Should I get my hopes up or try to get over him?

[Anonymous]

Okay so there is this guy I work with. He has a fiancee but he always complains about how she doesn’t feed the kids, she doesn’t clean, we both get off at 7am and when he goes home there are dishes in the sink. Things of this nature, he complains all the time about. He says me and him will never be more than friends but here are some of the things that make me think differently. He has bought me my favorite smoothie multiple times, he likes when I cook/buy him dinner he likes when I make brownies ☺️, he wants me to go on drives with him instead of his fiancée, he’s always wanting me to come over, he has shared way more than to me than to his fiancée about his life before I met him. He details my car, he has a cute nickname for me, he always knows how to cheer me up when I’m down. He has told another co worker that he is thinking of leaving his fiancée in the new year but I’m like that doesn’t necessarily mean that him and I will end up together. But doesn’t it though? Like am I interpreting things entirely wrong? Someone please help me out I really like him but I need to know if I should wait it out or just get over him.

[SnowedIn]

Please do not get your hopes up. He has a fiancee -- that's a field of red flags. Then, he complains about her and what she does or doesn't do -- he'd do the same about you. Finally: huge issue: he's at work. You may be crushing, and that's legit, but please move on.

[Guy13]

Move on. Fiancé is a good sign to move along.

[xjustsomegirlx]

Oh sweetheart. So much to learn about love in this hard world. Have you ever thought that it is possible that he is complaining just to vent. All men do it, even my long time husband. That I would say it's not a sign that he has intent to make a love interest in you. As far as her not cleaning, well does she hold down a job? Is his expectations that she be a partner with the bills and maid? I need more context there.

So he has verbally expressed to you that you guys will always be friends, and yet you still assume that there is a chance? Sweetheart that kind of sounds obsessive. No matter what signs you might think are there, his verbal answer is the real answer.

Coworkers have bought me drinks and lunch. A couple have even bought me flowers but that doesn't make me feel as though they want a relationship. I feel on this aspect it seems reaching. How often do you cook or buy food? I wonder what it means by drives? Parking to hook up? I ask cause that is a thing guys do sadly.

From what I am reading you want this man but he is in another relationship. I would assume that of this man was going to leave his woman he would have. I do know that this day and age a lot of folks love to stir up drama and that could be what the other coworkers that told you that he was leave his girl are trying to do. I feel you should move on, if not that will put you out there as a homewrecker. Because that would be by definition an action of a homewrecker.

[givenenough21]

he has a fiancee run!!!