How would you feel if... You found the perfect guy/girl for you... and they actually liked you?

[Anonymous]

[WonderBell99]

I would be scared to death and probably distance myself from them, or convince myself that they are too good to be true.

I have a hard time believing that someone who I like would like me back for who I am. I do have some deep insecurities and it’s pretty obvious. I’m working on it though. I don’t think they would be “perfect” if I met them now. It’s not the right time for me yet. I don’t want to date anyone at least for a few more years. I want to work on myself and figure out what I want to do with myself and my life before I figure out who I want to share my life with.

Initially, I would be scared and very very cautious. I’d try to keep the relationship a secret so that we would have time to get to know each other better before we face familial pressures to “move forward” and stuff.

[Asker]

Do you know how to change insecurities?

[WonderBell99]

You can’t really “change” insecurities. You can work towards being more confident. Having insecurities makes you human, but you shouldn’t let it consume you… I did that, and I led myself to a very very self destructive path. I sabotaged myself and let my insecurities take control over me. I’m more self aware these days, and I’m actively working towards being more confident and accepting myself the way I am. I’ve accepted that if someone truly wants me, they would make time for me and love me as I am. I do have some red flags like being too emotional, but I now control my anger whenever I’m in an argument. I count from 1-10 in German, take deep breaths and walk away to cool down. I see that as a step towards my confidence journey

[Asker]

Can I give you some advice?

[WonderBell99]

Sure, I’d like that

[Asker]

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[WonderBell99]

Thank you, I have some money saved and I’m working at my aunt’s bistro. She pays me well, and my parents are well off too. I appreciate your kindness and I will buy the book today. I will let you know after I finish reading it. You are very kind and you made my day. Thank you

[Asker]

Great! Looking forward to it. And remember the highlighter thing.

[Anonymous]

I would feel " in love" happy..

Then suspicious

Is this too good to be true.

I just broke up with my boyfriend last night. I woke up feeling relieved... like a weight lifted off my shoulders. So... I feel perfect if the wrong wording. BECAUSE NO one is. I like the term match. Partner.

I'm not going to blindly trust people. So he's going to have to prove to me why he's someone I should invest into emotionally, spiritually, sexually.. have his kids.

But honestly "perfect" men... at this day and age dont exist. Lol I totally doubt I'll find him any time soon. And I'm okay with that. I love myself more tho than to ever settle again

[Asker]

"the perfect guy/girl FOR YOU" not perfect but perfect for you. You turned a beautiful thing into I cannot have that and that is to good to even exist. How can something be too good to be true. That logically doesn't even make sense. I want you to get back into your head and think what if, just what if you did find a guy that was perfect for you and he actually loved you foreal and it was real? What if! How would that make you feel?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm just saying what goes on In the real average normal world.
Like that's fairy tail bs I've burned in my brain a while ago.

Anyway
Something too good to be true would be "love bombing"

But to answer your question. I'd probably be the happiest girl in the world.

[maximumpower]

Thought I did once.
Turns out she was an accomplished liar.

[LazerBean]

I did, and we married the heck out of eachother.

[FilmGuy93]

Very lucky!

[Anonymous]

I'd wife here up

[Opinion Owner]

Her*

[Opinion Owner]

I just can't tell if they like me