If you don’t plan to marry, would you date someone who does and vice versa?

[VIVANT]

I plan to marry but I would date someone who does not

I do not plan to marry but I would date someone who plans to

I plan to marry and I would not date someone who does not plan to marry

Other

I do not plan to marry and I would not date someone who plans to marry

Updates

+1 y

Do you think if a person genuinely intends to marry, they would not date someone who does not plan to marry and if they do so, perhaps this person is not being honest about their marriage intentions?

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+1 y

I think it is one thing to be flexible and date someone who already knows they want to marry when you dk if you want to marry, but if you already know you want to marry, why would you so easily be willing to mess with that? I think even if I didn’t plan to marry, I wouldn’t trust to date someone who “supposedly” planned to marry but had no trouble dating me after having been told that I do not plan to marry.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

No what would be the point in dating someone, being with someone if you don't want the same kind of relationship..

Although it seems more and more people these days date just to get sex, not an actual relationship...

Whatever type of relationship people want, the best way to get that is to one, be upfront and honest from the get go and two try to find people that want the same kind of relationship instead of people who think they can change or force or coerce someone into their way of thinking/living..

[TonyMetal___86]

With a marriage comes muffins and jellos 😁🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 you gonna choke on a muffin one day🤣

[TonyMetal___86]

I'm not worried cause the sponge will save me immediatly by using her spongy forehead, she got the moves like jagger 😁

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 hah no not really😂

[TonyMetal___86]

Okay maybe like robert plant wearing that tight jeans in the 70's on the stage singing stairway to heaven and maybe the sponge got some hair on her belly because the razors weren't so much available in her era 😂😂

[TonyMetal___86]

🤢🤢

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 nope no belly hair here. . Bet you have belt hair though🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 *belly

[TonyMetal___86]

Maybe a little cause i'm a cave man, the hair is my charm, can't be a man without hair 😎
When i see the sponge i'll raise my pants over my belly so i look like an 80 year old man and the sponge loves to see such things, it will make her spongy forehead explodes from laughter 😁

[TonyMetal___86]

Can take the photo that you have uploaded about the pants over the belly from my mind 😂😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 why is that what you look like🤓🤣

[TonyMetal___86]

Nope i don't, it was just a joke, don't laugh so hard naughty sponge 😒

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 not much to laugh at at the moment

[TonyMetal___86]

Seems it's either your in work or leaving to work right? 😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 will be leaving in an hour although didn't work yesterday and wish didn't have to today. But no choice😔

[TonyMetal___86]

Qh don't be sad sponge, the time will be over fast and you will be back home in no time 😊

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 time drags when you don't feel well.. 10 hours is a long time... Damn just the ride is 30-40 min.

[TonyMetal___86]

True, you know what's the best thing in my country? It's very small that it takes less than 5 hours driving from the north border to the south border...
Here when someone drives for 15 minutes to arrive to work or 30 minutes they say it was a long drive 😂
What if they were living in the U. S or Russia and had to drive from a state to another 🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 hey 30 min is a long drive... Well 35-40 in the morning, 45-60 in the afternoon cuz of traffic

[TonyMetal___86]

That's a very short drive in the U. S sponge, what about people who take trains or metro's to arrive to their workplace?
Here we have no trains or metro's, barely cars right now and of the economic crisis continues maybe we will start using donkeys 🤣🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 🤣🤣🐴

[TonyMetal___86]

Laaauuughhhh naughty spongy, i'm gonna ride my poney and search for the spongy forehead till i get her and it's called "the quest to find the miraculous sponge" 💆🏼‍♀️

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TonyMetal___86 I'm hardly miraculous🤣

[Lliam]

I think that almost everyone intends to get married one day, maybe just not right away.

All my girlfriends wanted to get married and have babies one day.
I'm a romantic, so I certainly thought about marriage. But I knew that event was a long way off. And I wasn't so keen on the idea of raising children.

Going steady is the way you find out if you are meant to be with each other for the rest of your lives. In the meantime, you experience infatuation, which is glorious. Thinking of marriage, Disney romance, fairy tale lives, and happy children adds to the intensity of infatuation. It's a fertility-fecundity-virility thing between men and women.

So, in answer to your question, I would date someone who planned to marry. If we were both really into each other, I'd just see what happened. Who knows, I might develop a trust and bond with her and realize that she was the one.

