Is it really over? Or is the guy decompressing? what to do?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing this guy for a month, started out really intense. There was a spark and a physical attraction immediately. We took it to the next level within a week. We became inseperable and feelings grew fast for both of us. I had a co. plicated livimg situation he knew about where we couldnt be at my palce, he umderstood. We did have our mini arguments here and there but it qas always do to misscommunication with texts. The last night qe were together everything was great , we ended on a good note and went our separate ways home as i was hanging with my girlfriend that nite. We were drinking when my friend and I got home and i sent a text stating I can't do this anymore its to much with a sad face. He immediately responded with get ur situation figured out then mayby we can make it work i wish the best for you. He then blocked me and i couldnt respond. I then went to his marina n tried to talk to him amd he blew me off refused to talk and said were done just leave n told. my friend if i wouldve just left it alone he wouldve had time to think. Its been 2 days and zero communication. His last words to me were I dont hate you. Is it really over?

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How long is being blocked to long before you know its 100% over?

[cassanovva333]

Not sure what your intentions are but, why are you so concerned if it is over, when you already told him it was over and you couldn't do this anymore. To me and any other average Joe, that would be taken literally and seriously. So after, when you tracking down, I'm sure he was quite confused was wondering why you were even trying to desperately talk to him when you just told him you couldn't go through with the relationship.. What did you expect to happen after telling him that? He would beg you stay with him? Guys are not in to drama, no offense but had that been me, I'm sure i would respond the same he did

[Asker]

So u would be 100% dunzo? Even if you carwd about the girl? Wow ! Guys are different and heartless.

[cassanovva333]

You don't cry wolf just to see his reaction. You really think that kind of behavior is attractive and appropriate? Yea some guys don't think like that.. If that makes us different than I welcome it. The fact you condone it at all is deeply disturbing and shows it is actually you and your comment above that's heartless. I will always treat my woman with respect and like a queen, until she gives me a reason not to..

[Asker]

Not condoing it. I feel terriable and i let the drinks onfluence me not an excuse but thats what happened. I get it its over he's done. Move on. Thanks for the honesty

[cassanovva333]

You know why things happened the way they did now, and you are owning up to it. Alcohol is the worst mix to put in to any kind of rational thinking. If he doesn't decide to forgive you than maybe that's a sign of lacking empathy and compassion. If he doesn't even give you the opportunity to explain your feelings and actions and hear you out, then what does that say about his possible attitude towards the relationship in the future? You may have just saved yourself a mountain of heartache and just haven't realized it. I respect you for owning up to the situation, most people would steer clear of any fault or blame. Kudos to you girl : )

[Asker]

Thankyou so much ! Honestly owning helps me move on and not be so depressed. His true colkrs are deff being shown. Better to know now than later.

[cassanovva333]

Absolutely correct. And everyone makes mistakes, nobody is perfect. Learning from your mistakes only makes you smarter and stronger than you were before. Personally, I would totally give you another chance. If he doesn't, than I would consider that his loss. Just from the little I learned about u here in a short time, I would date you in heartbeat

[Asker]

Aww thank you thats sweet 💗. You trully give great advice and insite. I needed this very greatful for you

[cassanovva333]

If it helps you, then I consider it time well spent : )

[exitseven]

You were the one who sent the text saying you couldn't do it anymore. That just destroyed all the trust he had in the relationship. i don't blame him.

[Asker]

Thankyou for being blunt... i realized after sending it. He knows i get emotional after a few drinks. I feel he shouldve let me explain 😪

[exitseven]

I used to be very insecure in my relationships and something like that would have definitely scared me off.

[Asker]

I never shouldve sent it. I didn't mean it. I wa stressed and torn cuz i couldnt let him come to my place. I was upset at that. He knows why , iI share ownership with my ex and didn't want the drama.

[exitseven]

I know you are sorry. Tell this guy that Exitseven thinks you deserve another chance.

[Asker]

Shit if i wasn't blocked i could lol

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Guardian45]

Sounds like you missed the bus. But not to worry, there'll be another bus in 10m! Move On!

[LazerBean]

Geez what are emotional roller coaster in just a month. Shoulda left this dumb shit in middle school. Just move on and try to grow up some, this is absurd.

[Asker]

Not that sime when feelings are involved

[LazerBean]

If you know that then why are you using your feelings to make your decisions? That's what a brain is for.

[Asker]

Wow ur kinda rude.

[LazerBean]

We wouldn't be having this conversation if you were using your brain in the first place, would we?

[Asker]

Nope but then again when u drink stupid shit happens. I just qant a chance to explain n get closure

[Iron_Man]

Wait and see

[Asker]

Just curious would you unblock and reapond?

[Iron_Man]

I would unblock my girl Immediately

[Asker]

So clearly since he hasn't its done?

[Iron_Man]

Some people are not strong in their passion it depends on the person and you’ll have to find out or go back to him and see quicker

[Guy13]

He's right...

[Guy13]

He wants you to think without his influence SO he blocked you. Get your stuff straight in your head. Stop texting too... TRY calling. Doing the same thing over and over again thinking it is going to be a different result is how some people define stupid. Maybe after a week, everything will be more in perspective. h

[Asker]

About what?

[Asker]

Agree on the texting.. Tried calling but blocked.

[Guy13]

If you get your head and direction clear, he will unblock you. When he contacts you, you will need to explain how you got from bitching, moaning, and groaning (as he sees it) to”Clear-headed”. What’s different and probably not the time for you to go psycho emotional woman on him. I’m pretty sure he is seeking level headed. FIRST time he texts, ask if you can call him. If he says no, then every time after first request should be to call. When you text him…in the initial text should be calling you in a minute etc…

[Asker]

I think blocking is childish. Have an adult convo then either move forward or be done

[Guy13]

Well there you go, you’re Done ✅