Don’t you think dating is too shallow?

[Anonymous]

It’s not worth it

Yes I do

No I don’t

[Haha456]

90% of people are shallow to a certain extent. Most people who complain about other people being shallow, are actually also shallow themselves. By evolution, humans are designed to be shallow. Younger people will always look better than older people. Rich people will always be more attractive than poor people. People who cannot get their desired partners are the only ones who tend to complain about shallowness. Good looking people can afford to be shallow while the unattractive ones cannot afford to do so.

[Chthou95]

You realize men and women are not the same right? We think differently when it comes to the dating world

[WonderBell99]

@Chthou95 But many people, including women will not date someone they are not attracted to. I certainly wouldn't.

[Haha456]

@Chthou95

Women are less shallow than men. But at the end of the day, both genders are shallow.

[Chthou95]

How do you figure women are less shallow when 80% of men are unattractive to women? Only the top 20% of men are the ones women are pursuing and there's nothing wrong with that

[Haha456]

@Chthou95

thats a lie that msygosts like to tout around. Reality is, women are more flexible with what they are attracted to.

An ugly guy can still manage to get women if he is funny. An ugly woman would not be able to do the same if she were ugly.

This is why you see it being more common for young women to date men 10+ years older compared to young men dating women 10+ years older. These older men aren't necessarily rich either.

[Haha456]

@Chthou95

thats a lie that misogynists like to tout around. Reality is, women are more flexible with what they are attracted to.

An ugly guy can still manage to get women if he is funny. An ugly woman would not be able to do the same if she were funny***.

This is why you see it being more common for young women to date men 10+ years older compared to young men dating women 10+ years older. These older men aren't necessarily rich either. Looks are less important for women. And women can substitute the lack of physical attraction if there is good personality.

Its more common for a woman to be able to develop an attraction purely based on personality than for a man to base his attraction to a woman based purely on personality.

[Chthou95]

Well of course you're not going to believe it. You're seeing things through a women's lens. Men aren't even getting laid. Male virginity is on the rise and only a small percentage of men are getting laid. These are your top 20% of men. Women share high value men. Your bottom 80% of men are invisible to women. Your average woman doesn't want your average man

[Chthou95]

An ugly women can still get men. It's actually harder for an ugly man since he has to do more just to attract a woman. Like Patrice i neal said "Women get dick just for existing". Men have to have skill or work on a lot of things to get there

[Chthou95]

Patrice i neal the Legend

[Haha456]

@Chthou95

have you seen the number of men on here who shit on older women?

that itself explains it all.

men don't like older women because they are uglier.

even 46 yr old single dads refuse to date a woman around his own age.

maybe you're single because you are too shallow.

[Chthou95]

Go on twitter and watch older women that show their ass and tits and see how many simps they have drooling for them. This is the one aspect of the red pill i dont agree with when they say women hit the wall because older women still get mens dicks hard and you have a lot of young men that pursue these women

[Haha456]

@Chthou95

red pill guys would fuck anything that is living and breathing. they just won't give an older woman a chance on dating and marriage

[Chthou95]

Red pill guys have respect for themselves and don't put any women on a pedastol

[Haha456]

@Chthou95

red pill guys are just a nice name for misogynists who hate women.

[Chthou95]

Gee i would have know that's what youd think of the red pill 🙃

[bingbongbangbung]

mEh MiSoGynY

[Chthou95]

Patriachy. Ahhh the dreaded patriarchy 😂

[Haha456]

@Chthou95

red pill guys can't get women. trust me, respect is a huge part of courtship. if you can't respect women or you have absolutely nothing to positive to say about women, you will never have a long term successful relationship with any woman.

[Chthou95]

There's red pilled dudes that have relationships. You can be red pilled and still have a relationship. See you want men to follow the female way of thinking which doesn't work for a lot of men. The red pill teaches men how to navigate and adapt to how things actually work. All the advice and stuff we're taught as young boys is very blue pilled and again it doesn't work

[Haha456]

@Chthou95

vast majority of red pill guys are single, miserable, lonely dudes who cannot get women or are miserably divorced. thats why they shit on women 24/7 online.

if you were happy with your dating life, you wouldn't feel the need to shit on women 24/7

[Chthou95]

You pay attention to every single one huh. And its not shitting on them. Uncomfortable truths you don't want to hear doesn't mean red pilled men are shitting on wonen. You need to put your feelings aside and know that men and women are not the same

[Vegasrunner]

@haha456 You are incorrect about the percentage of men that women go after, however in my opinion you are spot on about everything else including men being more shallow than women.

[Haha456]

@Chthou95

if you can find things to talk shit about women. what makes you think women can't find shit to talk about men?

every gender has its own flaws and issues.

you're just shit talking 24/7 cuz you live a dreadful miserable existence.