[VIVANT]

This dude I understand, it’s fairly easy to have a wait sjd see attitude when you probably want to one day. But if you knew you absolutely wanted to marry it would be odd to jump into a relationship with someone who said they absolutely do not want to marry. Certainly there are nuanced, and if the person who died not wait to marry still is into life long commitment it’s not really different than marriage but in the case of extreme difference well I think it makes the marriage person a bit sus 🤔

If a guy tells me he plans to marry and I say I do not plan to marry and he shrugs it off I’d have doubts he wasn’t just saying the thing about marriage bc he assumes all women want that and was just playing. I’m not saying this is the only way to view it it’s just how I do. It’s a situation I’ve been in and it makes me uneasy.

[VIVANT]

But I tidally get the rest of all you said lol 😊🤔

[Lliam]

Your last paragraph makes a really good point.

I see what you're saying about shrugging it off.

I never met anyone who brought up the topic of marriage, either when we were dating or in a committed relationship. I would be put off. It would feel like pressure. I might also question the persons wisdom and maturity. Will they just marry the first person who asks them?

So I probably wouldn't date a person who was desperate for marriage, at last not for very long.

[VIVANT]

I do t think bringing it up means someone is desperate. If I bring up I don’t plan to marry it’s just giving someone a heads up so if they do they don’t waste their time. If someone tells me they plan to marry it csn he similarly a heads up so I do t waste my time or so they don’t waste their time or they are lying lol it’s just none of these scenarios are indicative of someone I should date.

And if they took marriage seriously why Wouk’s they want to date me.

I don’t think it’s bad to know you want to marry I think it’s odd to act indifferent to it if you supposedly want to

I understand people keep saying you may change your mind but that literally anything in life and how many things do we just leave to furnace.

I just feel weird if someone has a conviction that they don’t really care about it’s off.

Bit as far as someone telling me info early on, I appreciate it. I do t tbh j having a pond is skin to asking someone else ti be the plan. Tho it’s a thing you have to be there for I guess the energy is key.

[Lliam]

I'm in the camp with "you may change your mind about literally anything in life". My thoughts and opinions sure change over time. Ya never know what's going to happen. I mean, I might not have thought I was ready to get married, but I didn't take a solemn vow against it. I just did what felt right.

I still can't understand the logic of making declarations like that when dating. It would make dating, or even getting to know someone, feel as serious as a heart attack. It becomes a sweating bullets interview. I wonder if it could be a subconscious way of eliminating prospects, pushing people away and avoiding intimacy.

[OlderAndWiser]

Some people will state, very emphatically, that they have no intentions of ever getting married but if you check back in another five or ten years, you will find that they have married and appear to be quite happy.

[VIVANT]

I understand but I don’t think if I planned to marry I’d want to wait five years just in case 😂

[OlderAndWiser]

Right, but not everyone takes five or ten years to change their opinion about long term commitment. But, going into a relationship, you can't know if someone will change their feelings at all, and it could just be a colossal waste of time.

[VIVANT]

I agree. Also I guess you need to give yourself a time limit. Bc at some point it is obstructing your goal. Hanging out for a few months ok but how many years? 🤷🏻‍♀️

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, you should always have some standards that you apply for knowing when to leave a relationship.

[LovingJo]

If you liken yourself to pheobe and Mike off friends, one night want one and, one the other.. You try and split, but realise that you would rather be with one another than apart and have to compromise. People need to learn to be more flexible with each other, whilst maintaining healthy boundaries. 🥰

[Pinay_ako]

it has to be someone who has no plans of getting married either… but I won’t call it dating yet until we both are seriously into each other.

[ManOnFire]

I do plan on getting married and want someone who wants the same. Now it's having kids I'm not so sure about.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

1. Nowadays i think majority of people don't date to Marry.

2. Nobody tells there marriage plans on first day.
3. Mostly women wait till the guy proposes they hardly directly communicate for marraige proposal.

4. if that she thinks he took too much time , she will be ready to leave.

5. but the courting time remains from 1 to 2 years after which they propose.

I believe this is how it's going as of now?

6. People always change minds the person who doesn't want to Marry may become open to marraige.

7. the person who was ready may loose intrest in marraige.
8. If you really like that person one might take the chance and see what would happen it's not exactly cheating or lying.

