I’ve always been told that you shouldn’t reply fast and be too eager cause otherwise he’ll think you’re easy and lose interest cause guys want to chase. Is that true? Because I’m a pretty fast replier and it stresses me out thinking I’m replying too fast and he’s gonna lose interest.
I guess it could be overwhelming for some.
Guys are mostly “do-ers” than talkers, so naturally women seem to talk a lot more than men. To be fair, women can concentrate their speech energy to quality topics and innovation.
For this post though- I do think men get a “little ticked” when a girl they like talks a whole bunch. Not even a lot of men are readers lol they skip some instructions in the manuals and skim things. They’d appreciate a straight forward gal who would only be saying yes or no to dating and hooking up/ making love, or hanging out at seemingly fun places, like stadium games, etc.
For a girl who replies fast, some guys can think “does she not have other better things to do? Why all this time on her hands?”
It can be a thought that is self sabotaging to the relationship (but still a good reminder for the girl to focus on herself too), So maybe cut any unnecessary points in conversations. Stick to the bullet points. Try to hold off from becoming digital pen pals with the guy- they’re not always interested in that 😂.
Some may initially be critical, curious, or bothered, but the real ones won’t mind, as much. Nor the guys who indulge in talking.. that probably means you’d both be fighting to speak, though.
😂 So take this opinion with a grain of salt. Use what you can, and best of all to you in that relationship of yours. 🤝💕
writing on here or anywhere else, it doesn't mean that you want to be with them, maybe you found what they wrote interesting, just be careful, girls around your age can be misled into things,
No one wants to be on their phone all day. Having full length text conversations is the most annoying thing in the world to me. I'll purposely wait to text someone back if they do that. People have lives outside of their phones. You'll notice this more as you get older too, since you're just reaching the age now where people are going to get jobs and be thinking about college. It's boring as fuck and too time consuming to be texting all day. Plus, as you've highlighted with this post, if you allow that pattern to become the norm eventually someone is going to get their feelings hurt when the frequency of messages changes.
u Some people - guys and girls - like to play that game but some of us are just ourselves and do what we feel like doing regardless of what anyone else thinks.
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No, if anything that increases interests. Guys get excited when she's not only single and available, but indicates interest (and fast replies are considered indications of interest).
Not most guys. If he does it is because he playing games to begin with
Wrong. If a girl doesn't text me back fast enough I just start talking to new ones. I don't have time to wait and play silly games. My time is valuable. She doesn't have to be fast but she has to be reasonably timely.
I went on a date the other day. We had sex. She has been texting me saying she wants to hang out again but only texts me like 1 to 2x a day. So even though I'd be happy to have been dating her, I met, talked to, and went on a date with a whole other girl now. So it's the first girls loss. I'm too attractive to wait around. Maybe for an ugly man with no other options this game might work but certainly not for a man women actually go for.
no. you are making delusions that do not exists. men who are attracted you dont want any games. We love women who are committed unless you started to date them and they change their mind about you. it could be that you might have a terrible personality
I don't chase, you don't express similar interest, I find someone else who will. Some guys do, but unless you know they guy you like does, don't try to make him chase, he probably won't. When guys are single they aren't after a certian person, they might prefer a certian person, but they're looking around at multiple people, until they get that person. So if he may not like the chase, show interest.
A lot of guys like it when you reply fast. The ones who don’t like it are usually really jaded from having too many girls chase after them so you don’t really want them anyway.
No. Especially if you show interest it’s a plus. It could be a problem if someone replies too fast and says stuff they probably shouldn’t have said if they took time to think. That could be a problem
No, I don't lose interest. If there's a guy that does, that's absurd. You should be transparent with each other and there shouldn't be games. Just reply when appropriate and convenient, not delaying to meet some sort of perceived wait time.
It is the opposite. People that intentionally take longer to reply each time are seen as immature and playing games so I end up ignoring/losing interest in them.
Nope.
For me it would be just the opposite, she likes me, woot woot.
Otherwise I haven't heard back from her, so I'll just move on.
I'm an adult sort of so I don't play those games.
I know many others do.
Not interest but sometimes i am like doing other things and if you reply quickly (like right away) i feel i have to reply back straight away when i might need a few minutes!
No, to me it means somebody gives a shit. Just relax, be yourself, don't play games or let people play games with you and don't worry about it.
Girls are always so worried about appearing desperate, but have no clue
what guys consider truly desperate.
Like not even close.
Not me. It shows interest and gives me a good vibe that she's probably loyal. Responding to texts in a timely manner is being considerate too. I also respond quickly or within 3 hours at most, if not sleeping.
No, women who reply fast just seem more interested, there isn't a negative to that in my opinion. Taking forever to reply is a sign of disinterest though.
My level of interest depends on hers.
If the girl reply fast it's more interesting, but I might get tired of quick messages at some point.
It's true for some guys, and not true for others. That stuff doesn't apply to me, and in fact, it might even work the other way and make me feel like her interest in me isn't all that important to her, which is a major turn off.
Some might feel stressed and that the person is too intense. But I can be very intense at times and reply very quickly and talk too much, so if I vibe with someone I definitely appreciate it.
Don't be immature, reply when you can, if its right then its right away. Playing a waiting game of texts is a frivolous game to play.
I've never thought that. Nor does it bother me if she takes a day to respond. People put far too much importance on timing of texts. Some people are busier than others. Some people are more attentive then others. You do you.
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