Do guys lose interest when you reply fast?

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I’ve always been told that you shouldn’t reply fast and be too eager cause otherwise he’ll think you’re easy and lose interest cause guys want to chase. Is that true? Because I’m a pretty fast replier and it stresses me out thinking I’m replying too fast and he’s gonna lose interest.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

I guess it could be overwhelming for some.

Guys are mostly “do-ers” than talkers, so naturally women seem to talk a lot more than men. To be fair, women can concentrate their speech energy to quality topics and innovation.

For this post though- I do think men get a “little ticked” when a girl they like talks a whole bunch. Not even a lot of men are readers lol they skip some instructions in the manuals and skim things. They’d appreciate a straight forward gal who would only be saying yes or no to dating and hooking up/ making love, or hanging out at seemingly fun places, like stadium games, etc.

For a girl who replies fast, some guys can think “does she not have other better things to do? Why all this time on her hands?”

It can be a thought that is self sabotaging to the relationship (but still a good reminder for the girl to focus on herself too), So maybe cut any unnecessary points in conversations. Stick to the bullet points. Try to hold off from becoming digital pen pals with the guy- they’re not always interested in that 😂.

Some may initially be critical, curious, or bothered, but the real ones won’t mind, as much. Nor the guys who indulge in talking.. that probably means you’d both be fighting to speak, though.

😂 So take this opinion with a grain of salt. Use what you can, and best of all to you in that relationship of yours. 🤝💕

weysally · Accepted Answer

writing on here or anywhere else, it doesn't mean that you want to be with them, maybe you found what they wrote interesting, just be careful, girls around your age can be misled into things,

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No one wants to be on their phone all day. Having full length text conversations is the most annoying thing in the world to me. I'll purposely wait to text someone back if they do that. People have lives outside of their phones. You'll notice this more as you get older too, since you're just reaching the age now where people are going to get jobs and be thinking about college. It's boring as fuck and too time consuming to be texting all day. Plus, as you've highlighted with this post, if you allow that pattern to become the norm eventually someone is going to get their feelings hurt when the frequency of messages changes.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Some people - guys and girls - like to play that game but some of us are just ourselves and do what we feel like doing regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Avicenna · Answer

No, if anything that increases interests. Guys get excited when she's not only single and available, but indicates interest (and fast replies are considered indications of interest).

Guy13 · Answer

Not most guys. If he does it is because he playing games to begin with

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Wrong. If a girl doesn't text me back fast enough I just start talking to new ones. I don't have time to wait and play silly games. My time is valuable. She doesn't have to be fast but she has to be reasonably timely.

I went on a date the other day. We had sex. She has been texting me saying she wants to hang out again but only texts me like 1 to 2x a day. So even though I'd be happy to have been dating her, I met, talked to, and went on a date with a whole other girl now. So it's the first girls loss. I'm too attractive to wait around. Maybe for an ugly man with no other options this game might work but certainly not for a man women actually go for.

chicosuave · Answer

no. you are making delusions that do not exists. men who are attracted you dont want any games. We love women who are committed unless you started to date them and they change their mind about you. it could be that you might have a terrible personality

Twalli · Answer

I don't chase, you don't express similar interest, I find someone else who will. Some guys do, but unless you know they guy you like does, don't try to make him chase, he probably won't. When guys are single they aren't after a certian person, they might prefer a certian person, but they're looking around at multiple people, until they get that person. So if he may not like the chase, show interest.

WhitneySnow · Answer

A lot of guys like it when you reply fast. The ones who don’t like it are usually really jaded from having too many girls chase after them so you don’t really want them anyway.

Summeroflove · Answer

No. Especially if you show interest it’s a plus. It could be a problem if someone replies too fast and says stuff they probably shouldn’t have said if they took time to think. That could be a problem

SnowedIn · Answer

No, I don't lose interest. If there's a guy that does, that's absurd. You should be transparent with each other and there shouldn't be games. Just reply when appropriate and convenient, not delaying to meet some sort of perceived wait time.

HighValue · Answer

It is the opposite. People that intentionally take longer to reply each time are seen as immature and playing games so I end up ignoring/losing interest in them.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, women who reply fast just seem more interested, there isn't a negative to that in my opinion. Taking forever to reply is a sign of disinterest though.  My level of interest depends on hers.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Nope.
For me it would be just the opposite, she likes me, woot woot.
Otherwise I haven't heard back from her, so I'll just move on.
I'm an adult sort of so I don't play those games.
I know many others do.

MrHopper · Answer

Not interest but sometimes i am like doing other things and if you reply quickly (like right away) i feel i have to reply back straight away when i might need a few minutes!

Staximus · Answer

No, to me it means somebody gives a shit. Just relax, be yourself, don't play games or let people play games with you and don't worry about it.

spartan55 · Answer

Girls are always so worried about appearing desperate, but have no clue  what guys consider truly desperate. Like not even close.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Not me. It shows interest and gives me a good vibe that she's probably loyal. Responding to texts in a timely manner is being considerate too. I also respond quickly or within 3 hours at most, if not sleeping.

Berethor · Answer

If the girl reply fast it's more interesting, but I might get tired of quick messages at some point.

crmoore · Answer

It's true for some guys, and not true for others. That stuff doesn't apply to me, and in fact, it might even work the other way and make me feel like her interest in me isn't all that important to her, which is a major turn off.

UnknownSwede · Answer

Some might feel stressed and that the person is too intense. But I can be very intense at times and reply very quickly and talk too much, so if I vibe with someone I definitely appreciate it.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, but I do. I don't want to feel pressured into messaging every 5 seconds.

SiberFox · Answer

Don't be immature, reply when you can, if its right then its right away. Playing a waiting game of texts is a frivolous game to play.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never thought that. Nor does it bother me if she takes a day to respond. People put far too much importance on timing of texts. Some people are busier than others. Some people are more attentive then others. You do you.

MiseriaCantareAFI · Answer

I reply when i can. I don't understand the women who say "why can't you reply right away" That's why texts are so convenient. I reply WHEN I CAN

Anonymous · Answer

I never have, in fact, that makes me feel more interested.

TroyDT2 · Answer

No. If she plays games by leaving me on read for five or six hours I lose interest.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Yes and no. It depends on several factors.

Nazgol · Answer

I know what you mean, I'd hate it too! Ugh and yes it can get stressing and make u anxious all the time

Iron_Man · Answer

No I don’t that’s psychological head games I don’t like those games

LordOfThePines · Answer

No, I appreciate fast replies but I do not require them.

TheMoralCrusader · Answer

Na replying fast is a good thing. Trust me.

Vikkrram · Answer

Not... always like that...

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Nah. You gotta find the balance though.

Debbie14217 · Answer

no they love it

Khaled27 · Answer

No. It's actually the opposite for me

yuviii2012 · Answer

No but its the otherwise.. if u are slow.

Introspective_ · Answer

No. Not at all.

Chthou95 · Answer

No most men dont. We're not women.

urpapi69 · Answer

I love it when girls reply fast

ThatSwede · Answer

The opposite in fact

Blackcupcake · Answer

that’s none sense

JohnK123 · Answer

Not at all

Calenderagressive · Answer

Nah not really

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