It's more like waiting and experiencing how things will turn out.

As you miss every chance you would never take.

[VIVANT]

I’m sure what you said will be true for swim women and men but the rest element who in the sport if transparency and efficiency, will tell their intentions for their own life, early on. It’s not about rehung to get the other person on board it’s just communicating clearly so you do not wast each other’s time.

I can understand an indexiddd person casually dating including those who plan to marry but as I say if you have decided to marry and I’m not referring to wow I’m im referring to anyone, it’s suspect that you will waste time with someone who says they do not pan to marry and sure who may maybe change their mind in future but there end no guarantee. By dating them you are not just likely wasting time but also not taking what they are saying seriously. Or you are lying yourself. Lol

If aid isn’t tells me they plan to marry a bd I say I didn’t abs they see no issue, then I don’t take it seriously they plant I marry and I see it as them saying switching they think I want to hear abs I won’t trust them.

There is already a high probability it won’t work out even with someone who lambs to marry it makes no sense to increase the likelihood that it will not work out by dating someone who doesn’t even care if it works out.

If I’m vegan I’m not going to agree to eat at smear restaurant. That’s not at all the same being non vegan saying at a vegan restaurant. .

People who want to marry want A life relationship. How much can that mean to you if you get involved with a wi own who does not.

[Jamie05rhs]

"People who want to marry want A life relationship. How much can that mean to you if you get involved with [someone?] who does not."
@VIVANT I agree with you there 100%. But what if the other person (the person that doesn't want to get married) said that they DO want a life relationship? I don't see the issue there. They both want the same thing.

[VIVANT]

@Jamie05rhs

yeah true good point! it def depends on the reason WHY they didn’t want ti marry and in whether the other person knows this reason why. Certainly there is nuance 👍🏼

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT Thanks! 💛

[Aakash_Hangargi]

See the thing is quite simple actually nobody will jump in saying we will marry one has to understand another person for a minimum of six months then such a topic comes.

What you said all that is true but time variant , people can fall in love and choose to marry otherwise anyways you have to invest that much time knowing a person so it will be very clear from then on.

It's not wasting as much as investing time for any relationship it needs time to build and grow..

Otherwise one has to register in matrimonial sites than dating apps.

Does that make sense?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

There is no such thing as casual dating either you are serious or you or not.

I think what you mean are hookups when you speak of casual. dating?

Or like live in?

Let's say your new boyfriend comes and says to you want to marry you right now. What would be your reaction.

Otherwise he says you are good for dating but we are never going to marry.

What would you say even though you are really intrested?

[VIVANT]

I’m not talking about people “having” to disclose information that’s got nothing to do with what I’m talking about.

Nor am I talking about if the relationship is going well or not.

I’m referring to a person who already had committed to themselves they will marry one day which means marrying someone who also wants to marry.

If the person who wants to marry does not care that the person they are seeing never wants to marry, why are they even going to date them at all. It does not mean they want to marry that person then. as you say they don’t know each other well enough. But they already know that isrsin won’t marry so what happens months or years later when the person who wants to marry thinks ok yes I want to marry this person and that isrsin still as they already said had no plan to marry.

If my parents tell me they plan for me to go to university when I’m 5 -one day- it doesn’t mean I’m ready at that moment but it would be dumb to put me in a school that does not prepare me die for university. I would not believe they were serious and they just say it to sound good or they are very dumb.

It’s not a serious intention to marry if you don’t care that someone you like that you maybe one day would want to marry, has no intention to marry.

Your d smokes are unrealistic dnd very extreme. But if someone said they want to marry me first thing, I’d take it seriously they want to marry someone. I would not take it seriously they went to marry me bc we don’t know each other. I would honestly say I don’t plan to marry and I think we should not date bc we have different goals do nothing can work and we will both be hurt.

If he says I’m good for saying but he will never marry me he has already decided he doesn’t like me much so I would not date him. Why would you date anyone who says that there’s no reason to say that unless you want to insult someone. If he says he does not plan to marry, that’s fine.

