Not dating or having any sexual interactions yet, but the 24 year old flirting and expressing their feelings to the 17 year old
If you live in a place where there's lots of females aged 18+ then it's weird, absolutely. Because you fixated on this person when you didn't have to.
As a traditional guy, I'd also ask what does her dad think? What does her mom think? This cannot be ignored and should come before you even talked to her because they are her guardians. Now if she was 100% independent (paying all of her own bills, living in her own place, working a job in the real world) that's different. But that's usually not the case.
When I was 20s, I went on a date with an 18 year-old. She was fine as hell physically, and I thought she was older when I asked her out. But I found out between asking her out and the day of the date. She was so immature compared to me that it was a total turn off. I guess some guys are ONLY into the physical but if you're that guy it's extra important for you to avoid getting with the young ones cause you're at serious risk of crossing the line if she happens to look older.
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It's definitely weird to fall in love with anyone you aren't dating. How do you know her?
You should stay away from her until she reaches legal age if she hasn't already.
What could a 24-year-old possibly have in common with someone that is not even out of high school yet? It's very weird because there is an imbalance in power dynamics, difference in emotional maturity, life experiences, finances, relationship experience etc. That's a lot to consider and if I were her mother or sister, I would not give my blessing. I would be extremely wary of the man going after a 17-year-old.
You probably have a job and are out of college, whilst she is JUST entering college. You would be in your late 20s or even early 30s when she is in her early 20s, or even now, she might want to party and experience more fun stuff whilst you may want to stay at home after work.
Is this even legal where you live?
I was nearly 19 when me and boyfriend started dating and he had only turned 17. We were both in college at the time. I guess wait till she's 18 to stat a relationship and as long as she wants too. Me and my boyfriend are still together almost 5 years later now.
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I wouldn’t say it’s immoral. There is not a ton of age difference and most of the time. It would be legal. The only way you could get into trouble is having sex.
Just wait a year to be safe and if you’re both still single ask him. That or it will pass
I was 22 when I dated a 17 year old senior in high school, I met her at a party and didn;t know how old she was. By the time I found out it was too late. It was a little weird and I had actually planned on taking her to her senior prom but we broke up a month before that.
There's ONLY a 6 year difference!! The first girl I ever fucked was 18 at the time and I was 24. A guy I used to work with had a girlfriend in high school and she was a few years younger than him. Once he turned 18, he told her that he'd wait for her. They stayed friends and, when she turned 18, they got back together again, eventually got married and are now great-grandparents!! And, my parents were 10 years apart.
Depends a lot on the person. An immature 24 year old and mature 17 year can make it work but it's not common because people can change a lot during that time
I dated a 16 year old when I was 20 she is a good person but ended up not being my type over time and it was kind of weird looking back on it. Even though 16 is legal, under 20 seems so young to me now
A little weird just cuz a 24 year old should be in a much different place in life then a 17 year old like it'd be impossible for them to have anything in common
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I personally find it weird but if no law is being broken meh
thin ice... but could be worse. Never really understood dating outside your age group. But whatevs.
My gramps met my gma when she was 18. He was 28. They were married till they died. What’s wrong with this?
absolutely nothing
If it's only a few more months, then wait - lest you regret it for rest of your life.
It's fine. 17 year olds can be mature enough for adult relationships.
Man if you having thoughts like that go to a therapist
I think the word you are looking for is predatory.
pretty immoral and weird man
That’s basically 18, APPROVED
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