[Haha456]

@Vegasrunner

I can tell you haven't gotten laid in a while.

[Chthou95]

Im sure there is. The difference though is that most of the complaints you have about men is your own doing. Its really easy for a woman to attract a man. But women just don't know how to keep them and then complain and say "All men are the same" blah blah blah. And there's a difference between shit talking and pointing out facts and observations about the differences bewteen men and women. But of course you're triggered and now calling it shit talking because what else would you think when you can't put aside feelings and actually think

[Haha456]

@Chthou95

I think you're the one who is triggered which is why you can't say anything positive about women.
do you realize how sad you are compared to me?

[Chthou95]

Im not politically correct. I dont put women on pedastol but that doesn't mean i hate them. That's your whole counter argument "you hate women" yada yada yada

[Vegasrunner]

@haha456 Yes, I'm sure holding that belief makes it more palatable to hear a information that challenges your belief.

[jennifer_bloom]

If you do not consider yourself handsome or rich, there are ways around that, I’ve seen ugly and short and unintelligent guys get very attractive girls by being honest and caring and hard working. I know short guys coveted by beauty queens because of their compassionate and kind nature, you don’t have to give up or assume things will always be against you.

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

You're correct. Unfortunately, to come to that conclusion you have to be rather wise or have some strong beliefs about yourself that aid in your pursuit of happiness. The guy who wrote this question clearly has some limiting beliefs that pretty much have him in a prison. That's the sad part about great advise. It rarely is taken because of the present conditioning, even if one agrees with the advise.

[Haha456]

i think dating is easier as an ugly guy than an ugly girls. An ugly guy can still get girls if he is funny. An ugly girl will not be able to attract guys if she is funny.

[Guy13]

Dating is always shallow on the front end. It is difficult to find serious people when it comes to dating and securing permanent relationship. They are out there, somewhere as it only takes one ☝️…

[crossdressingrihno]

The action of dating is not shallow however I would say that the dating pool is now filled with shallow people both male and female

[ElementoP]

It's basically online shopping for people now

[Subarugirl]

Dating is like finding a needle in a haystack…. If you are dating just to date then you’re not gonna have much luck. However at the end of the day I think a lot of people end up disappointed because they are not doing anything to make themselves attractive to the kind of people they are trying to attract.

[annabananna]

I think it is too shallow but still worth It in the end when you find your person that loves you for you.

[MCheetah]

Yes, and women, being the gatekeepers of dating and relationships, are to blame. Men have little power, if any, when it comes to dating.

[fonduegirl]

Shallow in terms of standards? Then yeah, girls want a man that's straight out of chick flick movie, guys want a woman that's a submissive maid. It's all ridiculous.

[LazerBean]

If it's not used as a means to carefully find a permanent partner, definitely.

[JDavid25]

Yeah most definitely.. I don't like dating really.. But I'm single and I love women so... Yeah..

[Jltakk]

As an onlooker, yeah, it seems incredibly shallow. Not the act of courtship per se, but people themselves gamifying the act and screwing around instead of taking it seriously. Most people I see seem to take things for granted, including dating.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, too many people are high maintenance or set their standards too high when it comes to dating

[Adam1978]

It start shallow, but you actually get somewhere it shouldn't remain shallow.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, but that's people for you. All they want to hear is the 10 second sound bite and then they're moving on to somebody else. So many people hide who they are and sell who they think you want anyhow. It's all one big s*** show. 🤣

[es20490446e]

Dating strangers, yes.

Dating someone you have know for a while, and you developed feelings for, no.

[thename_nil]

Nope, because it's one of the way to build a good and healthy relationship with a person mentally, and physically. To know a person better, etc. To see how far can the relationship goes, to make better decision.

[hafinjun]

Okay if it's too shallow what would you suggest is a replacement for humans we need to meet each other to reproduce

[MountAverage]

It's only as shallow as you make it. And if it's "not worth it" for you, then don't do it and be happy without it.

[zagor]

As opposed to what? Parent-arranged marriages?

[Valso]

I don't know about "shallow" but it's definitely not worth the time and the effort.

[HaveNoName]

Unless you are older and looking for someone to marry, it is meaningless.

[Waldoe]

do you know of a better way to "get to know" someone?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Not at all. I'm just lazy when it comes to that.

[Anonymous]

Yes its shallow and it corrupts peoples souls. So its really hard to find my one and only soulmate

[slatyb]

As opposed to what? Arranged marriage?

[Avicenna]

It often is, but doesn't have to be

[scott04sa22]

Having a car makes the guy more sexy now 😎

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

If you believe it's a time waster, sure

[Chthou95]

It is but that's just how it works

[Brigantexx]

I agree with you