[VIVANT]

Yeah casual dating is when you are dating with no porn to be in a long term or committed relationship but you are still spending time together doing things whether or not you are having sex

Booking up is having sex that’s not dating

Casual dating doesn’t have to involve sex

Hooking up is sex

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Yup dating is not casual dating either you will be interested or interested that is a procedure to understand how strongly you can match with each other in initial stages everything else comes later

[Jamie05rhs]

@Aakash_Hangargi Could you use punctuation, please?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Lol if i could i would i am weak at grammer that's why i leave gaps 🤣🤣🤣

[NathanDavis]

if I had no plans to marry... then no, I would never get involved with someone that would want to marry me

things are much more better and also easier, when both people are on the same page... not in extreme opposites

[NathanDavis]

just to clarify on the updates...

I would not have any issue being in a relationship with someone that plans to marry in the future... the only problem would be if they wanted to marry me in the short or medium term plan when they know I do not have intentions to marry

but, personally... I am not against marriage myself... and marriage could be within my future and mid-term plans as well, and I could still be in a relationship with someone that is not considering marriage ever and I would not make it a goal to make them change their minds about marriage just to fit my needs, that would be wrong for me as well

[VIVANT]

I can understand this location fairly easily, it is the reverse situation I find suspicious.

[VIVANT]

Thank you for the elaboration.

[worldscolide]

I wanted to marry. I would not be with someone who had such a fundamental difference in desires. I definitely would not want to have kids with her, nor would I want to waste my time on her.

Here is a funny note though. Say you don't want to marry, and you're with someone who doesn't want to marry, you live together for 10 years.. In the eyes of the law, you are "common law" married. Which is basiethe same thing.

[VIVANT]

Yeah that was my parents 😂

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. Because love is love, and the world is a mystery. And I think that there's value in keeping an open mind.

To me, dating is not a high-stakes activity. You should just relax and have fun with the person and see where it goes. See where life takes you. If things don't work out, no biggie. At least you were able to share moments of beauty with another soul.

[VIVANT]

I just don’t think I trust someone who wants to marry but doesn’t care if the person they date wants to marry. I still agree with you but not about that sort. It’s Hugh’s take anyhow it adds too much absurdity to start off with completely diff plans. in my opinion 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT How is it high stakes, in your opinion? And who said that the plans are *completely* different? I don't think they are, necessarily.

And by the way, you don't trust anyone anyway, so this whole debate is irrelevant lol. (No offense.)

[VIVANT]

High stairs in that most people don’t end up together Ruth if they have similar wants, & you do give a bit of your heart even in just casual dating, let alone falling in love.

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT If we already know that most people don't end up together, then it isn't high stakes; it's low stakes. Because you have nothing to lose.

[Jamie05rhs]

And how do you give your heart if you're not having sex? You don't, really. The whole thing is just a friendly and respectful experiment.

[VIVANT]

Uhhh that may be true for you but it’s not the case for everyone. Sex has nothing to do with what I’m talking about. And the risk is the time you invest that won’t be with someone else or doing something else and whatever form of attachment that occurs there is always a loss. It doesn’t matter if you don’t expect things to work if you give something a chance there’s going to be a degree of connection which will be a palpable loss

Dating is different than friendship with or without sex but Losing friends hurts also. I Mean this is such an odd statement from you. Losing pets hurts too. Your heart is involved in all liss. That’s how I see it so you can have a diff experience but it’s silly to say you only give yourself if there’s sex. People have sex with people they don’t care about all the tine.

[VIVANT]

Time

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT "And the risk is the time you invest that won’t be with someone else or doing something else and whatever form of attachment that occurs there is always a loss."
But if that person is really wonderful and amazing, then they're worth the risk. (And no offense, but this is a personality trait, because maybe their face isn't even that hot.)

[Jamie05rhs]

"if you give something a chance there’s going to be a degree of connection which will be a palpable loss.". That may be true for some people, but not for someone who's never had a significant other at all. It's not a palpable loss if you haven't lost anything, since you never had it anyway.

[Jamie05rhs]

"I Mean this is such an odd statement from you. Losing pets hurts too. Your heart is involved in all loss. That’s how I see it so you can have a diff experience but it’s silly to say you only give yourself if there’s sex."
Yes, but you're forgetting that I'm a Stoic.

