Should I worry that my girlfriend and I never argue?

[Twalli]

My girlfriend and I never fight and never argue. So many people say they have a great relationship, and obviosly they fight and argue. We don't, we haven't in 4 years. She's gotten mad, I've gotten mad. We've never gotten mad at the same time. Because of this we've never actually had a disagreement, because one person is completley calm. Is this a good or bad thing?

[NathanDavis]

not really no... in my very first and my very las relationships, I had the similar experience, we just never had reasons to argue either, and it is exactly like you said, either I was upset and they were upset, but it was about other things and not ourselves... and yes this lasted for years as well

the other two girlfriends, we argue a bit here and there, usually on the first months... but that was just a little adjustment here and there, and we never really argued again over the same things so, things really went way smoother as he years went by

when there were disagreements or things to sort it out we would just discuss things and go towards resolution... instead of fighting and causing disagreement

and maybe it's a matter of time anyway... maybe in the future, the two of you will have more things coming or needing commitment and then then you might see things differently, so again... if you discuss things and solve them with compromise you might avoid disagreement

[OlderAndWiser]

The only way you avoid conflict in relationships is if one person caves in and gives the other everything. That can cause resentment which builds up until it explodes. But maybe that won't happen in your case.

[Twalli]

Funnily enough if we were in a relationship where one person was dominant, we'd both be the submissive one.

[LazerBean]

Both people being mad isn't what makes a disagreement, two people not agreeing on something is what makes a disagreement. I would think not fighting in the first ten years is pretty common though. I've been with my husband for 4 years and we've yet to have any fights or anything even close. There's just no reason to. I dont know why that would be a red flag though. An easy life with a compatible spouse is the goal.

[Twalli]

It seems that all couples do. I just find it odd that we don't.

[Bethany22]

It's a good thing. Maybe you're worried that there isn't enough chemistry going on that usually causes people to slip up and say embarrassing things that they later regret. Could be worse.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Arguments are present when there's a problem. Those people you got that info from are complete idiots. Arguements are draining of energy, emotions, and time. Your girlfriend sounds mature and you need to take note of that.
If you have to argue inorder to know your relationship is secure, you're not right in the head. You have disagreements and discuss them, not argue over them, because the emotions are too riled up and logic will not work there.

[slatyb]

Sounds healthy to me. I don't fight with my wife either. I know that she is always doing her best for me.

[devilish-cutie]

It's a good thing. dont look for trouble wehere there is none

[poneglyphs]

Doesn't seem like a bad thing? 🤔 why fix it?

[Twalli]

I don't want to, but it seems that everyone in relationships fight.

[TheSpaceGnome]

This is good, compatible couples agree on just about everything.

[Friendlybro79]

If your first argument is about not arguing that would be hilarious.

[Nazgol]

Could be. Could be that one or both are holding it in too much

[Surely]

Good thing! Enjoy it!

[Cheerfull009]

Wonderful relationship, keep it up