apologize to him when you come clean about making him angry on purpose. If not, it seems like you are just playing with his feelings to get what you want.
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That's toxic af. I'm gonna tell it to you straight, you are being mad selfish here. Attacking egos is not a thing you do to people unless you hate them. Having an ego isn't virtuous but you are kinda fucking with his head.
I think that it is very important that you have a healthy sex life that is open if he is really a good guy then he should really wanna please you the way you like it
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Of course, you're being toxic. Just tell him that you need rougher sex. You're intentionally upsetting someone you claim to care about rather than telling him what's on your mind.
He's too much of a BETA for you.
You need a hot alpha who will treat you like his little Fuuck Toy.Girls love rough n hard sex...
Guys should understand this ✌️Can't the two of you meet in the middle?
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