[VIVANT]

But I was talking about what I think not what you think I thought you were talking about me not you. bc earlier you said you jesting he now you say you jerking you. It got confusing bc in English people say you when they mean you or “ you” or me 😂

So you’re saying for YOU it’s low risk. Fair enough. 😚😊

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT. 🤨 I don't know who is jesting who and who is jerking who. Sorry; I'm lost. Lol

[Jamie05rhs]

But yeah lol. It's low risk for me. :)

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, I was keeping it vague on purpose haha. As this issue is a bit too close to home! 😳🤭

[VIVANT]

I can’t deal with all the typos I made last night. I was laying down and Bella was on my arm. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT Lol

[VIVANT]

😂😂🤣

[ZackBan]

The question is would she date me.
I never lie and pretend I want marriage, and if a girl absolutely does and thus refuses to date me then good luck to her. But often times I find what women want andbm what they say they want are not the same thing.

Many a time I would here a line like "oh I don't kiss on a first date I'm not that kind of girl" only for her to initiate a makeout with me once enough attraction is there. Same is true for sex.

So to answer your question: yes I would date a girl who claims she wants to get married. I simply will make it clear that marriage is not in my plans for the near future

[USLegionary]

I've dated women in the past who I knew I could never marry for various reasons because I wanted sex. Reasons such as weight, personality, her past, drug use, heavy drinking, extreme political views, religious views, inability to cook, lack of basic life skills, bringing nothing to the table etc. You gotta differentiate between the girls you f*ck and one you can marry.

[WindAtMyBack]

If I did not intend to get married I would only very casually date someone who did want to. I would make this clear from the start.

I actually did this a few years back. Several months after she was widowed she really needed to get out of the house. So I asked if she wanted to go for dinner and drinks. She already knew that I had no intention of a relationship (with her or anyone else). This turned into a semi-regular thing for several months. It got her out of the house, which she really needed. After a while she started going out and meeting new people. Now she is married to a guy who is really good for her.

[JDavid25]

Would I plan on it? No.. Would I date a girl who I liked and she happened to say she doesn't see marriage in her future? Sure.. I would just have no expectations and enjoy her company.. Maybe she'll change her mind, maybe she won't..

[VIVANT]

How long would you stay with her while she’s not changing her mind? At what point do you think ok I should move on if i want to marry,
?

[JDavid25]

Probably for as long as the honey moon phase goes.. Once we see our paths heading in different directions, that's when I would be like "Alright, well I think the road has forked for us, so now it's time to part ways as we want different things".. It would be hard, but hopefully it would be at a time when our attraction for each other died down to the point where we could peacefully transition and maybe be friends..

[Kori1236]

As of right now I don’t plan to marry. But I’m also currently single and not looking. Marriage doesn’t really mean anything to me; so being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want that as an end goal is fine. As long as his commitment to a long term relationship doesn’t change in that time period.

[menina]

I still don't know if I want to get marry. But if I was sure that I wanted to, I would date someone of who had no intention of doing it. The fact that we are dating doesn't mean that we will get married. Some people go through several relationships until they find the one, they stay with.

I believe that if you don't want to do it, you should be straightforward about your intentions. That way you don't hurt the person who wants to marry.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Well, getting married is up in the air with me, it depends on the girl I meet too so that is how I see things for now but I need to find a better housing situation which I need to pray about.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@VIVANT I love to be married and start a family your never too old.

[VIVANT]

Nope never too old 😊

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@VIVANT 👍🙏

[Jennz6]

Wow, that happened a lot. Not really a date but a hook up right before he was married. I was like the girl that jumped out of the cake at the Bachelor party, the last girl to give him a “HAPPY ENDING” before wearing the “BALL AND CHAIN” wife!

[Jennz6]

Sorry girls if you are married, just kidding 💃

[Jennz6]

Yes, if they plan on getting married, why would he be with me? Nice update!!💃

[VIVANT]

Something to think about in my opinion 😊

I think it is one thing to be flexible when you dk what you want but if you already know what you want, why would you so easily be willing to mess with that. I think even if I didn’t plan to marry, I wouldn’t trust to date someone who supposedly planned to marry but had no trouble dating me after having been told that I do not plan to marry. 🤔

[Jennz6]

@VIVANT that’s true

[braingirl]

If you marry... and have two incomes, you won't get Fed. and State benefits. The governments discourage marriage... Head Start, Food Stamps, MediCaid/State Chips. The ongoing concept is to discourage marriage.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I like to fuck. I don't care what your plans are... I'm just going to fuck.

[VIVANT]

That wasn’t the side I was interested in.

