If someone says they feel no spark or chemistry but had a great time, does that mean they find your looks unattractive?
It could be, but not necessarily. If I don’t find someone physically attractive, I would not waste my time or theirs by going out with them. If I don’t find them attractive within 10 minutes, I’m probably never going to find them attractive and no, getting to know them would not change a thing. They could have the best personality in the world and I would not be attracted to them physically. However, if I need to date someone, I need to be both physically and emotionally attracted to them.
If I don’t have chemistry with someone, they probably don’t make me feel “good”. Good as in, the romantic kind of good. It’s hard to explain just by a few words because chemistry for me, is more about having a scintillating conversation for hours and hours on without any awkward silence. I could talk to them about the most random stuff ever and we would still have something fun to talk about. If someone has similar views as me in terms of religion, politics etc, I’d find them fascinating and would like to know more about them. It’s more so about compatibility of our personalities than looks. Answer may vary from person to person.
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TLDR: Physical attraction often is just that someone likes your personality and when they look at you, your body reminds them who you are.
A big portion of beauty is cultural. If you showed a sport car and a prius to an indigenous person without knowing at least a little about cars (let's assume they have same quality painting) they would very likely to find them equally visually pleasing. The reason why we find sport cars better looking is because we know that they are fast and that others like them too. Same with physical attractiveness. We don't find certain shapes and ratios attractive only because some Fibonacci told us to do so. As an aerodynamic car communicates to you that it is fast, broad shoulders on a man communicates security and protection to women. Maybe it's a bit calmer for women nowadays, but if they wanna go for a nightwalk or star gazing or just try the less traveled path, they're better to have a man. So for example if you lack confidence, you'll try to stay lowkey, hide your size, have a shit posture rounded shoulders. Which is is physically unattractive, yet it is not physical. Not everyone is physical what we see with our eyes. Just ask yourself once why, you find certain things attractive. If you can answer it, other than "just because" you made your first step of practicing your free will.
Not at all. It just means there is no physical attraction. I once dated a woman who complimented me on my looks but said she felt no chemistry, we broke up after 3 dates.
It's a combination of looks and personality not jiving.
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To me it doesn't mean physically unattractive but it means you overall vibes done match up on some things. Maybe it's a conversation or personality clash or maybe your sexual chemistry is off.
Not necessarily. I've met lots of extremely sexy women who I wouldn't say I had chemistry with, just because there wasn't any excitement about the prospect of touching them.
"No chemistry" for me was a wish in high school. The class was the first- and last at the school- using the "chemical bond approach". While true conceptually, it was asinine to build a high school chem class around it.
No I don't think it does good looking guys aren't necessarily going to have chemistry with a beautiful woman. I agree with some of the posts that it is more to do with whether two people feel drawn together through their personalities.
Not physically.
That's why it's called "chemistry" and not "visually."that's is what it means... also no emotion attraction... basically NO attraction
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