My boyfriend won’t post me even though I told him that I would feel appreciated if he did is this normal?

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These are the excuses he gave me “Baby I don't want to do that” “Because it's unnecessary” “Girl I'm not that kinda of man” “I show you off to people in person” (I’ve never even met one friend of his just family)”I'm not showing off to anyone cause they don't care lol” “I have no desire to post on snapchat” I don’t know why he’s giving me so many excuses he just has his bros on snapchat and I know that he doesn’t have another girl. I just kind of need more than words to feel appreciated and since the beginning of us dating, I used to let him know that I felt bad that he never posted me. I don’t feel like guys would understand this question lol. But I’m already a bit embarrassed because my family seems to think that I love him more than he loves me and that makes me feel quite bad. It’s just weird that I’m telling him that I would feel appreciated if he posted me and he’s coming up with so many excuses.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

As someone who is the same way I would say Don't take it personally.
I usually make fun of guys who post their girlfriend with a love confession quote, they are cringy and trying too hard. So I would never do it myself and I think your boyfriend is the same way.

Now it's not normal that you never meet his friends.
From experience, guys only do that when they fear the friends will say they are dating a non attractive girl. Which is a problem because if he truly loves you and wants to build a life with you he will eventually have to face the world and say "this is my girl and I find her stunning so i don't need your opinion"

nawtee_me · Accepted Answer

All this with indignation have I hurled
At the pretending part of the proud world,
Who, swollen with selfish vanity, devise,
False freedoms, holy cheats, and formal lies,
Over their fellow slaves to tyrannies.

But if in Court so just a man there be,
(In Court, a just man - yet unknown to me)
Who does his needful flattery direct
Not to oppress and ruin, but protect:
Since flattery, which way so ever laid,
Is still a tax: on that unhappy trade.

https://www.poetrysoup.com/famous/poems/vanity

https://www.youtube.com/embed/mQZmCJUSC6g

rienna888 · Accepted Answer

Hmm I sort of get where he's coming from. There's a lot of things to consider when posting pictures of your boyfriend/girlfriend. Examples include that people will start talking, I might get paranoid @ what people will think of us, and then don't want people to be jealous. I have a feeling that you think he's talking to other girls. Is that so? That could also be a possibility why he's not posting.

saffoler · Accepted Answer

If he doesn't post you on his socials then he is either cheating or wants to cheat. I would be upset with him if I were you.

RavVid · Answer

To be honest I think it is unfortunate if social media is a mandatory part of a relationship. Then I'm going to have to be liking stuff etc etc otherwise I will be judged as not loving you enough... It is gonna be a lot of work for no purpose.

It would be 'Baby I don't want to do that' from me too.

Guardian45 · Answer

I agree with your boyfriend. I DON'T want to post pix of my GFs on social media or the internet. If I take their pictures, it's for MY EYES ONLY! I would & have done PDAs with my girlfriend; I have NO problem with that. I'm VERY tactile, so I'm ALWAYS holding their hand (s)!

FilmGuy93 · Answer

A boyfriend/girlfriend not doing something that their partner has said would make them feel more appreciated is common, but not a “normal” thing, no. Disregarding your partner’s feelings is not a good status quo.

spartan55 · Answer

There is nothing else that would make you feel appreciated besides the false reality that is social media? Maybe spend more time together? Remember his feelings about social media are just as important as yours, try to compromise.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Sounds like you would love it but he doesn't really care which he should meet you half way what's wrong as long as he doesn't say dumb things

magiusX26 · Answer

you are not listening to him at all. he us trlling you no because he does notwant and not because of anytging about you other than you are with him.

think of it this way. what if he kept asking you to walk around out in public nude at all times. how would you feel?

ChiTown33 · Answer

I can't relate as I've never used snapchat but I'd have no problem posting my girlfriend and me all over facebook.. so I dunno what his deal is unless he just doesn't like putting his personal business out there. That I'd get. If that be the case it's not about you.

HighValue · Answer

Maybe he doesn't want you getting attention from his friends.  Why do you need validation from his friends or strangers to feel good about your relationship?

RealMarek · Answer

Maybe there is a different way that he could show appreciation of you without posting on social media? Not everyone is comfortable sharing their personal lives with the world.

Jennz6 · Answer

I understand honey, but why don’t you just post yourself, here on GaG? 💕🥰

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Have a long talk with him and explain how you feel if I had a girlfriend I would wonder why she wouldn't post me on social media but these things do happen in life.

alance99 · Answer

Some people are private and they dont like posting much on social media but it goes for everything not just the girl they are dating, does he post pics of his vacations or outing with his friends

Sparkie460 · Answer

To be honest. I never posted family pictures on any of my social media. I know lots of people that are in relationships and they don't post pictures either. It's not that he's ashamed of you, it's just he doesn't feel the need to do it

Twalli · Answer

Love isn't 50-50, one person will always appear to love the other person more. It would be a problem if you feel that he loves you more than you love him. He has ways that he loves you that you don't see, and vice versa.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Absolutely ridiculous. You sound overly clingy and needy. This whole social media having to show off is bullshit.

MiseriaCantareAFI · Answer

Yeah i dk, he told you how he felt and you are still pressuring him. there's some sort of miscommunication here. you're both not respecting each others wishes, and need to compromise

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Snapchat is dumb, delete that shit and become instantly happier.

EaterPeter · Answer

Not normal. You shouldn't be asking and he shouldn't be denying.

TallAnon · Answer

I don't post on social media either, he probably just has some negative thoughts on social media in general and doesn't want to get involved.

888theGreat · Answer

do you have pics of him on Facebook? You know it took you years to post him here.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Don't push him if he doesn't want to.. he may not like it

Jaggermoves12655 · Answer

Why would u want to be posted

007kingifrit · Answer

yes, you are sexualizing yourself to strangers. there is something wrong with you using social media

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Why do you need that attention?

Debbie14217 · Answer

yes its fine no prob

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