[lightbulb27]

That’s a value difference and a big barrier to overcome. I’d fight that battle up front

[VIVANT]

I could trust that if someone actually confronted it. It’s the acting like it isn’t an issue that strikes me as untrustworthy. I don't know I think if something matters it should matter 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Jamie05rhs]

@VIVANT How are you going to convince someone to get married that doesn't want to get married? It's pointless. It's not going to happen. 🤷

[lightbulb27]

avoidance and deflection are a tactic... to keep things as they are and avoid pain. Some people in the past were excited to get married. The problem is deep in his emotions and how he perceives marriage, you'll have to go back to his childhood and do battle there... soothing the wounded child and providing security to his scared perspective. Find out what his reservations are is a start, if you want to embarq on that journey.

[Adam1978]

I have no plans to marry, so I will not check what plans she has. That is her responsibility, marriage doesn't serve a purpose in today's society for men. So unless time reverts, it needs to disappear. I don't hide my opinion so it's up to her to accept it or go elsewhere.

[TonyMetal___86]

Voted C skyscrapper girl because i search something that lasts, i want a true eternal love and i don't like one night stands and why would i date someone if it's not going to end up in marriage, i don't just wanna have fun..

[Anonymous]

it's backwards for me, because I do hope/plan to get married someday, but I would date a girl that didn't want to get married. Of course, I would be hoping that she would change her mind and actually want to get married if she ended up in love with me and could then start seeing what benefits a marriage between us would bring because I know sometimes it's hard for people to see the positives until they're actually in a situation. 😁

Of course, it's risky for the heart because if you fall in love with someone who wants different things out of life, and absolutely refuses to change their outlook, then it's gonna hurt in the end, but to me it's a worthwhile risk to take. Even if she decides she still never wants to be married, you can still remain close, so you'd still end up with a person that you deeply care about that's in your life.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry but I find dating childish if the two don't want see a future together. Mature, loving adults get married, kids date for fun and games, that is the cold hard facts. I find it hilarious people think I'm immature for wearing Levi's jeans, Air Jordan 1 Chicago's and a plain white t-shirt but I've always believed in the sanctity of marriage. I don't want to play games, I don't want to sleep around, I don't want to date young women without an emotional, spiritual (through God), physical/mental purpose. I'm keepin' it real, if anyone reads this and doesn't agree with my approach then please to those GAG, dislike this comment. I'm not forcing people out there to get married, end of the day its the life of others what they want to do, I may not agree with it though.

[_Just_A_girl_]

No point let them he a free agent for those who want to be married

[VIVANT]

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Whats the point of dating someone who isn't interested in anything more?

Your just wasting time and money.

[VIVANT]

Yeah I don't know many people seem to think it’s weird to not want to waste time. I do t really understand that. It’s fine if you don’t want something but it’s healthy to be upfront about what you do know. Odd sheer culture around being direct. And it kinda ruins things for so many people I think a lot of reasons people accept going with the flow is bc that’s supposed to be the only way to do it I don't know anyhow I think it’s great to know yourself snd move accordingly 😊

[RealMarek]

If I was young and looking for a wife, I would not date a woman who did not intend to marry.

[VIVANT]

I honestly don’t see why someone would. People who are ambivalent sure but not if you already have decided. 🤯

[SlightlyEccentric]

I'm taking note of the fact you said "don't plan to" and go on to say that yes I would because while I myself do not plan to get married, that doesn't mean I can't be persuaded to change my mind. If someone does come along who I think I would love to the point where I would want to be with them all the time, well then that would certainly be a convincing case for wanting to marry them.

[TallAnon]

Other, marriage is just one way of promising you'll stay together, the act itself doesn't matter to me.

[VIVANT]

Yeah I guess it’s depend on why the person doesn’t shy to marry and if the person who does want to marry knows this

[20yearsolder]

There's always that possibility that if you date someone that doesn't plan on marrying, they change their mind and fall in love with you

[KatherineJ]

When I decided to date, I wasn’t against the idea of getting married, but I wasn’t “hearing wedding bells”. The more I got to know and love the guy I am with, the more I started “hearing” things. Now then, I don’t think I could have dated someone who had completely ruled out a lifetime commitment with me.

[dolemite89]

ya cuz dating isn’t permanent, we could date now and just have fun and then after me she could date the guy she wants to marry.

