So there's this girl at my job. I saw her in her department and thought she is absolutely beautiful. I went back to my area and asked some friends I made and trust what her name is, since, at the time, I've been there for like 2-3 weeks and never seen her before. But they said her name, then told me she is shy and everything about her. But anyways, I have a stutter and have always had it. I've been rejected because of it and I definitely don't want that happening again. Girls (or guys), do you care if a guy stutters when talking to you? like not just out of nervousness but because he has a speech impediment. My friend told me something before I introduced myself to her, "it doesn't matter how much or how bad you stutter. All that matters to her, is that you made the effort to talk to her". When i spoke to her I didn't stutter but I know if I talk again I might do it. So does it change the way you feel if you hear it?
It wouldn't change anything for me. I'd even try to work with you to get you to stop. So far, it sounds like maybe you just need to be around her to get it to stop. I have a tiny bit of a "nervous tic" for lack of a better way to put it but, I've noticed that when I'm around other people, I don''t do it at all!! It's only when I'm by myself that it shows up.
Mel Tillis is a famous country singer who has a bad stutter when he talks but it doesn't show up at all when he sings!
Maybe we all just need public situations around us to keep it from happening!
I WAS gonna suggest to you that maybe, for a while, you can try talking slower than normal. As slow as you need to to be able to speak without the stutter.. Keep your speech that slow for a while until you get so used to it, you an actually speed up a bit and gradually get up to normal speed without the stutter. Sort of like how, if you've got the hiccoughs and somebody distracts you so much you forget you even had them and they go away.
Maybe try recording yourself talking and then play it back to listen to it and it might trigger something to make you stop.
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So you spoke to her and didn't stutter? Well done.
She will appreciate the confidence and thought even if you stutter.
Sadly you can't just not talk to her, or be a mute it won't work trust me.
Your stutter is apart of you hate it or love it accept it own it.
Whoever rejected you before is an uncommonly shallow asshole and you shouldn't base your expectations on that single experience.
I wouldn't think anything of it if someone asked me out with a stutter.
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I would echo what your friends said. And I know that it's much easier said than done, but If she doesn't want to be with you because of your stutter, then she's really not worth being with.
It can get frustrating if you’re having a conversation with them, maybe short sentences would work so they are not waiting to long to know what you are talking about. This reminds me of the movie “A Fish Called Wanda”, it’s hilarious
Most women probably will reject you for it I'm sorry to say man. I hope everything works out for you man. Good luck!
I'd be kind to them because I have a stutter, it's not a constant one but it's still there.
I honestly find it cute.
Nothing, I’d just listen
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