Guys, Guys does career or Job matter to you when it comes to choosing a wife?

[Alwayreckles93]

So here on this site I've been on disagreement with a few users on this site my same age 28-30 and they've said that for them to married a woman it is more important that she's young and that career does not matter at all. How they would rather date a young waitress instead of a successful career woman their same age who makes a good income. I want to see what other guys opinions. Does dating a younger woman matter more then rather dating career , successful woman ages 28 and over? I make good money , own a house paid off my truck I've been reject by so many guys my own age that I make twice their salary. At least they don't have to worry about me being a gold digger.

[Anonymous]

Yes for a majority of us men you’re career or income is irrelevant. As a man, at least when I was growing up I was taught to take care of my family, that meant providing for them. That was what I was taught as far as what being a man meant. Now we know there are women who are gold diggers but there are also women who look at how much a man makes to make sure we can still survive as a family if they decide to have children. Assuming they decide she will stop working for a while to raise the child. Men don’t usually look at that as far as money. To me if she’s “independent” than I see it as her always busy, no time for me, to have a family. For me it has nothing to do w me fearing she will leave me or making me feel less of a make cause she makes more. I just know that that’s my responsibility as a man. I would rather date a girl who worked at a fast food restaurant than one who was always too busy for me. That is why my relationship ship for the last 14 years had been the way it is. I work, she takes care of the house, the dogs. But that’s what works for us. I don’t expect her to cook three meals a day, I cook myself as I was taught by my mom how to cook. But no most men aren’t turned on by a woman’s career or how much she makes.

[Lionman95]

I think it depends on the guy. For me personally it´s interesting what she does but I wouldn´t date because of it. Like I could imagine dating a high qualified doctor or a waitress but neither times would I date them because of their jobs. For me the main thing in dating is that I need an emotional connection to a woman. I need to feel good cherished and acknowledged in her presence if that´s the case she has a great chance to get more of my attention also for her life and what she´s passionate about.
Personally to be honest I prefer higher qualified women because they often have interesting hobbies, too. There is just one limit as long as we don´t work in the same profession I would also be ok if she was higher paid than me.
But I know that other guys are different in this. I think some are naive wanting to have a much younger girlfriend that has nothing to offer a relationship besides a younger body.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't care what her job is and what her salary is as long as she has a job and it is not immoral or illegal.

[Alwayreckles93]

I like your points.

[TheSpaceGnome]

While high incomes are nice, I don't even think about income or assets (home/car/etc.) at all when choosing someone.

If I think about her career, it's because of it being a reflection of her interests, views, personality, etc.

So tye jobs she enjoys does matter, but the job she currently has only matters if its a safety risk. I'd want to start a business with her anyway, so her current job I'd not even see as permanent.

As for age, I'm fine with up to a 10 year gap, and to me personality, intelligence, interests, hobbies, health, looks, and goals matter more than age, money, career, success, etc.

I don't care where she is in life, I care about who she is, and what she wants in life.

[TheSpaceGnome]

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[Alwayreckles93]

10 year age gap! 😯 That's a lot. I mean different life stage in life you know.

[TheSpaceGnome]

There really isn't any difference in terms of life stages between 20s-30s-40s-50s when you aren't ever wanting to have kids or shell out for a mortgage, and you knew what you wanted to do with your life long before graduating highschool.

Differences tend to be personality based, and in most cases, the women I relate to more are younger than me.

If I ask 10,000 women my age or older if they play difficult competative video games, watch anime/cartoon, draw, or play with bugs, there is a very high chance that all of them will say no.

[Anonymous]

Her career matters less but what you are seeing now is a lot of high quality men are choosing younger women that are going to get good careers or are starting good careers. That is careers with good earning potential.

You should try to find yourself a farmer. Farmers don't care too much what their partner looks like but what they do care about is what they bring to the table so you will always see a farmer marrying maybe a fat accountant woman why? Because she can do his accounts for the farm or an ugly nurse why? Because that nurse has a good income so that she can support the family officially while he pretends to the government that his farm isn't making much income. Of course the ultimate farmer's wife works for John Deer tractors.

[Staximus]

Most women around these parts would not even consider dating (let alone marrying) a guy who makes a lot less money than her. I don't care how much money a woman makes, but I don't make much. I can't equally contribute financially with a woman who wants to travel the world, buy a house, etc. and I would feel like a bum if she paid my share. I think a lot of guys feel the same about that, and most women aren't going to want to pull the financial weight in a relationship when they could just find a guy with more money. I'm a good person, kind of interesting, a master at solving problems and saving people's asses, and that's about it. I could start hustling and make a bunch of money, but I don't really give a shit about all that. If I was dating a woman who was a doctor or lawyer, I would think "what is she doing with a old bum like me?" Haha

[DeltaRecon]

If they make good money or have a job. That’s great. But I don’t marry a woman because of her job. I married a woman because of how she treats me and wants to spend time with me. Looks are definitely a factor. But as far as what she does for work, I could care less if she even works to be honest. I try to do all I can to provide on my own. If she wants to contribute, all the better for both of us.

[D-Pad_Chad]

Most guys dgaf, myself included, about a woman's career and finances.

Why, because unlike our own finances we'll never have access to a woman's money and assets. And in the rare instances it happens, resentment tends to fester in women.

So in regards to dating market value, financial gain is worthless for women.

Men, for the most part, value cooperation, respect, agreeableness, femininity, loyalty.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I wouldn't say its worthless, but its definitely not important.

[Berethor]

Men tend to care mostly about woman's looks and fertility, and many men might feel intimidated and emasculated by a woman that make twice their salary. Men and women are different. Personally if a woman is physically stronger is more of a issue to me than if she have more money, also it true that career woman is less likely to be a gold digger.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I mean to be fair I wouldn’t date a woman financially better off than me because it would just screw the whole power dynamics of the relationship.

Naturally, I want to be taking charge and I suspect most guys feel the same way.

Younger women are just easier to control, granted I don’t put up with them because I can’t stand their emotional maturity

[FilmGuy93]

I have never met a man who had his shit together that cared about women’s careers and job prospects. Even the guys who really don’t have their shit together barely care.

My one boy that cared about his girl’s salary told me that he cares because he had a dead career and then failed as an entrepreneur, and he presently hates his life because he’s about to move to bum fuck nowhere to chase her next job.

[ericclayton]

This site is full of young horny men who don't care about anything but appearance, and don't value other attributes other than sexual purity.

[Alwayreckles93]

I like your mind set, Sir.