[VIVANT]

Sure I think that’s probably common… I think it’d be more odd for her than for the person who doesn’t want to marry

[Part2603]

Absolutely. At a young age, people don't know what they want, and who they will be in the future. Just go with it, is my motto.

[Paul09]

I'm not religious, I do not believe in marriage. I'd like her to have the same values.

[VIVANT]

Makes sense.

[Raaj4you]

Don't judge and assume. Date and find out how he or she is? Who knows he or she may change his or her mind about marriage? Don't reject a person bcoz you were hurt in a relationship before. Who knows? the person you are rejecting may be your soulmate.

[DubiousIntentions]

You never know. If you find the right person you might change your mind about not marrying.

[DancingQueen16]

I don't plan to marry but my last boyfriend did but then we decided that we work better as best friends than a couple because we were best friends from 6th grade all the way to the day we graduated 12th grade

[Lionman95]

B for the reason that I don´t plan to marry because it´s not realistic being a single guy but if I met a woman who wants to marry and we fell in love I would change those plans.

[courtney06]

I was on the fence for marriage for a while, but I was usually fine with dating someone who wants marriage. When I was single I rarely dated so this usually wasn't an issue.

[DizzyDesii]

Im starting to question if marriage is for me. But i prefer to date someone who at least considers it. I don’t want to date someone who gives a HARD NO to the idea

[AngelOfLight258]

I would and who knows maybe one of us will change our minds

[Jerre]

I voted B. I currently have no intentions of getting married, but the right woman could change that.

[Jerre]

@VIVANT Thank you for the Like

[UnknownPuppet]

Yes. Maybe they can change your mind or you can change their mind. Marriage is just a paper but human feelings are the whole thing.

[acooke-13]

In my case I do want to, but if I didn't then I would tell them and let them choose if they'd want to date me based off that or not.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I'm not dating anyone who isn't on the same page as me when it comes to that and having children.

[maximumpower]

DId that once.
Won't do it again - HUGE waste of time - and - especially - money.

[CinnaChris]

Currently, I don't plan to marry (for multiple reasons) and my new/current partner doesn't wish to marry either, so it works out for us.

[Agape93]

Yes but not for long. I'll let them go soon after finding that out. Let them find their permanent happiness

[Smashingdoozy]

If they are dead set on marriage then it just isn't going to work. Our views won't align.

[melanieeeB]

I think you should never date someone who kinda doesn't want the same thing out of it

[Chazmatazz269]

There’s no point in dating if you’re not tryna get married, in my opinion.

[Rockerroy]

There is no girl who does not want to marry. Even the ones who say they don't but they secretly want to but ofcourse the guy who they want does not want them..

So inshort I'm screwed for not wanting to marry so I have to marry and surrender.

[AsaKyo]

Marriage is kind of the end goal, so I don't know why I'd waste my time going out with someone I have no plans of spending my life with

[Justneedtokno]

going on a date isn’t an issue, but in some ways it may be wasting your time unless you see the other what they want VS That’s what you want.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I don't wanna get married by government's paper. If she can't stand me not wanting to get married then I'll let her go. And of course I'd make that agreement before we engage.

[Twalli]

I asked my girlfriend by date 2 if she planned on getting married eventually. Neither of us expected that we'd want to marry each other at that point. We both wanted to get married eventually though.

[Twalli]

I am sure if I started dating earlier I wouldn't be looking for marriage in my relationships, but past 25 is a good age to consider long term commitment and marriage, at least from my point of view.

[blondfrog]

Other I won't know until I actually get to meet them and we see how good we get along together.

[MysteriousDarkness]

To me it would be stupid if someone who wants to get married and someone who doesn't were to date each other.

[pizzalovershouse]

If the person who doesn't want to get married tells dates that they can choose not to date them

[art84]

I don't want to marry but if I met someone who wanted to, then they would make me change my mind.

[AmeerX]

İ plan to marry and wouldn't date someone otherwise. Seriously people dating was for marriage as an ultimate goal

[Juxtapose]

No, why would I set myself up for disappointment later on in the relationship when I know for a fact I don't believe in marriage?

[Hulk30]

because i have an open mind and i feel that im intelligent enough to meticuliously persuade any woman that i was with to do what i want by provin to em how it benefits em as well