Why are most American guys not traditional?

Question

Why are most American men against providing financially for their families?

Every American guy I’ve dated believes in 50/50 and sees a housewife or stay at home as lazy. Many use inflation as an excuse, but every guy I dated that moved here from overseas has literally believed in providing regardless of inflation and finances.

And none of these guys are rich bc they’re all immigrants living on their own. But the West is the only place to push for both parties to work and doesn’t value traditional homes/families.

I’m personally traditional and would love to keep a clean home and have home cooked meals for my man as long as he provides for us. And I don’t expect luxury. I just expect a roof over my head, clothes on my back, and food on the table.

And I would love to be a stay at home who has enough time for my children.

My mom was a stay at home mom and I always came home home cooked meals and got to spend so much time with her while my dad worked.

So men, how come western men don’t want this anymore? Is it not appealing?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because a lot of women call men misogynistic for wanting such things. This whole “independent” women we don’t need men crap is what’s pushing men away from being traditional. I used to love to do that. But now that a lot of women want equality, we’re better than men attitude, I’m like fuck it you take care of your finances. I was never like that, my mom raised me to be a gentleman but over years of being told you’re wrong, this is wrong, patriarchy, I’m just like fuck it they can fend for theirselves. Men are co fused, do I open the door? Do I not open the door? I don’t want to be labeled as having toxic masculinity. Then you have a lot of single women raising son’s from their POV of what a man should be, turns out to be a bitch of a man who lets women run all over him. Women cannot teach men how to be men just as men can’t teach women how to be women. But it’s funny women always say such things as, “well a real man would..,” like they were a man at one time. Imagine if I said well a real woman would get in the kitchen and cook dinner. End of the world for me if I said such things. Honestly I don’t even think women know what they want, they want equality but yet they ruin other women’s lives by shunning such things as cheerleading, strippers, etc, when it should be her choice. Women can’t stand each other, let alone underarms each other so how do you expect men to understand you all? Lol

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

1. I don't wan't kids, so I don't need a stay at home mom.

2. I have a clean home that is organized in a way to avoid needing much time cleaning it, messes are few, dishes are few, dust is minimal, and everything is where I want it. I simply do not need a maid.

3. I love cooking, and I'm really good at it.

4. I work from home, so even if I had wanted kids or was a messy person, I'd be the stay at home "butler" husband, thus I'd still not need a "maid" for a wife.

5. What I would benefit from, is a second income, and if I reached a point where I made enough money to provide the life I want for me plus an SO, it would be from passive income, so neither of us would be working and both would stay at home. And if I was that wealthy, and was messy or lazy, I'd hire an actual maid, not make my wife or me do it.

Simply put, the traditional situation has no benefits for me.

Guy13 · Answer

Because most of the boys are lazy, self-assumed, and never struggled. No one in this country suffers ‼️

Summeroflove · Answer

Because their standards are different. You’re not entitled that’s why. You do have give and take.

What does it matter what most guys or women want? When there is men out there who do. You don’t control other people.

You dare to see who you’re compatible with. If you’re not. Then there isn’t anything wrong with either of you. It’s not meant to be.

A relationship should be about love first off.

I think a lot of western men. They aren’t getting anything out of it. It’s easy to cook and clean. Plus two incomes are better then one.

But don’t be bitter with men. Because they don’t fit your standards. Find a guy who agrees with you.

Alcoholic_Wannabe · Answer

"Every American guy I’ve dated believes in 50/50 and sees a housewife or stay at home as lazy. Many use inflation as an excuse, but every guy I dated that moved here from overseas has literally believed in providing regardless of inflation and finances."

Here's where your logic falls apart. If a guy is rich enough to travel like that, he probably doesn't face the same financial issues as 90% of people.

They're not "excuses." It's how things fucking are now. Deal with it.

BeMuse · Answer

Men work full time jobs and still manage to keep their clothes washed, shirts ironed, house clean enough for their comfort, lawn mowed, car maintained, pools cleaned, fix shit when it breaks etc. all on their own. How exactly are you improving their life? You don’t even want to take half their chores, but you don’t want to work… Get a job. You should still be able to cook meals and clean up unless you’re lazy as shit.

MCheetah · Answer

Because women are no longer traditional and want to have the perks of modern feminism with traditionalism and that's not going to fly. A modern traditional man today ends up being a depressed divorced man who got f*cked over in court, tomorrow. Men are waking up and no longer risking getting screwed over by the wrong women. Not that most Western women are thinking they're entitled to the top 1% of male perfection, anyway. Even the ugly, obese, single mothers think that.

HighValue · Answer

If you want someone totally "traditional," then you should be a virgin, have no tattoos, do all household chores, and he gets to make ALL the decisions. Do you match ALL of that to be traditional?

misogynistic_pig · Answer

Because traditionalism does not bring any benefit to man. Some young men have already realized that we don't have to waste our money on women.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Honestly, a lot of it is because Western women have really made a point of making sure every man feels like a complete asshole for being masculine.

TonightYouu · Answer

Because it’s less profitable for men to be traditional

it just sucks because our military strength has drastically decreased

At this point america is first come first served again my money is on China

KingD98 · Answer

I prefer traditional, but most men will make excuses as to why they can’t like u said “inflation”. I’m a guy and it’s sad when guys have a laundry list of excuses instead of working and getting it done properly.

slatyb · Answer

Is it not appealing? Evidently not. But you know what you want, find a man that wants the same.

BJP21 · Answer

Im going with @rockyrocks19 it really depends on the culture and up bringing. For me personally, I would not mind it.

maximumpower · Answer

Most "Western" men prefer traditional values.  Problem is that too many are being convinced that this is wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

Feminism. Your gender wanted equality. Now you have it.

MountAverage · Answer

Traditional beliefs are just extremely unappealing to me.

Calenderagressive · Answer

Just gotta find the right guy, but you should still be careful

TroyDT2 · Answer

Family Court.

rockyrocks19 · Answer

culture?

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